Becca Tilley - Bachelor 19 - Discussion - #9

If if this is all true she is wasting Ben's time and another contestant that could of had her spot. This to me shows that she really is only looking for the fame out of being on this show. It is truly a shame  JMO

While some don't take the engagement as anything but a continuation to date, others actually do take it seriously.  I don't think TPTB will ever let another season with no engagement happen.  If she's not willing to get engaged, then she's wasting Ben's time and is taking a slot from someone that could/would be more willing.  Yes, it could go to a crazy and not a more normal one, but I'd think Becca would be included in the list of normals (although her storyline looks like it could potentially contain some drama this season).  Plus, it makes me question her intentions...how much is about Ben, how much is for attention. I liked her last season and defended her actions, but I seriously doubt I'll be doing that this time around.  All JMHO as always.

ETA:  Jinx, Whit!  

I don't understand how she can justify coming back when she just wants Ben to be her boyfriend. Yes, the concept of the show is ridiculous but that is the show. An engagement. I'm sure the others girls will grill her on this as well.

Just because Becca didn't want to marry creepy weirdo Chris doesn't mean she won't want to marry ridiculous perfecto hottie Bennie. It would be a fun twist with the returnee being f1 instead of f2 like this past season. Plus!! She can cash in her v-card in the fs! I don't think that's ever happened before. I'm so all for this.

^^^ This type of attitude is the very thing that has turned me off about Becca.  She just does not exercise mature judgement.  I commend her for sticking to her commitment of abstinence.  However she sends such mixed messages by her behavior, partying and clothing choices.  I cannot imagine how Becca's family supported this decision to return for round two.  Did they watch the way people reacted to last season?

Ben seems to be very ready to find a wife and settle down.  Becca should not have returned when by her own words this dating show format is to fast for her and she is not ready to get engaged.   JMO

Alanna wrote:Just because Becca didn't want to marry creepy weirdo Chris doesn't mean she won't want to marry ridiculous perfecto hottie Bennie. It would be a fun twist with the returnee being f1 instead of f2 like this past season. Plus!! She can cash in her v-card in the fs! I don't think that's ever happened before. I'm so all for this.

Yeah...Becca would marry Ben in a split second. Less than a spilt second. She's almost 27, I'm sure she's tired of being the virgin who can't drive (oh, wait, who's never been in love).

She did say she's waiting for marriage to have sex though! Although I have a feeling she'll be breaking her "not kissing on a first date" rule.

Alanna wrote:Just because Becca didn't want to marry creepy weirdo Chris doesn't mean she won't want to marry ridiculous perfecto hottie Bennie. It would be a fun twist with the returnee being f1 instead of f2 like this past season. Plus!! She can cash in her v-card in the fs! I don't think that's ever happened before. I'm so all for this.

Becca final 1? Nope. I don't want someone who's been on the show previously to end up winning a different season. It would feel like a waste. A waste of girls. A waste of connections with Ben. A waste of an investment. And everything else. I honestly don't mind her being on the show this season (As long as people arent too hard on Higgi), I just don't want her to make final 4. I don't want to see her family again, when there's someone else that we could get to know. I felt the same about Nick. And I'll feel the same about any other returnee.

Things could change though. I need to hear what happens first. And then see it.

Seabear wrote:^^^ This type of attitude is the very thing that has turned me off about Becca.  She just does not exercise mature judgement.  I commend her for sticking to her commitment of abstinence.  However she sends such mixed messages by her behavior, partying and clothing choices.  I cannot imagine how Becca's family supported this decision to return for round two.  Did they watch the way people reacted to last season?

Ben seems to be very ready to find a wife and settle down.  Becca should not have returned when by her own words this dating show format is to fast for her and she is not ready to get engaged.   JMO

Hmm...

RammerJammer91 wrote:

Seabear wrote:^^^ This type of attitude is the very thing that has turned me off about Becca.  She just does not exercise mature judgement.  I commend her for sticking to her commitment of abstinence.  However she sends such mixed messages by her behavior, partying and clothing choices.  I cannot imagine how Becca's family supported this decision to return for round two.  Did they watch the way people reacted to last season?

Ben seems to be very ready to find a wife and settle down.  Becca should not have returned when by her own words this dating show format is to fast for her and she is not ready to get engaged.   JMO

Hmm...

RJ - Sorry if this was already asked, but if Becca was not ready to get married or engaged to Chris, did she know that earlier than when she left? I'm wondering why she didn't bow out if she wasn't feeling it. (producers?) Would she bow out early if things weren't working out with Ben? Really wondering if she has addressed the fact that by going on again, someone can propose and what would she do.

Mustang19 wrote:

RammerJammer91 wrote:

Seabear wrote:^^^ This type of attitude is the very thing that has turned me off about Becca.  She just does not exercise mature judgement.  I commend her for sticking to her commitment of abstinence.  However she sends such mixed messages by her behavior, partying and clothing choices.  I cannot imagine how Becca's family supported this decision to return for round two.  Did they watch the way people reacted to last season?

Ben seems to be very ready to find a wife and settle down.  Becca should not have returned when by her own words this dating show format is to fast for her and she is not ready to get engaged.   JMO

Hmm...

RJ - Sorry if this was already asked, but if Becca was not ready to get married or engaged to Chris, did she know that earlier than when she left? I'm wondering why she didn't bow out if she wasn't feeling it. (producers?) Would she bow out early if things weren't working out with Ben? Really wondering if she has addressed the fact that by going on again, someone can propose and what would she do.

She was oblivious to what went on behind the behind-the-scenes. And by that I mean the degree production went to to basically force a proposal and certain emotions out of the lead and contestants. I still think she's oblivious that the lead essentially "has to" propose. Force might not be the right word, but I think you get what I mean. She wouldn't have accepted a proposal, but I can tell you that she would have been very happy to date him if he picked her. She had genuine feelings for him and she really liked him. A lot of people thought she was a robot because she didn't cry in the limo, but she was really sad. Wanna know a secret? She did cry off camera when she went to a hotel. It wasn't a day-long cryfest by any means, but she did cry.

If Chris let Whitney go early, and he proposed to Becca, she would have been "engaged" to him. The reason being that it's in the contract that female contestants cannot reject a proposal from the lead on the Bachelor. They would have forced her to say "yes." Even if she said "no, I can't do that, but I care about you a lot and want to date you," they would have dropped everything and kept shooting proposal scenes until she said "yes." I'm not kidding when I say that.

If things weren't working out with Ben, I would think she would leave early. She will be more open to a proposal this time around, but I still don't see her dropping the L-bomb because the show is forcing her to do so. She didn't last time and she won't this time. If she says the L-word, it will be because she really means it. Based on the conversations I've had, as well as my own observations, she is not ready to get married right now, let alone engaged. Could she be ready? Sure. But I don't see it. It's entirely possible that they could date for 1-2 years and then she'd be ready. We will have to see.

Thank you for the reply. I believe you.

One more question, and sorry if this is impolite to ask, but since it's been brought up a lot - do the contestants get paid to be on the show? Don't want to know how much, but did Becca receive or will receive pay for being on the show?

Mustang19 wrote:Thank you for the reply. I believe you.

One more question, and sorry if this is impolite to ask, but since it's been brought up a lot - do the contestants get paid to be on the show? Don't want to know how much, but did Becca receive or will receive pay for being on the show?

Becca didn't get any money last season. I don't know if she (or any other second timers) does this time.