Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion

whit90 wrote:

richmondrose wrote:Well, I don't keep tabs on her every movement,  but just by casual observation , via her sm,  she certainly doesn't let grass grow under her feet. As long as she stays in the limelight she won't be inclined to fly any time soon because it will hinder her in carrying out her duties as an attendant.  Until I see her toning down her sm presence, I will continue to be sceptical about her desire to go back to work. jmoaa

I agree I only follow her on IG and there is a post or two almost daily of herself.  She includes Ben every once in a while . I also think she is posting pics. on IG for promoting clothes or either she really likes to take pictures of herself. JMO

I just counted, cause why not? Since the show ended almost 2 months ago, she has 6 selfies total posted. So, she's averaging about once a week or less. Definitely not daily.

I can see both sides of this. I think she's posting because she gets positive feedback for doing so and she likes clothes and style. I don't think she thinks about it in terms of her flying career. To me it's not a bad thing that she hasn't gone back to flying, I think she gave up life as she knew it to move for Ben and is trying to get acclimated to her new home and city and figure out next steps. What cracks me up are these articles saying Ben is fed up Lauren isn't working. Really rag mags?? That's the best you've got? It doesn't even make sense. I get the impression that Ben is so grateful to Lauren for moving to Denver that he's doing whatever  possible to make the transition easy for her. I think pressuring her to find a job isn't high on his list. That boy knows he got lucky with this one.

I think we all have jobs that we say we love and to a degree really do, but if a new opportunity presented itself we might explore that too. I think that's all she's doing since it seems she has passions in fashion/style/interior design. What I'm happy about is she seems like a doer, I don't worry about her like I have with some others. I was impressed that first weekend out in Denver and she was already painting a dresser white. From the glimpses of Ben's house we've gotten to see she really has done wonders.

I don't think it's fair to allude she's "selling out" or a less good version of herself because she hasn't gone back to being a flight attendant. She's in a new world now, whether she posts on social media or not she's going to get recognized. But again, I do understand the other side. Can't say one thing and do another in regards to wanting privacy but continuing to stay public.

Each couple is different. It doesn't matter to me how they go about their post show life other than I like to know they are giving it a real shot and are kind hearted people who treat others with respect and who are doing some good with their new found celebrity as well. From everything I'm seeing, and words from everyone who meets them, Ben and Lauren have that all covered.

sosleepy wrote:

whit90 wrote:

richmondrose wrote:Well, I don't keep tabs on her every movement,  but just by casual observation , via her sm,  she certainly doesn't let grass grow under her feet. As long as she stays in the limelight she won't be inclined to fly any time soon because it will hinder her in carrying out her duties as an attendant.  Until I see her toning down her sm presence, I will continue to be sceptical about her desire to go back to work. jmoaa

I agree I only follow her on IG and there is a post or two almost daily of herself.  She includes Ben every once in a while . I also think she is posting pics. on IG for promoting clothes or either she really likes to take pictures of herself. JMO

I just counted, cause why not? Since the show ended almost 2 months ago, she has 6 selfies total posted. So, she's averaging about once a week or less. Definitely not daily.

I went back to my IG and counted 15 by herself and at least 50 with other people. I really do not care but she does in fact tries to stay in the spotlight IMO. I do not follow her on anything else but IG.

^^ I only counted from when the show ended on March 14th to present day. 6 selfies. She's a Millenial. Considering she's a Millenial hot off a hit reality show in a public relationship with a very popular Bachelor star, she's subdued. Very subdued.

Great post SeekAny! Agreed with all of it!

I don't get the staying in spoitlught situation. Does that mean she should never ever post any pics and never seen or heard from again to believe she isn't seeking the spotlight?

If she stopped posting all together, it would take about only a week or so before people started going all "Marcus and Lacy" on them and questioning everything. They are dammed if they do, damned if they don't.

IMO, they've hit a pretty healthy balance. I like all the choices they are making so far - on social media and otherwise.

Idlemess wrote:I don't get the staying in spoitlught situation. Does that mean she should never ever post any pics and never seen or heard from again to believe she isn't seeking the spotlight?

I really do not care how many IG's she post just do not say that she is going back to her normal life and post so many pics. Maybe once she left the show she changed her mind which is fine. I really did not enjoy Bens season but do wish any couple that comes out of this crazy show we watch the best of luck. It would be different to me if she just posted a few every once in a while but that is not the case here. This is my opinion 

sosleepy wrote:^^ I only counted from when the show ended on March 14th to present day. 6 selfies. She's a Millenial. Considering she's a Millenial hot off a hit reality show in a public relationship with a very popular Bachelor star, she's subdued. Very subdued.

Great post SeekAny! Agreed with all of it!

That's a pretty big generalization about millenials. I know plenty who rarely post at all because they are busy doing other things.

I understand Whit, its just that no one knows what plans are being made or if she's in contact with Alaska Air. Who knows right? Its a wait and see kind of thing and we wish them the best.

I find Ben boring and Lauren irritating, so her SM is annoying to me too. I do agree that her SM while not excessive is not going to help her get back to being a FA anytime soon. And that is okay, just own it. Just like MeAndi, your priority changed because of all the life changes. Own up to and say you are thinking of new opportunities. Does Alaska Air fly into Denver? Because if they do and if she wanted to stay active with the airline couldn't she work at the Denver airport as a gate assistant or counter person? I have no idea, so if I am wrong about this, please let me know. 

My personal opinion, Lauren has no desire to return to work right now. She just moved and is playing house, redecorating, and planning the wedding. I think she is perfectly happy to do that other stuff and will not work again until they either break-up or marry (most likely marry). I get a vibe from her very much like Catherine, happy to embrace the change and flow with it and in no rush to return to her former activities. 

As for Ben being annoyed at Lauren not working. I can see this, not enough to cause a break-up, but enough for it to be real. I am sure that he totally appreciates that she changed everything to come be with him. But in exchange it seems like the only thing in Ben's Denver existence that has been left as it was before is his job. Sounds like Lauren is completely changing a home he had worked hard on and making it "hers". Now this again is just the description I read here, but shouldn't she be making it theirs? Does his opinion count for nothing anymore? So yeah, I could see Ben getting a little annoyed and I am also sure that it is not really a big deal. All couples have to adjust when they move in together and most have some irritation as part of the process.

All JMO.

I found it odd how the pic she chose to post from the IHeart Radio event was of her alone showing her ring & not with Ben when there was a ton of those.

Just to be clear, in an interview last night Ben said he said she has made his house look so much better and Lauren referred to it as "our" home. I didn't want to imply she was changing everything and his opinion didn't count, that doesn't seem to be the case at all.