Becca Tilly - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

Julz91 wrote:

chasingpavements wrote:

Julz91 wrote:IMO I don't think Becca would be telling anyone that Ben didn't want her to come on (if it happened).

There were two people in that conversation...Ben could have easily told people. In fact, I can bet that he told producers. Not to mention, I can see Becca confiding in her close friends and asking for their advice about what to do.

I think people underestimate how crazy people can act when they are in "lust". Clare kept on fighting for JP even after that infamous "I love f-ing you" comment. Nick kept on fighting for Kaitlyn after she sat there stone-faced and told him not tell anyone about their sexing. And, so forth. So, I can totally believe Becca was willing to fight for the guy after he was like "you know, coming back to the show is really tough...I couldn't imagine asking anyone to do that for me". Which is probably along the lines of what he said, not "STAY AWAY".

(jmo)

I was more so saying if those close to Becca don't believe Ben ever said not to come on, it may be because she wouldn't go around telling everyone. Maybe her sisters or a best best friend, but it's not something I'd go around telling all my friends. Of course Ben may have easily told people (hence why RS/RJ had heard about said conversation).

I can't speak for RS, but in my case (and I posted this a few pages back), I wasn't given that info from Becca, her family, or her friends. They weren't the ones who e-mailed me. And IF they did reveal something to me about that, I wouldn't tell about that.

Julz91 wrote:

chasingpavements wrote:

Julz91 wrote:IMO I don't think Becca would be telling anyone that Ben didn't want her to come on (if it happened).

There were two people in that conversation...Ben could have easily told people. In fact, I can bet that he told producers. Not to mention, I can see Becca confiding in her close friends and asking for their advice about what to do.

I think people underestimate how crazy people can act when they are in "lust". Clare kept on fighting for JP even after that infamous "I love f-ing you" comment. Nick kept on fighting for Kaitlyn after she sat there stone-faced and told him not tell anyone about their sexing. And, so forth. So, I can totally believe Becca was willing to fight for the guy after he was like "you know, coming back to the show is really tough...I couldn't imagine asking anyone to do that for me". Which is probably along the lines of what he said, not "STAY AWAY".

(jmo)

I was more so saying if those close to Becca don't believe Ben ever said not to come on, it may be because she wouldn't go around telling everyone. Maybe her sisters or a best best friend, but it's not something I'd go around telling all my friends. Of course Ben may have easily told people (hence why RS/RJ had heard about said conversation).

Oh, sorry for the misunderstanding! Good point.

I understand no one wants to see Becca hurt but Ben doesn't have to reciprocate her feelings and this is his journey to find the right person for him. Idk, hopefully Becca has braced herself for what could inevitably happen.

So I'm going to take a guess and say the "source" is an ex contestant. I'm thinking Jared (maybe gossip editor Tanner too) because of his involvement with Becca and what if Ben REALLY likes Becca but didn't want to hurt his friend Jared and decided to gently mention something to Becca. JMO of course.

I think 24-29 girls are getting hurt here. Ben is a different kind of Bachelor, in that I doubt any of the girls cast have no interest in him. Going to be lots of crying and drama, might want to brace yourself.

Ben clearly has a powerful effect on some of these gals.  Becca and Tenley both are looking for that super special Christian man.  Tenley seems to still be pining for Ben.  I am cynical enough to think that her spur of the moment heal her heart vacation getaway to Denver/Vail was in someway connected to hoping Ben would hear about it and think of her.  I think Becca is a nice gal filled with high hopes.  She just may not be the most realistic when it comes to matters of the heart.  

I am looking forward to Ben's season particularly because we know so little of the actual facts so far.  I hope we can all have fun figuring things out the way it used to be before all the spoilers.  Sleuthing at its best.  This forum is full of armchair detectives and has some incredible superstar sleuthers too.  Happy times for all.     JMO

I take all this with a grain of salt, but if valid, it sure is painting Becca in a more and more unflattering light, IMO. Either opportunistic fame chaser or naive and immature girl with a crush on a tv character. And if she's not ready for marriage as RJ says, why the heck try to take Ben away from others who might be?

Overall I'm bummed at how last season's F2 is taking over the season's narrative already vs new stories. Already bored of it after being through it on Kait's season. JMO.

relaxing wrote:I take all this with a grain of salt, but if valid, it sure is painting Becca in a more and more unflattering light, IMO.  Either opportunistic fame chaser or naive and immature girl with a crush on a tv character.  And if she's not ready for marriage as RJ says, why the heck try to take Ben away from others who might be?

Overall I'm bummed at how last season's F2 is taking over the season's narrative already vs new stories.  Already bored of it after being through it on Kait's season.  JMO.

I don't think she's ready for marriage, but as I've said before, Becca is the only one who truly knows.

I don't think anyone who goes on these shows is ready for marriage ASAP, but there's usually at least a year inbetween (usually more) the engagement and wedding, which I think would be more than enough time for Becca to hypothetically get ready if she met the right man.

Seabear wrote:Ben clearly has a powerful effect on some of these gals.  Becca and Tenley both are looking for that super special Christian man.  Tenley seems to still be pining for Ben.  I am cynical enough to think that her spur of the moment heal her heart vacation getaway to Denver/Vail was in someway connected to hoping Ben would hear about it and think of her.  I think Becca is a nice gal filled with high hopes.  She just may not be the most realistic when it comes to matters of the heart.  

I am looking forward to Ben's season particularly because we know so little of the actual facts so far.  I hope we can all have fun figuring things out the way it used to be before all the spoilers.  Sleuthing at its best.  This forum is full of armchair detectives and has some incredible superstar sleuthers too.  Happy times for all.     JMO

He really does. Has any other Bachelor been able to make two girls go completely crazy for him before filming even began? Good thing Cassandra had BIP/Jonathan to distract her from his magic, or else we might have had a third returnee. It's definitely going to make for a dramatic season.

It will be really interesting to see what people are saying about Ben, come March. If he'll still be considered that super honest, genuine, kind person people think he is now or if people will start to get a perception of him as being a player who leads women on. Jason and Sean's season are the only two that I really remember, where the majority people went into them with really high hopes and expectations, and they both ended so differently. I'm interested to see how it all ends for Ben.

(all imo)

I just hope Becca doesn't end up hurt if Ben doesn't choose her. On the other hand, she has to know going into this that there is a strong possibility that she will not be the F1. I know that Becca is a Christian, but is Ben?

^Very, very much so.