Re: Chris Bukowski - Bachelorette 8 - Thread #2

[ironcat]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I certainly wasn't trying to imply that Arie is a slacker who plans to live off his father's money. But, much like Emily, he probably grew up in, and is used to living, a certain lifetstyle, and plans to continue as such. And having family money always makes the odds of that happening without roadblocks/complications much more likely. Frankly, I just can't see Emily dating, much less marrying, a young guy who may occasionally struggle to pay his rent and eat ramen noodles for dinner. I doubt that Arie's ever been in that situation, no matter how much money he may have earned in the past.

[Guest]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I felt a little creeped out by the speculation about their finances, until I realized that part of going on a reality dating show is that your "means" to support a family are fair game. About Arie's - he has two companies that he is part of plus his racing, so I don't think he's sitting around mooching off dad. He seems, to me at least, to be as entrepreneurial as Jef, if not more so. And I promise, I really don't have a favorite yet - I need to watch some episodes first. Sean is working for his brother-in-law's company, and Chris has a decent career started. I would bet that Miss Em would not have let a slacker get this far along in the process.

[Guest]

Ironcat, I wrote the above before I saw yours, and agree with you too.

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^^^ Emoticons....way too cute!

[Guest]

^^^ Emoticons....way too cute!

Grahamgal rocked at least part of those!

[sgjsnow]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I am honestly asking but don't want want it to come across the wrong way :hidingchair but doesn't Emily currently live off of the money of the Hendricks and/or her parents? Maybe where the money comes from wouldn't be as much of a concern to her. I am sure that Arie does/can make some of his own money and quite possibly is supplemented by his parents. I would imagine that both Emily (and little Rickie) and Arie would all stand to inherit quite a bit of money at some point down the road.
As far as Chris - who knows what his current or future salary is. I would like to think it wouldn't be the main deciding factor with the guys. Regarding money it seems like it shouldn't be a deal breaker cause money can come and go.
Just thinking out loud - ultimately whatever all their financial situations are their own affair and for them to sort out.

[Guest]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I am honestly asking but don't want want it to come across the wrong way :hidingchair but doesn't Emily currently live off of the money of the Hendricks and/or her parents? Maybe where the money comes from wouldn't be as much of a concern to her. I am sure that Arie does/can make some of his own money and quite possibly is supplemented by his parents. I would imagine that both Emily (and little Rickie) and Arie would all stand to inherit quite a bit of money at some point down the road.
As far as Chris - who knows what his current or future salary is. I would like to think it wouldn't be the main deciding factor with the guys. Regarding money it seems like it shouldn't be a deal breaker cause money can come and go.
Just thinking out loud - ultimately whatever all their financial situations are their own affair and for them to sort out.

Yes, I'm sure she does live off money from either her parents of the Hendricks. The point I was trying to make is that I don't know if Aire himself is more successful than the other F3 guys. As I said, for me personally, I find someone that is willing to live off daddy's money less appealing. Sometimes family money isn't always there and for me I would rather be with someone that is successful on their own first. I'm not saying Aire isn't successful, but I'm just wondering if he is more than the other three guys.

[GrahamGal]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I am honestly asking but don't want want it to come across the wrong way :hidingchair but doesn't Emily currently live off of the money of the Hendricks and/or her parents? Maybe where the money comes from wouldn't be as much of a concern to her. I am sure that Arie does/can make some of his own money and quite possibly is supplemented by his parents. I would imagine that both Emily (and little Rickie) and Arie would all stand to inherit quite a bit of money at some point down the road.
As far as Chris - who knows what his current or future salary is. I would like to think it wouldn't be the main deciding factor with the guys. Regarding money it seems like it shouldn't be a deal breaker cause money can come and go.
Just thinking out loud - ultimately whatever all their financial situations are their own affair and for them to sort out.

Yes, I'm sure she does live off money from either her parents of the Hendricks. The point I was trying to make is that I don't know if Aire himself is more successful than the other F3 guys. As I said, for me personally, I find someone that is willing to live off daddy's money less appealing. Sometimes family money isn't always there and for me I would rather be with someone that is successful on their own first. I'm not saying Aire isn't successful, but I'm just wondering if he is more than the other three guys.

