Re: The Final One (F1) - Bachelorette 9 - Spoilers - Thread #4

[LLiza]

I may have missed a post or a few because I just don't recall seeing anyone call him a hero.  

Canyonvue did.

She was being sarcastic.

The thing is, it really didn't come off that way at all.

I must admit that I read no sarcasm at all into the "hero" comment. Perhaps we do need a sarcasm smilie, but after making only glowing, dreamy, overly-supportive comments about Brooks (many to the detriment of the other men), there is no reason for us to have read anything but truthful feelings to the hero statement. My post was honest -- and I reacted and wrote soon after I read an awesome post by Kasha...and then saw the "hero" comment. I could hardly contain myself!!

[nannymargie]

We can go back and forth on who we think is better for Des.  Just because we talk in favor of our favorite one does not mean that we are putting the other 2 down.  She has 3 great guys to choose from and are there for the right reasons.  But in the end Des will follow her heart which is what any of us would do.

I personally like her and Brooks together but if she chooses Drew or Chris I am still good with that even though they were not my favorite.  As long as she is happy and they have a chance of making it in the outside world all is good.

[CHO]

My concern is that Des has apparently been thinking fairly independently for some years - and Brooks is still seemingly very dependent on his family's thoughts on "what is being in love like" and "how do I know?" I can see that as differences that might cause problems later on - how much is the family involved ?

[Cecilia]

It's getting really tiring on here.

[Iluvbachette]

Finding new friends in a new city is not hard at all. Bachelornation is every where and in every state. Don't forget Seattle has many including Jason, Molly, and Catherine. Friendship isn't going to be a problem for anyone who choses to relocate themselves.

[Kashathediva]

My concern is that Des has apparently been thinking fairly independently for some years - and Brooks is still seemingly very dependent on his family's thoughts on "what is being in love like" and "how do I know?"  I can see that as differences that might cause problems later on - how much is the family involved ?

Very good thought provoking question and one many have posed themselves after seeing some of Brooks' own personal history(not that there is anything wrong with it). He tends to take things at a much slower pace--he finally finished college a year ago with a general degree, but he did graduate. Good for him! He has had many different jobs with inability to establish a longstanding successful history. (again nothing wrong with this, he is finding himself) It is questionable whether or not he has actually lived independently on his own. So you do have to wonder whether he is at the same maturation as someone who has been on their own since 18. I even wonder if Des is aware of any of this.
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[Aunties_Love]

I may have missed a post or a few because I just don't recall seeing anyone call him a hero.  

Canyonvue did.

She was being sarcastic.

The thing is, it really didn't come off that way at all.

I must admit that I read no sarcasm at all into the "hero" comment.  Perhaps we do need a sarcasm smilie, but after making only glowing, dreamy, overly-supportive comments about Brooks (many to the detriment of the other men), there is no reason for us to have read anything but truthful feelings to the hero statement.  My post was honest -- and I reacted and wrote soon after I read an awesome post by Kasha...and then saw the "hero" comment.  I could hardly contain myself!!

Exactly. I didn't read any sarcasm in that hero post neither. Especially when the other comments towards the other guys weren't very good, how are you suppose to get sarcasm from that.

[Aunties_Love]

We can go back and forth on who we think is better for Des.  Just because we talk in favor of our favorite one does not mean that we are putting the other 2 down.  She has 3 great guys to choose from and are there for the right reasons.  But in the end Des will follow her heart which is what any of us would do.

I personally like her and Brooks together but if she chooses Drew or Chris I am still good with that even though they were not my favorite.  As long as she is happy and they have a chance of making it in the outside world all is good.

nanny, I would like to say to you and a few other Brooks supporters; It isn't you that we are talking about. It is one particular Brooks fan that seems to put the other guys down in it's overly supportive comments towards Brooks. I do understand that there are some Brooks supporters on here that haven't talked bad about the other guys or havent gone to extremes in their Brooks love. Please accept my appology if I have included you in on that by mistake. Thanks.

