Re: Andi Dorfman - The Bachelorette 10 - Discussion - #2

by aviej Fri Feb 06, 2015 9:57 pm

Ash2214 wrote:^ Possible I suppose, but I doubt it. If they ran into each other or even spoke for a decent amount of time I would assume there would have been a tweet, a picture or something that a random person passing by would have sent out considering there have been some of Andi out in Cali. Andi even responded to someone on IG yesterday that said she better not be seeing Nick and she said don't worry because she wasn't because she was visiting family (her sister and brother-in-law).

I just don't get it. She picked someone else over you. Didn't want anything to do with you. What's the point of following her? To be friends? Please. If you're over it and have completely moved on and according to him "doesn't want to move backwards" there's no need to have her daily tweets come up in your timeline and see what she's doing. Like I said, is he hoping she'll follow him back so they can DM and maybe meet up while they're both in Cali? I personally don't think it's a coincidence that he just so happens to follow her when he knows she's in Cali too. It really wouldn't surprise me if that was his thinking in trying to see her.

IMO, if you're completely over someone that broke your heart and that you apparently pined over for months while she was engaged to another man I would think you wouldn't want anything to do with that person once you've moved on. It's funny to me too that he mentioned in his comments post Andi and Josh's break up that he would like to be friends with Josh one day and has left Andi in his past, but yet he doesn't follow him, he follows Andi. Right. Makes sense.

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by julychild Fri Feb 06, 2015 9:59 pm

Nick said in an interview, that while he had closed the door on dating Andi, he had no problems with being friends whit her "down the road." From what I have seen, he is not one to keep malice, as he later followed a lot of the people who used to tweet mean things about him. Although it leaves room for you to be wounded often, that is a great quality to have, in my opinion. No high blood pressure in his future...

by bluwavz Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:04 pm

julychild wrote:Nick said in an interview, that while he had closed the door on dating Andi, he had no problems with being friends whit her "down the road." From what I have seen, he is not one to keep malice, as he later followed a lot of the people who used to tweet mean things about him. Although it leaves room for you to be wounded often, that is a great quality to have, in my opinion. No high blood pressure in his future...

Then why not follow Josh? In that interview it sounded like he was more open to a friendship with him than Andi. I just find it strange he follows her when they're both in LA.

by julychild Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:06 pm

Ash2214 wrote:^ Possible I suppose, but I doubt it. If they ran into each other or even spoke for a decent amount of time I would assume there would have been a tweet, a picture or something that a random person passing by would have sent out considering there have been some of Andi out in Cali. Andi even responded to someone on IG yesterday that said she better not be seeing Nick and she said don't worry because she wasn't because she was visiting family (her sister and brother-in-law).

I just don't get it. She picked someone else over you. Didn't want anything to do with you. What's the point of following her? To be friends? Please. If you're over it and have completely moved on and according to him "doesn't want to move backwards" there's no need to have her daily tweets come up in your timeline and see what she's doing. Like I said, is he hoping she'll follow him back so they can DM and maybe meet up while they're both in Cali? I personally don't think it's a coincidence that he just so happens to follow her when he knows she's in Cali too. It really wouldn't surprise me if that was his thinking in trying to see her.

IMO, if you're completely over someone that broke your heart and that you apparently pined over for months while she was engaged to another man I would think you wouldn't want anything to do with that person once you've moved on. It's funny to me too that he mentioned in his comments post Andi and Josh's break up that he would like to be friends with Josh one day and has left Andi in his past, but yet he doesn't follow him, he follows Andi. Right. Makes sense.

I guess one would need to have Nick's type of personality and general outlook on life to "get it." I may not do what he has done, but I have always admired people who so easily let bygones be bygones. I wish I were more like that, because really, life is just too short!

by aviej Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:06 pm

Precisely Bluwavz.

by Ash2214 Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:15 pm

That's my thought process too bluwavz. In the article from E! Nick talked about how Andi is in his past and it's going to stay there and how he has completely moved forward and how he doesn't "move backwards." He doesn't say anything in that article about being friends with Andi, but he mentions wanting to reconnect with Josh and hopefully become friends down the line.

He doesn't follow Josh, but he follows Andi knowing she's in LA? Andi has been in San Diego and Laguna Beach from comments we've gotten through her SM, so it does seem she's telling the truth about visiting family and vacationing. She also went to CA last year at this time to visit her sister too, so it might be an annual thing. I just highly doubt they ran into each other while she was in LA yesterday.

I just don't see a need for it given what Nick has repeatedly said since July after the ATFR.

by Ash2214 Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:26 pm

julychild wrote:
Ash2214 wrote:^ Possible I suppose, but I doubt it. If they ran into each other or even spoke for a decent amount of time I would assume there would have been a tweet, a picture or something that a random person passing by would have sent out considering there have been some of Andi out in Cali. Andi even responded to someone on IG yesterday that said she better not be seeing Nick and she said don't worry because she wasn't because she was visiting family (her sister and brother-in-law).