Do we know that he is living off his daddy's money? I think that is very presumptuous. As for him not having the money for a Harley it could be that he has his money tied up in investments or is saving to buy a house. Just because someone can't afford to buy something doesn't mean they are broke. Personally I don't think money will be as big a factor with Emily as some think.

[DMBFan]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I am honestly asking but don't want want it to come across the wrong way :hidingchair but doesn't Emily currently live off of the money of the Hendricks and/or her parents? Maybe where the money comes from wouldn't be as much of a concern to her. I am sure that Arie does/can make some of his own money and quite possibly is supplemented by his parents. I would imagine that both Emily (and little Rickie) and Arie would all stand to inherit quite a bit of money at some point down the road.
As far as Chris - who knows what his current or future salary is. I would like to think it wouldn't be the main deciding factor with the guys. Regarding money it seems like it shouldn't be a deal breaker cause money can come and go.
Just thinking out loud - ultimately whatever all their financial situations are their own affair and for them to sort out.

Yes, I'm sure she does live off money from either her parents of the Hendricks. The point I was trying to make is that I don't know if Aire himself is more successful than the other F3 guys. As I said, for me personally, I find someone that is willing to live off daddy's money less appealing. Sometimes family money isn't always there and for me I would rather be with someone that is successful on their own first. I'm not saying Aire isn't successful, but I'm just wondering if he is more than the other three guys.

At this point, no probably not. He just started a new business venture a year ago and I would imagine, as with any new start-up, its a cash drain. I think long-term earning potential is huge for him though, but it could be the same with any of the other F3 as we never know what they may end up doing.

[Jeepers]

While Arie's dad has had financial success, I haven't seen a thing that tells me that Arie is financially stable by any means on his own.

Maybe not, but by all accounts, he is very close, and on good terms, with his parents. Should he ever really need money, I'm sure his father would be there with an open wallet. And when he gets married, I'm sure he and his bride will get a nice big wedding present. Let's be honest, the woman who marries Arie isn't going to have to worry about whether they can make their mortgage payment, or afford to send their kids to private school.

I guess that's what it is right there that bothers me about Aire. Whether his father does or not or will, who knows. His father has been successful but has he? The perception of him just living off daddy's money makes him less appealing to me

I felt a little creeped out by the speculation about their finances, until I realized that part of going on a reality dating show is that your "means" to support a family are fair game. About Arie's - he has two companies that he is part of plus his racing, so I don't think he's sitting around mooching off dad. He seems, to me at least, to be as entrepreneurial as Jef, if not more so. And I promise, I really don't have a favorite yet - I need to watch some episodes first. Sean is working for his brother-in-law's company, and Chris has a decent career started. I would bet that Miss Em would not have let a slacker get this far along in the process.

I disagree .. Ones financial status or potential is ones own business .. except for the person themselves .. IMHO .. It is crossing the line of privacy .. Assume all you want .. But to me the discussion just goes a bit too far

[eightfifteen]

I also think it sounds like Chris is a go getter and has great earning potential, but at 25, with only a few years of experience, I doubt he is making close to six figures yet. And we don't know whether he comes from an affluent family background (like Arie does) or not. And even though it's not his money directly, it DOES make a difference, in terms of what kind of lifestyle a young man may be able to provide for a (non-working) wife in both the short term, and probably the longterm as well, far as inheriting wealth. I agree that it would be nice (and idealistic) if Emily doesn't choose based on the guy's financial situation, but on the other hand, we don't know what her financial arrangement is with the Hendricks, who are currently supporting not only her daughter (and I assume will continue to do so), but her as well, in the event that she gets married. I imagine the whole thing is a bit complicated, but I can't blame her for taking into consideration whether marriage is going to end up lowering her standard of living considerably. I certainly would if I were her. :hidingchair

Just curious...how would any of these guys bring down her standard of living? She's living this way without a man in her life, so I would think it would only improve it. I don't know how much $$ she has, but when she's throwing down thousands for a purse, she's got it good and doesn't need to worry. I guess the assumption is the Hendricks will stop supporting Emily & Ricki when Emily gets married and they will just be living off the man's salary?

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Let's face it...whoever ends up as F1, post-show courting/wooing is just that! There is 'no' definitive marriage in the foreseeable future and Emily and the F1 know that, regardless of the knee-bending proposal. Plenty of time to assess compatibilty, whether intellectually, emotionally or financially.

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