Andi Dorfman & Josh Murray - Bachelorette 10 - General Discussion

Ash2214 wrote:I don't know, I guess for me, none of this show is about actual reality. It's dumb. It puts the lead and the contestants in some really difficult situations, but obviously they sign up for it so it's their problem.

Things happen in the heat of the moment, especially when there's probably alcohol involved, you're physically attracted to someone and there are some sort of feelings involved. Crap happens, but it happened when reality wasn't set in place. I think Lauren Murray said it the best, Andi wasn't Josh's until he put the ring on her finger and that's all he cared about. While the ring signifies an engagement, with this ridiculous show it also basically signifies that they're formally together, which would have been the case in the real world after some casual dating, not dating 24 other men in a 10 week span.

Whether Andi told him in the FS or after the engagement, although from hints dropped it seems in the FS, I don't think it really matters because for them, it appears since the beginning of May when they started living together things have gone nicely.

As for the gross sentiment that every time Josh is with Andi he'll think of Nick, I don't know, I certainly don't think of my current boyfriends ex who he dated shortly before me and we've been together for a year. It actually doesn't cross my mind at all, because everyone has a past - myself included.

It's just a tiresome subject and in the end it really is just it is what it is. Nothing can be changed. It was a change that we actually heard the F2 person say it, but it wasn't a change the lead slept with two people. Weirdly, all that reall matters with these couples is what happens after the show is filmed.. Things seem to be going really well.

Kashathediva wrote:^ Yeah that. I don't think MeandI owes anyone an apology for following through with the premise of the show. It is what it is!

albean99 wrote:I edited the post that was talking about fans in an offensive manner and therefore had to delete the posts that commented on it. It's within the rules to criticize contestants but not fellow members and many members are fans of Andi & Josh.

vivi2 wrote:Andi's season is the wake-up call for the future's.  Only grown people should apply to go on the show. ( and a lot of homework beforehand will help too)

Northstargirl wrote:So, as I am reading and understanding the discussion, it is unacceptable to follow the premise of the show which they ALL signed up for, to use social media where interpretation is open to the perspective, experience and morals of the reader/fan and to move on with life in a loving relationship, but it is perfectly acceptable to assume, judge and condemn them in a public forum?????

Yeah, WOW!!!

Relalou wrote:I've been thinking about JODI - how well they seem to be doing post show and how in-tune and connected they seem to be during interviews (even when the topic gets sticky).  I think that one of the  factors that seems to lead to a successful relationship post show (other than the usual factors of compatibility, stage of life, etc) is the inner confidence level of the partner "competing" for the bach/ette.  Josh is apparently a pretty confident guy (some might say cocky - I don't) and he was able to keep his focus on Andi and their relationship only.  He has expressed this multiple times and is clearly living it out.
Catherine (Sean) while very different, also had a confidence in what she was feeling with Sean and so she didn't dwell on the other girls (during or post show) and wasn't shaken by Ashley's MTA episode.
Chris (Des) had enough quiet confidence in what he felt with Des, that the whole Brooks episode didn't appear to shake him
JP had enough confidence that when Ashley chose to tell him about the Bentley episode he took it in his stride and the Ben claims of what happened in the FS don't seem to have had an impact either.
This confidence, whether in self, or in the relationship seems to be one important key to success.  

Relalou wrote:I've been thinking about JODI - how well they seem to be doing post show and how in-tune and connected they seem to be during interviews (even when the topic gets sticky).  I think that one of the  factors that seems to lead to a successful relationship post show (other than the usual factors of compatibility, stage of life, etc) is the inner confidence level of the partner "competing" for the bach/ette.  Josh is apparently a pretty confident guy (some might say cocky - I don't) and he was able to keep his focus on Andi and their relationship only.  He has expressed this multiple times and is clearly living it out.
Catherine (Sean) while very different, also had a confidence in what she was feeling with Sean and so she didn't dwell on the other girls (during or post show) and wasn't shaken by Ashley's MTA episode.
Chris (Des) had enough quiet confidence in what he felt with Des, that the whole Brooks episode didn't appear to shake him
JP had enough confidence that when Ashley chose to tell him about the Bentley episode he took it in his stride and the Ben claims of what happened in the FS don't seem to have had an impact either.
This confidence, whether in self, or in the relationship seems to be one important key to success.