Re: Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion

by Cjr0204 Fri Apr 15, 2016 9:34 am

I just think too specifically as women we need to do everything we can to support each other and have each other's backs.

by eliza3 Fri Apr 15, 2016 9:36 am

I could not agree more!!

by SarahD Fri Apr 15, 2016 10:11 am

I just don't think they over post compared to Boothstowe especially Kaitlyn who does not seem to hold a legit job.

I can't believe some people would blame Ben and Lauren and charge them as over posting when the fact is there's millions of cyber bullies hiding behind the power of anonymity on social media. Whether you are a celebrity or not, you get bullied and attacked of SM just because people can. Not because you joined a reality TV show and become semi-popular, you deserve to be attacked or bullied on SM. This is just like saying you get molested because you wear short skirts.

Over 50% of IG users are women and over 50% are below 29 yo. This explains why Lauren is the one getting attacked and this is the reason why people are throwing themselves over Ben. It's not because they over share and it's not because they joined a reality TV show and attracted this for themselves. JMO

by stuckinsc Fri Apr 15, 2016 10:25 am

I am not criticizing them. I think it is great they are ignoring it. I have not heard them complain. I think they understand the balance and have accepted it. It isn't fair to anyone, but they are dealing. Again, I am against oversharing in general. Not specific to Ben and Lauren. I just think as fans you will need to accept as the couple has that this will happen. It isn't right, but it is reality. Both Ben and Lauren have dealt with it well. I suggest using their example. Unfortunately to get all the good SM stuff everyone loves the trolling comes with it. They have accepted so far and seem comfortable with their choice.

I don't give pity to any of these people who share on SM, I think they chose to deal with it. They could still share with friends and family by making their SM private. They do not, so this happens.

Everyone is free to feel however they want and it is just my opinion to try to ignore it like Ben and Lauren have since it won't change. And the anger to me feeds the trolls it doesn't actually help Ben and Lauren. All JMO.

by Cjr0204 Fri Apr 15, 2016 10:48 am

Let me say on the other side of the spectrum the beauty and positivity I've seen through SM with following Ben and Lauren's story. Fans who are dealing with the loss of a parent, child or spouse or dealing with a debilitating disease experiencing some amount of joy through the two of them. Nobody is looking to a bachelor couple to alleviate their circumstances but if it can help them forget the grief or pain for a short time, then that's a beautiful thing I can get behind:)

by stuckinsc Fri Apr 15, 2016 11:00 am

Cjr0204 wrote:Let me say on the other side of the spectrum the beauty and positivity I've seen through SM with following Ben and Lauren's story. Fans who are dealing with the loss of a parent, child or spouse or dealing with a debilitating disease experiencing some amount of joy through the two of them. Nobody is looking to a bachelor couple to alleviate their circumstances but if it can help them forget the grief or pain for a short time, then that's a beautiful thing I can get behind:)

Focusing on the positive of their love story is great. Enjoy them and everyone wins, except the trolls. They lose and that is the best thing for everyone.

by bleuberry Fri Apr 15, 2016 11:50 am

I see what you mean stuck. If and when it becomes too much for them, they can pull back and do less appearances, not IG/tweet their location, etc etc. The more they share, the more fans want, IMO.

by soccermom333 Fri Apr 15, 2016 8:41 pm

stuckinsc wrote:I think we have lost a ton of our privacy in the world as a whole. People in general share way too much of their lives and because of this we feel we know people we don't and take liberties we should not. It may not be right, but it is a known effect of celebrity, even D list bachelor celebrity. Ben knew this could and would happen. He had a group of people who were pro him not being the Bach and chosing Tenley. Ben alone has actually been quiet and not a big over sharer of his life. As a happy couple they are embracing their fans and enjoying some (not all) of the perks. Unfortunately, they like each couple since the SM explosion also pay the price. It isn't right, but it is known, they are no more victim than anyone else. They can limit this by sharing less, but even Des had a woman bad mouth her when Des couldn't wait an extended time to have a pic. It stinks, but it happens.

For me if you chose to be public, this will happen. It just will. I think for now they have chosen to ignore and that is smart. Kaitlyn has shown feeding the trolls does not help.

So for the fan, I would say try to ignore it, just like the couple. I met a guy on a plane who trolls SEC fan football sites, he loves it when posters get mad and attack back. It feeds his need for drama and conflict. Not a great part of SM, but a reality none the less. All JMO

Stuck I should just follow you around. Great post. As a fan I have learned to ignore the hate and don't feed it. Lauren and Ben are learning and I have no doubt are "discussing" this in private. They are newly engaged from a silly TV show and trying to take it into the "real world." I hope they make it and wish them the best. They will face some difficult times due to the show, but will have some perks too. Time will tell. Smiley

by lovebites8727 Mon Apr 18, 2016 12:57 pm

So after their IU weekend appearance they are back in LA again?

https://twitter.com/realityshowrept/status/721844468555636736

by nannymargie Mon Apr 18, 2016 1:13 pm

lovebites8727 wrote:So after their IU weekend appearance they are back in LA again?

https://twitter.com/realityshowrept/status/721844468555636736

Is this true?????????? I would be so happy if it is.

by lovebites8727 Mon Apr 18, 2016 1:19 pm

nannymargie wrote:
lovebites8727 wrote:So after their IU weekend appearance they are back in LA again?

https://twitter.com/realityshowrept/status/721844468555636736

Is this true?????????? I would be so happy if it is.

No idea how true it is . Since it looks like speculation . As far as I know I think last night they were at the LA clippers game vs trailblazers . Lauren tweeted . And she was asking for tickets with that LA clippers game last night the other day .

by sublime Mon Apr 18, 2016 1:28 pm

I believe they are in Denver. They were spotted last night at the a Denver airport.

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