Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers* - #2

rhondam wrote:

Idlemess wrote:

rhondam wrote:
Yes, she is. I also see manipulative use of her words and actions to generate the response that will prompt Ben to think or act a certain way that is beneficial to her.

At this point, I see it as a rarity that Lauren is still very focused and realistic. It is her confidence and assurance that allows her to stay true to herself. Lauren's uncertainty is with Ben because she is getting to know him but she also obviously know that the others are as well but does not know of his feelings for them.

She said that she is concern about being hurt and could be looking for him to validate the reason she should stay. I can't blame her for her methods because I would do the same.

On Ep 4 I didn't see her as focused and realistic. What I saw is she is quiet and tries to lay as low as possible (except around Ben) and doing her best to come across realistic. 

I also either don't believe she is as confident as she claims/tries to portray herself to be OR she is playing on his sense of concern for her feelings. If she was confident, she wouldn't need to bring up the other women to him but she did. So if she is confident like she says, bringing them up is a form of manipulating him to feel concern for her feelings that she isn't in fact really having. As well, the tone she used was a little whiny, and yes Peggy, passive-aggressive to get him to assure her that they are good, more than good he tells her. She knows what week it is, what the process is and how much longer there is to go, indirectly asking him to tell her where she stands with him is taking advantage of him to suit her own purposes imo.

rhondam wrote:

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I also either don't believe she is as confident as she claims/tries to portray herself to be OR she is playing on his sense of concern for her feelings. If she was confident, she wouldn't need to bring up the other women to him but she did. So if she is confident like she says, bringing them up is a form of manipulating him to feel concern for her feelings that she isn't in fact really having. As well, the tone she used was a little whiny, and yes Peggy, passive-aggressive to get him to assure her that they are good, more than good he tells her. She knows what week it is, what the process is and how much longer there is to go, indirectly asking him to tell her where she stands with him is taking advantage of him to suit her own purposes imo.

Fingersandtoes wrote:As I see it, relationships are give and take. Especially when Ben is dating multiple other women, and has the power to send you home at any given moment. Lauren is telling him how she feels, unsure of her stand with him while her own feelings keep growing. She sees him growing similar relationships with the other wonderful ladies, so where does she stand? I see absolutely nothing wrong sort of wanting to hear from Ben if they're on the same page. I don't see that passive aggressive or manipulative, but her knowing her value and wanting validation for her insecurities and feelings.

AmyB wrote:I'm confused. Lauren is generally a confident person, yes, but that doesn't mean that she has confidence in absolutely everything she does 100% of the time. Before, she was criticized for acting like she doesn't care enough, but now that she is showing him she cares it must be her being manipulative and passive aggressive because, as a confident person, she's not allowed to feel uncertainty and seek out validation to make sure that Ben still feels the same thing she does?   She can't win!

Seabear wrote:I like Ben and Lauren together they have a wonderful connection.
BUT... I would much rather my Man call me Sexy or Passionate than Sweet.  I'll bet Lauren does too.

JMO

Seabear wrote:I like Ben and Lauren together they have a wonderful connection.
BUT... I would much rather my Man call me Sexy or Passionate than Sweet.  I'll bet Lauren does too.

JMO