Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #5

Yep, she's having more girl time with Lace, Jen and Lauren Barr. You would think she'd be spending time with Ben when she's been away from him for a week.

https://instagram.com/p/BQJSGKYgFK1/

^^true , but come on she can't ignore her friends when they are in her current hometown all the way from Texas and Florida .

There is a reason she is with friends and family all of the time. Looks like she has been crying. Break-ups are hard. Can't imagine having to go through one with the world scrutinizing every move.

Her eyes look sad or maybe it's just me. JMO

everly wrote:Yep, she's having more girl time with Lace, Jen and Lauren Barr. You would think she'd be spending time with Ben when she's been away from him for a week.

https://instagram.com/p/BQJSGKYgFK1/

Why? These two don't seem to want to spend any time together now or in the past month+ IMO. So I would be more surprised if they were together personally.

This thing is so confusing! Are they even trying to solve anything? Because from the looks of it they don't want to spend anytime together and are happy doing their own things.. then why not just make an announcement? All JMO

Either they have broken up, or Lauren just likes the attention she's getting by posting pictures and captions that insinuate they've broken up. She knows exactly what she's doing. There has been a very noticeable change in the tone of her posts and her attitude towards Ben on social media lately, and if she didn't like the speculation, she'd stop making a point of posting these cryptic, "are they or aren't they" pictures and captions that read like passive aggressive digs at Ben.

Personally, I think that Lauren's #1 objective from all of this was always to be famous, and Ben has realized that. She seems to have a lot of fans on here, but she comes across to me as someone who thinks she's a big deal and wants to be in the spotlight. I suspect they have broken up and are just waiting to make an official announcement because they still have commitments or contractual obligations to honor as a couple. I'm pretty sure they are headlining a Baker Youth Club fundraiser next month. Once they have wrapped up those commitments, I think we'll see an official split.

There's probably no announcement to make. I don't think they're officially broken up. It may be that they need some time and space away from each to sort out their feelings. Maybe they'll eventually realize they want to work on their relationship or decide to go their separate ways.

Yeah, it's not even with just her tweets or her IG posts, even on her IG stories and snaps, it's like she's purposely not showing who she's with. I'm torn between thinking she's not showing who she's with because she doesn't want people to see that she's without Ben or if she's purposely trying to show she's not with Ben by trying to be discreet. So confused

^^ The world can only scrutinize your every move when you happily post it on multiple forms of SM - IMO. Some Bach couples choose to return to their real-world occupations when filming ends and are able to do so quite easily - IMO.

Lauren has chosen not to return to passing out peanuts and Pepsi products to frequent fliers, which is her choice. She chose to film another reality tv show, snap, tweet and blog about her personal life - which is also her choice. Lauren seemingly reveled in the adoration she initially received when mega-fans compared Ben-lo to John and Carolyn Kennedy. (Sorry, but ) She chooses to allow comments on her SM and allows her fans to do the heavy-lifting for her when someone is less than adoring. Effective strategy IMO.

Neither one of them were interesting to me prior to their messy televised courtship and neither of them are now. IMO.

tiger wrote:Either they have broken up, or Lauren just likes the attention she's getting by posting pictures and captions that insinuate they've broken up. She knows exactly what she's doing. There has been a very noticeable change in the tone of her posts and her attitude towards Ben on social media lately, and if she didn't like the speculation, she'd stop making a point of posting these cryptic, "are they or aren't they" pictures and captions that read like passive aggressive digs at Ben.

Personally, I think that Lauren's #1 objective from all of this was always to be famous, and Ben has realized that. She seems to have a lot of fans on here, but she comes across to me as someone who thinks she's a big deal and wants to be in the spotlight. I suspect they have broken up and are just waiting to make an official announcement because they still have commitments or contractual obligations to honor as a couple. I'm pretty sure they are headlining a Baker Youth Club fundraiser next month. Once they have wrapped up those commitments, I think we'll see an official split.

Thank you, friend. This is exactly how I see it too and you've said it so much nicer and better and clearer than me.

tiger wrote:Either they have broken up, or Lauren just likes the attention she's getting by posting pictures and captions that insinuate they've broken up. She knows exactly what she's doing. There has been a very noticeable change in the tone of her posts and her attitude towards Ben on social media lately, and if she didn't like the speculation, she'd stop making a point of posting these cryptic, "are they or aren't they" pictures and captions that read like passive aggressive digs at Ben.

Personally, I think that Lauren's #1 objective from all of this was always to be famous, and Ben has realized that. She seems to have a lot of fans on here, but she comes across to me as someone who thinks she's a big deal and wants to be in the spotlight. I suspect they have broken up and are just waiting to make an official announcement because they still have commitments or contractual obligations to honor as a couple. I'm pretty sure they are headlining a Baker Youth Club fundraiser next month. Once they have wrapped up those commitments, I think we'll see an official split.

I'm sure Lauren is a nice person...but these are my thoughts on her as well.
IMO, she had one foot out from the get-go. I was really hoping this wasn't the case for Ben's sake. (What a sweetheart!) I only saw one little clip of their spin-off reality show and that was enough for me. They were driving in the car and Ben was trying to talk to her about something serious, and she was more interested in the salad she was eating between vapid glances.