[Ariela]

My concern is that Des has apparently been thinking fairly independently for some years - and Brooks is still seemingly very dependent on his family's thoughts on "what is being in love like" and "how do I know?"  I can see that as differences that might cause problems later on - how much is the family involved ?

Good point.
I see too much family convincing one way or another as a BAD thing. Will Des have to compete with the family in the future? All these are valid concerns. It's nice to have family support in life, but when you're not sure that your FEELING love?
Brooks is analytical, or so I read on these threads...

Analysis=paralysis.

I'm a no-nonsense type of a person, so someone who has to spend a lot of time on 'feelings', to me, means that they are a person with "potential" but not in it, living it. Either you feel it or you don't. Nobody, including your family knows what YOU feel inside.
I mentioned in my past posts that I saw Jef doing that with Em. I called it potential or philosophical love, rather than feeling it.

There is a spin on the f1 story that Brooks leaves because he's not happy when he's without her, but he's happy when he's with her. Whattt?

[Aunties_Love]

My concern is that Des has apparently been thinking fairly independently for some years - and Brooks is still seemingly very dependent on his family's thoughts on "what is being in love like" and "how do I know?"  I can see that as differences that might cause problems later on - how much is the family involved ?

Very good thought provoking question and one many have posed themselves after seeing some of Brooks' own personal history(not that there is anything wrong with it). He tends to take things at a much slower pace--he finally finished college a year ago with a general degree, but he did graduate. Good for him! He has had many different jobs with inability to establish a longstanding successful history. (again nothing wrong with this, he is finding himself) It is questionable whether or not he has actually lived independently on his own. So you do have to wonder whether he is at the same maturation as someone who has been on their own since 18. I even wonder if Des is aware of any of this.
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Could this be a part of what Chris Harrison and crew know? That Brooks isn't there with the maturation in life or with Des, especially considering she's been on her own since 18. Maybe she needs in someone what she has in that department so that they can grow together from now on versus someone that hasn't even reached her plateau in their own life before they can share it with someone else. IMO, both Chris and Drew have shown that they have done a lot in life, are established and MAYBE, she realizes that what she wants is Brooks, but what she needs is either Drew or Chris. This would go back to the line that she said in the beginning of the show that what she wants isn't necessarily what she needs and this is the time that she's maybe figuring that out. Just some more food for thought..

[Shadow]

My concern is that Des has apparently been thinking fairly independently for some years - and Brooks is still seemingly very dependent on his family's thoughts on "what is being in love like" and "how do I know?"  I can see that as differences that might cause problems later on - how much is the family involved ?

From what was shown on the HTDs all four families are very involved in their sons lives. Because of Des indpendence, it is going to be different no matter who she choose. I don't think she would have a problem with any of the families being supportive and encouraging. We really don't know what the conversation between Brooks' Mom and sister entailed. And what's wrong with talking to your mom and sister about your feelings, that's what family is for. Why do all the guys want their mothers' blessing if it is not important to them. Just because Brooks is unsure of the depth of his feelings does not mean he is not sincere in them. And just maybe Moms wisdom and sister 's experience can open a door or shed a light that will help him make the right decision not just for him, but, for Des also. JMO

[bilolo]

My concern is that Des has apparently been thinking fairly independently for some years - and Brooks is still seemingly very dependent on his family's thoughts on "what is being in love like" and "how do I know?"  I can see that as differences that might cause problems later on - how much is the family involved ?

From what was shown on the HTDs all four families are very involved in their sons lives. Because of Des indpendence, it is going to be different no matter who she choose.  I don't think she would have a problem with any of the families being supportive and encouraging.  We really don't know what the conversation between Brooks' Mom and sister entailed. And what's wrong with talking to your mom and sister about your feelings, that's what family is for.  Why do all the guys want their mothers' blessing if it is not important to them.  Just because Brooks is unsure of the depth of his feelings does not mean he is not sincere in them.  And just maybe Moms wisdom and sister 's experience can open a door or shed a light that will help him make the right decision not just for him, but, for Des also. JMO

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