Re: Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

by elena.shayk Tue Feb 21, 2017 8:49 am

Cocoasneeze wrote:
Sprite wrote:
Cocoasneeze wrote:I still don't get whst he expected her to say. 'Your 3 sentences were brilliantly though out, witty and wonderful!'

IMO it really says nothing about their priorities, that Ben went to a prescheduled charity trip, and while Lauren didn't join him, she hung out with friends and went out. IMO charity work is not a competition, and everyone does what they can, when they can. I love Ben for his charity work, but IMO it doesn't make him better than. IMO that attitude puts pressure on charity work, and that's not ideal. JMO

The problem isn't that he was on a charity trip and she stayed home....or that she hung out with friends. The problem was her behaviour while hanging out with those friends and the fact that said behaviour seems to becoming a pattern of late. That along with the fact that they haven't been together much lately and when they are together, generally both seem miserable, is a cause for questioning the state of their relationship, which many seem to be doing.

If she wasn't in a relationship, it would be not be an issue.

What is her questionable behaviour? She had a few drinks with friends out in a club or a bar. Giggled and had a silly fun night. That's it. When he hangs out with friends for drinks, no one says hus behaviour is questionable. IMO

Maybe because we haven't seen anything like that from him? Lauren and her Bach BFFS go out and put a full documentary of it on SC, which starts raising questions. Obviously we don't know if everything we see is 100% true but again no one is forcing you to put it out there. They can have a private party or whatever.. but NADA! JMO

by Mommyof2 Tue Feb 21, 2017 8:50 am

Different lifestyles. I hope they pull the plug soon. I feel sorry for their fans though.

https://www.instagram.com/p/BQtGqo8jeyO/?taken-by=higgins.ben&hl=en

https://www.instagram.com/p/BQq523_F_ti/

by Alanna Tue Feb 21, 2017 8:54 am

Mommyof2 wrote:I'm certain that my DH would not want me out partying with other men, let alone sharing the same straw. I'm not faulting anyone here, but this shows me that Ben and Lauren are having problems.

That's because you're like actually married and in a real relationship, I assume laugh out loud

, whereas these two are in a fake relationship with their fake show and fake engagement IMO. Apples and kumquats IMO.

by Cocoasneeze Tue Feb 21, 2017 8:55 am

I'm sorry, I still don't get what Lauren did was bad. She sat at a table with a group of friends, women and men, and giggled. That's it. Ben has done exactly the same, went out with friends, men and women, and had fun. Lauren did IMO absolutely nothing wrong or questionable. Is it the fact that her and the other people posted about it on sm? How is that even questionable? I'm lost here, tbh. JMO.

And I'm married, been for years, and very happily.

by Mommyof2 Tue Feb 21, 2017 8:58 am

Alanna wrote:
Mommyof2 wrote:I'm certain that my DH would not want me out partying with other men, let alone sharing the same straw. I'm not faulting anyone here, but this shows me that Ben and Lauren are having problems.
That's because you're like actually married and in a real relationship, I assume , whereas these two are in a fake relationship with their fake show and fake engagement IMO. Apples and kumquats IMO.

Honestly, I think in the beginning they were trying to make it work, but now they are just faking it.

by Alanna Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:00 am

Cocoasneeze wrote:I'm sorry, I still don't get what Lauren did was bad. She sat at a table with a group of friends, women and men, and giggled. That's it. Ben has done exactly the same, went out with friends, men and women, and had fun. Lauren did IMO absolutely nothing wrong or questionable. Is it the fact that her and the other people posted about it on sm? How is that even questionable? I'm lost here, tbh. JMO.

And I'm married, been for years, and very happily.

IMO, when one partner is off on a mission trip and the other one stays in LA to drive a Jag and party with single people, it just says a lot more than whether or not she giggled or what have you. This is not normal behavior in a relationship IMO. But then again I don't understand spending Christmas and birthdays apart and only seeing each other when it's time to film a show. They're coworkers and nothing more IMO and it's fine, but I'm calling what I see as a spade, a spade. All IMO.

by Mommyof2 Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:05 am

Cocoasneeze wrote:I'm sorry, I still don't get what Lauren did was bad. She sat at a table with a group of friends, women and men, and giggled. That's it. Ben has done exactly the same, went out with friends, men and women, and had fun. Lauren did IMO absolutely nothing wrong or questionable. Is it the fact that her and the other people posted about it on sm? How is that even questionable? I'm lost here, tbh. JMO.

And I'm married, been for years, and very happily.

I think the bigger issue is that Ben is on a mission trip and she stayed back in the US...partying. Oh well, their life, not mine. I'm off to the grocery store now ...in my Jag. laugh out loud

by Cocoasneeze Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:05 am

Alanna wrote:
Cocoasneeze wrote:I'm sorry, I still don't get what Lauren did was bad. She sat at a table with a group of friends, women and men, and giggled. That's it. Ben has done exactly the same, went out with friends, men and women, and had fun. Lauren did IMO absolutely nothing wrong or questionable. Is it the fact that her and the other people posted about it on sm? How is that even questionable? I'm lost here, tbh. JMO.

And I'm married, been for years, and very happily.
IMO, when one partner is off on a mission trip and the other one stays in LA to drive a Jag and party with single people, it just says a lot more than whether or not she giggled or what have you. This is not normal behavior in a relationship IMO. But then again I don't understand spending Christmas and birthdays apart and only seeing each other when it's time to film a show. They're coworkers and nothing more IMO and it's fine, but I'm calling what I see as a spade, a spade. All IMO.

What would've been appropriate activities for Lauren, while Ben is out of town? I get that they're having troubles, could be over, and might be dragging the break up. I agree with that. I just don't get the issue with Lauren hanging out with friends, going out, when Ben is away. I bet he's among mixed group of men and women, and laughing and having fun too. JMO.

by Guest Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:07 am

IMO , I can never be in a relationship where my man can't trust me enough to be in a same room where I have more female friends and few guys.
**edited**. JMO

by Cocoasneeze Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:11 am

Mommyof2 wrote:
Cocoasneeze wrote:I'm sorry, I still don't get what Lauren did was bad. She sat at a table with a group of friends, women and men, and giggled. That's it. Ben has done exactly the same, went out with friends, men and women, and had fun. Lauren did IMO absolutely nothing wrong or questionable. Is it the fact that her and the other people posted about it on sm? How is that even questionable? I'm lost here, tbh. JMO.

And I'm married, been for years, and very happily.

I think the bigger issue is that Ben is on a mission trip and she stayed back in the US...partying. Oh well, their life, not mine. I'm off to the grocery store now ...in my Jag.

He's been known to have been out partying too.

I still don't get the problem, but that's ok. Jmo.

by bleuberry Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:13 am

Drunk SMs are never a good look IMO. But since Ben left she partied with Bach nation, hung out with friends for a birthday, and celebrated her mom's birthday last night with her siblings. Not really what I consider out of control partying (yet).

by Alanna Tue Feb 21, 2017 9:17 am

Far be it for me, random internet poster, to elect myself as the moral popo and deign what in the world Lauren should do while Benji is away. My point is that their relationship is a joke and largely because Lauren is a total bs'er and has been since second 1 IMO. Tick a tock, when's the finale to end this happy engagement? IMO.

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