Re: Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

by Lennoxcolinrolland Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:07 pm

sweeti810 wrote:
Ash2214 wrote:Given how little time they've spent together in the past two months, you would think they would have viewed this NY trip as a perfect opportunity for the two of them to head to NY together and spend a couple of days just having fun there.

He instead brought his parents and headed out of Denver so soon after Lauren got home and left her there. Just bizarre IMO.

IMO, it goes both ways. Lauren just went to Mexico with her mom & sister. I think a romantic beach vacation for her birthday vs. busy NYC for a Bachelor tv appearance would have been a better opportunity for them to getaway for some quality time together. Also, didn't Lauren recently "leave" Ben in CO for a girls trip to Nashville? That could have been another chance for a couples getaway or a weekend home together. IMO, it definitely seems like they're having problems, but I don't think we should be blaming Lauren or Ben for not making time for each other. We don't know their reasons.

Also, I don't think it's fair to say Ben left Lauren in CO and chose his parents instead. Maybe she couldn't go or didn't want to go? Maybe his parents have been wanting to visit NYC when he was on a show, but didn't go before because they didn't want to intrude on their relationship?

Ben was in Tampa for work when Lauren went to Nashville. But he got home a day or two before she did.

by AllAboutLove Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:09 pm

So they're both spending quality time with their parents but not with each other? That doesn't make any sense to me to be spending more time with one's parents than each other. Not to mention, if I were either of the parents I'd tell them to sort out their stuff and put their big girl and boy pants on and not have me as their buffer. It's truly bizarre all around, IMO.

by Lennoxcolinrolland Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:10 pm

I think it's only natural to make assumptions on some details that come out one after another. It's like a puzzle piece. In order to solve it, you have to analyze all the pieces, and see if they fit (even if they don't.) IMO.

by sweeti810 Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:21 pm

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:I think it's only natural to make assumptions on some details that come out one after another. It's like a puzzle piece. In order to solve it, you have to analyze all the pieces, and see if they fit (even if they don't.) IMO.

I agree.. especially with what you said about analyzing ALL the pieces.

by Guest Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:23 pm

@Lennoxcolinrolland did you saw snap Lauren just posted about her fav current song. I think it's a song from Martin Garrix and Dua lipa called scared to be lonely . If you have time, read the lyrics of the song, it's so telling. I feel so bad for Lauren . Or it could be just a song but still it's so fitting for their situation right now.JMO. I haven't heard the song before but is it the same song?? Or I m wrong here .

by Seabear Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:25 pm

Lauren spent a few days with her Mom and sister to celebrate her birthday. From what I saw....Ben managed to send her a generic tweet to celebrate. Ben has spent loads of time in Indiana with his parents recently. Very strange for a grown man to bring his parents to NYC instead of his fiancee. I think Ben is forgetting he is not the Bachelor now....Nick is. The GMA show was about Nick.
I've said it before and I'll say it again... Ben killed the relationship by publicly humiliating Lauren in the most deeply personal way...on more than one occasion. Ben is so into himself.....he can never publicly accept responsibility for his hurtful actions. I am betting his Mom and Dad assure him it is Not his fault. Rolling Eyes

JMO

by Ash2214 Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:27 pm

Lauren's clearly trying to send a message with all of these IG videos/snaps featuring music IMO. She just did another one on IG. This is high school you guys laugh out loud

by Alanna Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:29 pm

Ash2214 wrote:Lauren's clearly trying to send a message with all of these IG videos/snaps featuring music IMO. She just did another one on IG. This is high school you guys

I love it. When does she teach us to be blessed and gracious for all of womankind in the face of this breakup? It's acoming IMO.

by umngirl Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:34 pm

Ash2214 wrote:Lauren's clearly trying to send a message with all of these IG videos/snaps featuring music IMO. She just did another one on IG. This is high school you guys

I was gonna say I feel like this was a plot line on One Tree Hill back in the day. laugh out loud

Just cut your losses guys and announce it. Pretty sure TPTB can't sue you for announcing your own split on say your personal social media.

by AllAboutLove Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:39 pm

This is her favorite song? Not exactly optimistic sounding. It sounds like the angst of high school relationship drama and songs that wax biographical. The girl seems like she's crying out and using her SM as a tool to do so while Ben is in NYC with his mom and dad doing a Bachelor 2.0 stint and saying everything is great....

No matter how I cut it this isn't healthy by any means and they'd both be better off away from "the spotlight" (as Ben called it today in an interview which made no sense cause he was in the spotlight, but anyway I digress) and also off SM and actually try with each other rather than communicating to strangers on SM/TV. It just seems so immature all around...

https://genius.com/Martin-garrix-scared-to-be-lonely-lyrics

It was great at the very start
Hands on each other
Couldn't stand to be far apart
Closer the better

Now we're picking fights and slamming doors
Magnifying all our flaws
And I wonder why, wonder what for
Why we keep coming back for more

Is it just our bodies? Are we both losing our minds?
Is the only reason you're holding me tonight
'Cause we're scared to be lonely?
Do we need somebody just to feel like we're alright?
Is the only reason you're holding me tonight
'Cause we're scared to be lonely?

Too much time, losing track of us
Where was the real?
Undefined, spiraling out of touch
Forgot how it feels

All the messed up fights and slamming doors
Magnifying all our flaws
And I wonder why, wonder what for
It's like we keep coming back for more

Is it just our bodies? Are we both losing our minds?
Is the only reason you're holding me tonight
'Cause we're scared to be lonely?
Do we need somebody just to feel like we're alright?
Is the only reason you're holding me tonight
'Cause we're scared to be lonely?

Even when we know it's wrong
Been somebody better for us all along
Tell me, how can we keep holding on?
Holding on tonight 'cause we're scared to be lonely
Even when we know it's wrong
Been somebody better for us all along
Tell me, how can we keep holding on?
Holding on tonight 'cause we're scared to be lonely

by Guest Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:45 pm

IMO , at least Lauren isn't hiding her feeling anymore . Maybe she is done trying and sending us a subtle hints to let us know everything is not alrite as Ben claimed in his GMA today .Since all are interested on their potential breakup so that must be her way of telling without telling the actual words . She seems tired and so ready to just get over with all this BS . It must be really weighing to be in unhappy relationship . JMO

by sweeti810 Tue Feb 07, 2017 8:45 pm

umngirl wrote:
Ash2214 wrote:Lauren's clearly trying to send a message with all of these IG videos/snaps featuring music IMO. She just did another one on IG. This is high school you guys

I was gonna say I feel like this was a plot line on One Tree Hill back in the day.

Just cut your losses guys and announce it. Pretty sure TPTB can't sue you for announcing your own split on say your personal social media.

Maybe TPTB are paying them to hold off until after Nick's finale?

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