Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #5

bleuberry wrote:^ can someone bring that over .

I believe it was with ET with Lauren Zima. It was the live Facebook stream that she later shared to the ET Facebook page. It had interviews with a lot of the other contestants too. It was shared here in the previous thread and I remember a bunch of us thought it seemed like they looked a little off. I actually thought Ben looked tipsy/buzzed too, which was pretty funny

Why couldn't THAT have been filmed for HEA? Lauren explaining to Ben that they needed a grown up bed .

Cila51290 wrote:From Ben on twitter
It's @LaurenBushnell3 birthday today! Happy birthday!


https://twitter.com/benhiggi/status/827161123279486976

Lauren replied with ILY

I have no idea what Ben and Lauren' s relationship status is but I have to comment re social media..all my very own personal opinion. I never wish my husband or children happy b-day on social media. I also very seldom post pics of all our awesome outings! According to social media perceptions I guess this might mean I dissed them or we're not close? Quite the opposite. I think it's ridiculous to post a greeting online for someone dear to read or see... I probably just got off the phone with them and/ or just had something delivered. Maybe Ben and Lauren have been texting all day? Anyway...something to think about. Social media is nutty:yes:  :shootme:

All I can think of is actions are more important than words-- their actions mean more than what they say about/to each other on social media. I mean you can only go on so many "girls trips". All jmo.

I guess I'm at the point of just assuming they are together until it's made official by them. For me there wasn't anything that was being mentioned that were red flags to me, but for her not wearing her ring. But, I didn't watch their season or their Freeform show.

treatmom4 wrote:

Cila51290 wrote:From Ben on twitter
It's @LaurenBushnell3 birthday today! Happy birthday!


https://twitter.com/benhiggi/status/827161123279486976

Lauren replied with ILY

I have no idea what Ben and Lauren' s relationship status is but I have to comment re social media..all my very own personal opinion. I never wish my husband or children happy b-day on social media. I also very seldom post pics of all our awesome outings! According to social media perceptions I guess this might mean I dissed them or we're not close? Quite the opposite. I think it's ridiculous to post a greeting online for someone dear to read or see... I probably just got off the phone with them and/ or just had something delivered. Maybe Ben and Lauren have been texting all day? Anyway...something to think about. Social media is nutty:yes:  :shootme:

Exactly. They've probably already talked, facetmed, skyped, whatever. We don't know. We aren't them. As far as Lauren vacationing a lot as of lately, didn't Ben just start going back to work? Who says he can take so much time off.

Eagle Eye wrote:

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:

umngirl wrote:Serious question: who gets custody of all the comped furniture from their home makeover?

I would think Lauren. She's the one that picked it all out. I'm sure Ben misses his "rustic" look, I doubt he'd want to keep all that girly chit IMO.

He'll probably go dig up his crappy old headboard-slash-garage door from the landfill, strip off all the nice white paint and then everything will be right again in his world.

Actually, now that I think about it, that may have been the beginning of the end. Lauren wanted a real bed, not an old garage door, and he couldn't handle getting rid of that link to his childhood when life was good and he was the centre of the universe. Adulting is hard, you guys.

Imo this whole relationship and making compromises has been like pulling teeth for Ben. It's been wonderful when Lauren's been doing the giving and moving and doing, but the moment he's had to give up anything has been a time he's been needing someone to talk him down. Remember the pictures of them arguing at home depot?! According to him over paint colours. I mean Lauren packed her whole life up, had to leave her job etc, but Ben had a fit over painting his house in colours Lauren liked. This is how IMO how it happened. IMO Ben had a few too many tantrums, and Lauren was over it.

If things are so not great between them however, I am totally surprised real stuff is not leaking. I know seasons ago I got upfront stuff regarding a couple being on the outs months before the official break. They were out a lot publicly and I got stuff from people here and there.
Is anyone hearing/seeing anything like this? I mean you would think someone normal person at an event would notice something, get a photo op etc with them being so public.
The SM stuff imo is Pfftt. We don't express on SM either. I don't wear my good jewelry out of the country or on a cruise anymore.

So... I'm probably one of the biggest BenLo apologists there are. I can be self aware and own that.  But, time to face reality, folks. Yes, social media isn't everything. I hardly EVER post about my husband, but we are doing great. It's different for these Bach couples though. They've got a brand to shill, a reputation to live up to and BenLo don't seem to care much about that right now. 

And even if they don't post their every move on SM (which they don't, and never have), and even if they aren't OTT in adoration over each other on SM (which again, they never have been), actions speak louder than words. They have spent very little time together since Christmas. In fact, looking back, the last real quality time they spent together when SM activity appeared relatively normal was their trip to Turkes and Caicos. I speculate that was their last ditch effort to get back in track. Ever since then, social media has been off. Even when they were in Honduras, the social media game really started to die on Lauren's side. She basically stopped talking about Ben on social media right after their vacation. And since then, the time they spend together is less, and less, and less, and less. And even more telling, when they are together it appears they always have Lauren's friends with them. Almost like they are being a buffer. Protecting her. 

I'm just operating under the assumption they are already broken up. If not officially, then it's just a MOT.

elena.shayk wrote:

aviej wrote:I can't wait for their lovy dovy Valentine's tweets!

It's Valentines today! Happy Valentines day Lauren!
Response: ILY

Gosh I hope the show does not wait until Nick's ATFR and the new 'Ette announcement. Talk about torture.

Kashathediva wrote:If things are so not great between them however, I am totally surprised real stuff is not leaking. I know seasons ago I got upfront stuff regarding a couple being on the outs months before the official break. They were out a lot publicly and I got stuff from people here and there.
Is anyone hearing/seeing anything like this?  I mean you would think someone normal person at an event would notice something, get a photo op etc with them being so public.
The SM stuff imo is Pfftt. We don't express on SM either. I don't wear my good jewelry out of the country or on a cruise anymore.

Ppl that were at the Bach premiere event said Lauren and Ben pretty much ignored each other, only took photos, and would then seperate (saw the comments on IG/twitter.) Its difficult for ppl to report any weird interactions they've seen, as Ben and Lauren haven't been together to interact. (I only truly started to see worrisome behavior in the last month/month and a half anyway.)