Becca Tilly - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

bluwavz wrote:It's a different one. That whole family is oversensitive. Please no HTD for them.

I mean, it could have been worse for them. They could have had to have a bird funeral in the backyard.

bluwavz wrote:It's a different one. That whole family is oversensitive. Please no HTD for them.

 If they are so concerned with the show making them look bad, maybe they shouldn't be on it again.

No one likes to be judged. None of us do 

It is going to be interesting to see it all unfold. I am betting Becca will win us all over, even the naysayers.  Just a hunch.

It's so strange to me that Becca's family openly seems to HATE HATE HATE this show, and absolutely did not want her any where near it again.... and Becca herself hated her edit, and everyone was convinced she would not go on for this reason, yet she still went back on.

Of course no one likes to be judged! But this show puts you in a place to be judged, if you worried about being judged you shouldn't be on a show like this. Everyone knows what they sign up for, yet they aren't happy when it doesn't work in her favor.

avoice wrote:No one likes to be judged. None of us do 

It is going to be interesting to see it all unfold. I am betting Becca will win us all over, even the naysayers.  Just a hunch.

That doesn't sound like a "hunch" to me. She might win us over, she might not. Very cryptic post though.

avoice wrote:No one likes to be judged. None of us do 

It is going to be interesting to see it all unfold. I am betting Becca will win us all over, even the naysayers.  Just a hunch.

Everyone on this show gets judged...most people aren't still holding a grudge and complaining about it a YEAR after the fact. Or coming on to forums to defend themselves to strangers. It just comes off as incredibly immature and silly.

Cryptic? How so? I am honest and open to the core. And meant that honestly I feel the good that is in Becca, and sense she will shine ( if they allow it to show). Truly, I am a sensing person as well as a thinking/analytical one. The sensing part senses the good coming up.

These are real people with real feelings. I don't understand why they must have feelings like rocks to be mature people. We all know how it feels to be misjudged and bullied, don't we? So I don't think less of Becca nor her family for feeling 'sensitive'

Judgements are a part of life. Whether they're good or bad, we all make them and we all have to deal with them. How do you determine who you want to be friends with or who you want to be in a relationship with without making a judgment? Saying you think someone is a nice or smart or attractive is a judgement too. The problem is a lot of these reality TV "stars" only want to hear the good judgements we make based on their TV edits and they're perfectly fine with that but then when they get criticized it's all "stop judging me, you don't know me, it's editing!" Yeah, whatever. Go somewhere else with that. That's the price you pay for wanting to be on TV. Anyone who is incapable of handling being judged needs to stay home because viewers are going to have their opinions and some of it is going to be harsh. They can't control what other people say but they can control how they let it affect them and how they respond to it.

KatCAli90 wrote:It's so strange to me that Becca's family openly seems to HATE HATE HATE this show, and absolutely did not want her any where near it again.... and Becca herself hated her edit, and everyone was convinced she would not go on for this reason, yet she still went back on.

Of course no one likes to be judged! But this show puts you in a place to be judged, if you worried about being judged you shouldn't be on a show like this. Everyone knows what they sign up for, yet they aren't happy when it doesn't work in her favor.

Maybe Becca really has a huge crush on Ben and wants to risk everything for a chnace for a possible love story?

Nick's motive for coming back on K's season was judged even more severely, and don't forget he got much worst edit in the first time (though he never complain about that). People all thought he has the worst motive coming back, he just cared less about what others have to say, and followed his heart to pursue the girl.

So it could happen to Becca as well.

bluwavz wrote:@Litta123 Thanks for bringing that over. It made me laugh. Who is she kidding? Becca does care about other people's opinions. A lot. So does her family. Does anyone remember when one of her sisters went on a Twitter rant about their edit on the HTD? So hoping Becca is eliminated soon and this whole mess is done with. Over it.

I didn't take the post that way.
I took it as a possible commentary based on what was said by RS and RJ and others about the Ben&Becca "story".
Of course Becca cares about what people think. She said so herself on this forum.

I just don't want to lose sight of clues just because of my opinion of Becca or her family.
No opinion of Becca or her family will or won't make her F1.
Ben's connection with her will.

And that is an unknown at this point so I will keep sleuthing for clues.
Anything else is just a distraction for what may be evidence either way.

I gave Nick a chance and so I will give a chance for Becca too.
It is not bias to me that way... it is just making sure I watch out of for clues and foilers.
Will keep sleuthing...  

bluwavz wrote:Judgements are a part of life. Whether they're good or bad, we all make them and we all have to deal with them. How do you determine who you want to be friends with or who you want to be in a relationship with without making a judgment? Saying you think someone is a nice or smart or attractive is a judgement too. The problem is a lot of these reality TV "stars" only want to hear the good judgements we make based on their TV edits and they're perfectly fine with that but then when they get criticized it's all "stop judging me, you don't know me, it's editing!" Yeah, whatever. Go somewhere else with that. That's the price you pay for wanting to be on TV. Anyone who is incapable of handling being judged needs to stay home because viewers are going to have their opinions and some of it is going to be harsh. They can't control what other people say but they can control how they let it affect them and how they respond to it.