Re: Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion

by sosleepy Thu Mar 31, 2016 10:38 pm

allykat wrote:I have lots to say about all of this! Sorry this is a little long...

JoJo definitely noticed his connection to Lauren on the show and commented on it more than a few times, starting in Mexico City. So it wasn't just post-show. That said, if I was JoJo I would DEFINITELY have been confused at the end. She knows the show and knows he's not supposed to say ILY. This bubble is a mindf*ck and I'm guessing she thought that meant she had overcome his connection with Lauren. In watching it back, she realized what she had seen the whole time was true. JMO.

Regarding the SM, I don't think what they post is any different than what an average non-bachelor couple who just got together post. Again, JMO, but if you are a regular couple on SM and you go to a charity work, you probably post about it. If you go on a date and your boyfriend gets stuck in an elevator, you post about it. And if your fiance looks too cute feeding your god daughter, you post about it. Back to the Bachelor bubble, every single couple (those that make it and those that don't) post some behind the scenes caps post-show. I would probably be more worried and thinking something was up if they weren't posting these kinds of things...that would seem less normal to me.

Ben and Lauren have some really big hurdles to overcome. I think they are doing really well right now, but only time will tell if they can truly let what happened on the show go and can settle into happy life together. It's a big adjustment! They seem to be handling it in a really good way and getting lots of support, but again, only time will tell.

You've been quoted like 15 times, but it deserves another one. I pretty much agree with everything you said, only said much more eloquently than myself. I love this post!

by Tiggerlgh Thu Mar 31, 2016 10:39 pm

^^^are Jef and Amanda dating it was it that one picture a while ago?

by soccermom333 Thu Mar 31, 2016 10:43 pm

^^^ I certainly hope not. JMO

by Tiggerlgh Thu Mar 31, 2016 10:48 pm

soccermom333 wrote:^^^ I certainly hope not. JMO

I agree! That's why I was double checking.

by Mgrissom Thu Mar 31, 2016 10:56 pm

allykat wrote:

Regarding the SM, I don't think what they post is any different than what an average non-bachelor couple who just got together post. Again, JMO, but if you are a regular couple on SM and you go to a charity work, you probably post about it. If you go on a date and your boyfriend gets stuck in an elevator, you post about it. And if your fiance looks too cute feeding your god daughter, you post about it. Back to the Bachelor bubble, every single couple (those that make it and those that don't) post some behind the scenes caps post-show. I would probably be more worried and thinking something was up if they weren't posting these kinds of things...that would seem less normal to me.

Ben and Lauren have some really big hurdles to overcome. I think they are doing really well right now, but only time will tell if they can truly let what happened on the show go and can settle into happy life together. It's a big adjustment! They seem to be handling it in a really good way and getting lots of support, but again, only time will tell.

Two reasons they stand a better than average chance -
1. Commitment - no relationship lasts without the for better or worse mentality
2. Family - I thought it was crazy for them to spend an entire week in Warsaw; however the support they got from both sets of parents who know what it takes to have a successful marriage is a huge plus. I'm glad they are going to Portland next week. You don't really know someone till you've seen them with their family (without cameras ).

Because they are 26-7 they were not into snapchat before this experience. The new will wear off.

by Cocoasneeze Fri Apr 01, 2016 5:04 am

IMO the way BenLo use social media is perfectly fine for a young couole in their 20s. Lauren just found sc, it's a cute little thing they can give a 5 second snippets of their life. And after having to hide for months, I have no issue with the IG posts they post. IMO they haven't changed from what they posted during and before the show. Most pictures in the fan thread are from other people or the promo tour, not from themselves.

As for the instyle or whatever article, I doubt any of it is true. They start these articles and gossip each season.

IMO BenLo are doing exactly what they said they'd do during the media rounds. They're getting Lauren to Denver and building a life there. They're including each other to their lives and families. Next week they'll visit Portland and then move Lauren's stuff to Denver. I think in May they'll go back to work. IMO none of this is in any way seeking fame.

by Idlemess Fri Apr 01, 2016 7:38 am

Ben has been promoting charity and I think he's a wonderful ambassador. It's great for those causes that he's now a public figure to get the word out. So far I've seen nothing to say he or Lauren are looking for fame.
There's nothing wrong with sharing photos or a brief glimpse of their reality.

by sosleepy Fri Apr 01, 2016 9:15 am

I feel like if fame is truly what they wanted, the much more logical and natural choice would have been for Ben to move out to LA and join Lauren there, rather than reverse.

I don't know, I mean watch the feet and it's early days, but IMO so far they are doing everything right. I maintain that the more low key couples (Chres/Jash) would have used snapchat had it existed when their seasons aired and shortly after. It's probably just par for the course going forward. They are kinda damned if they do, damned if they don't. If they didn't post anything, people would also wonder. It's just the age we live in.

by Justafan2 Fri Apr 01, 2016 10:49 am

I can see where some people may think their posting on IG and snapchat are trying to keep them in the limelight but I have to disagree. I am 27 so right around the same age as Ben and Lauren. If I compare them to a lot of people I follow on social media and snap, they share far less than the average. I think snapchat is a fun way for fans to see snippets of their every day lives now that they aren't on tv. They aren't sharing anything too personal but still keeping everyone in the loop. I don't see that as chasing fame or possibly hindering their relationship in a negative way at all.

by Idlemess Fri Apr 01, 2016 11:13 am

I am still trying to figure how posting on IG or any other social media is or can possibly hinder a relationship. Granted we got to see this couple meet and now developing a relationship on tv that might differ from the norm. BUT IRL most people their ages are all over social media and I don't see that changing any time soon.

Ben and Lauren have less than 200 post each for now. I can understand the current postings and as a fan I'm enjoying them. It's remarkable how things are viewed... too much, not enough.
Example: Kaitlyn and Shawn, ppl say they do too much. There were some comments that Lacy and Marcus who were posting regularly and now barely are scrutinized

by Alanna Fri Apr 01, 2016 11:16 am

Yeah I really don't get all the pride of not using sm as if it's some sort of banner of honor. You don't like snapchat? Okay. No prob. Don't use it. I see articles all day long how young folks are obsessed with technology and so what? I don't get it. It's young and old people's perogative to do what they please.

I don't see anything weird going on with Benlo. I'm glad they're snapping (well, Lauren, but it's a "them" story laugh out loud

). So far, so good imo. It's still really early for them but I don't see anything disingenuous happening, I think their intentions to be a real relationship/forever couple are there. Now we just need to see how real life goes for them.

by bleuberry Fri Apr 01, 2016 11:36 am

Even these other couples who worked out share a bunch on SM. We get to see Ford grow up pretty much and Des keeps everyone in the loop with her life too. Sure we aren't getting drunken snaps or underwear IGs laugh out loud

, but everyone is using SM.

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