I just don't get it. She picked someone else over you. Didn't want anything to do with you. What's the point of following her? To be friends? Please. If you're over it and have completely moved on and according to him "doesn't want to move backwards" there's no need to have her daily tweets come up in your timeline and see what she's doing. Like I said, is he hoping she'll follow him back so they can DM and maybe meet up while they're both in Cali? I personally don't think it's a coincidence that he just so happens to follow her when he knows she's in Cali too. It really wouldn't surprise me if that was his thinking in trying to see her.

IMO, if you're completely over someone that broke your heart and that you apparently pined over for months while she was engaged to another man I would think you wouldn't want anything to do with that person once you've moved on. It's funny to me too that he mentioned in his comments post Andi and Josh's break up that he would like to be friends with Josh one day and has left Andi in his past, but yet he doesn't follow him, he follows Andi. Right. Makes sense.

I guess one would need to have Nick's type of personality and general outlook on life to "get it." I may not do what he has done, but I have always admired people who so easily let bygones be bygones. I wish I were more like that, because really, life is just too short!

In my real life I am certainly like that, however, I don't follow my ex-boyfriend on social media because similarly to what Nick has stated numerous times now, I've completely moved on. I'm not looking back on the past. I don't need to see social media posts from my ex-boyfriend daily. I don't need to know what he's up to nor do I care to know about it. It's just pointless. I'm not saying that if they saw each other in person that they would need to be mean to each other. They can be nice and cordial. But what's the point of following her on social media when it just so happens she's in Cali visiting her sister?

IMO I just don't think it has anything to do with letting bygones be bygones. If he's completely moved on from her and over it and doesn't want a relationship with her then there's no need for the social media follow. When you're over someone, you're over it. No need to have them in your life in any way IMO. And heck, my relationship wasn't played on television either.

by Kashathediva Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:26 pm

I need educating with this sm thing.
I understand if I should unfriend or unfollow. Unless there is a mature, valid reason in my eyes, it's kind of childish or can have more negative connotation than warranted with the action.
But friending or following, on the other hand, I don't put a lot of emphasis. There are people I have friended that are mere acquaintances. Sometimes it's simply a nice, polite gesture.

by bluwavz Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:36 pm

Kashathediva wrote:I need educating with this sm thing.
I understand if I should unfriend or unfollow. Unless there is a mature, valid reason in my eyes, it's kind of childish or can have more negative connotation than warranted with the action.
But friending or following, on the other hand, I don't put a lot of emphasis. There are people I have friended that are mere acquaintances. Sometimes it's simply a nice, polite gesture.

I just don't get why he would follow her when she clearly disliked him after the show and didn't want to show up to the live premiere if he was going to be there. Maybe I'm making too a big a deal of it, but why go there? And again, why not follow Josh? The timing of this is just interesting to me.

by aviej Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:40 pm

Exactly. I haven't heard anyone rationalize why Nick would follow Andi and not Josh at this point. I would welcome any speculations in that regard. Because it's very confusing to me. IMO if I were Nick and I were to favorite one over the other, it'll be Josh. Or I'll just favorite them both for good measure! I just don't get why not favorite Josh too. scratch

by Kashathediva Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:48 pm

bluwavz wrote:
Kashathediva wrote:I need educating with this sm thing.
I understand if I should unfriend or unfollow. Unless there is a mature, valid reason in my eyes, it's kind of childish or can have more negative connotation than warranted with the action.
But friending or following, on the other hand, I don't put a lot of emphasis. There are people I have friended that are mere acquaintances. Sometimes it's simply a nice, polite gesture.

I just don't get why he would follow her when she clearly disliked him after the show and didn't want to show up to the live premiere if he was going to be there. Maybe I'm making too a big a deal of it, but why go there? And again, why not follow Josh? The timing of this is just interesting to me.

He had a relationship with her. Things are over. I think he's past her. So why not friend or follow her? It's nice. She's could use a friend or two or three? He is a nice guy, imo, it would be big of him or nice of him to for someone in his past hurting. I could see myself doing this.
Why should he follow Josh at this point? He never really had any relationship with him. He's not running into him socially. There is really nothing there to re-connect with.
Again, just me, but if there was anything deep about the re-connection with MEandI, I don't think he would do it through sm after this whole fiasco. There would be other less obvious ways. (I know it seems like we have our own private little club house here, but we have hundreds of "guests" and other lurking that read our posts daily. We are far from private and if "we" have noticed this "follow" it's out there now.)

by Ash2214 Fri Feb 06, 2015 10:48 pm

Kashathediva wrote:I need educating with this sm thing.
I understand if I should unfriend or unfollow. Unless there is a mature, valid reason in my eyes, it's kind of childish or can have more negative connotation than warranted with the action.
But friending or following, on the other hand, I don't put a lot of emphasis. There are people I have friended that are mere acquaintances. Sometimes it's simply a nice, polite gesture.

I do get that to an extent, but like many people posted comments about this, they thought it was a good thing Josh unfollowed Andi on social media. When you're moving on and leaving the past behind, there's no need to follow someone on social media and keep up with their daily postings that will be in your timeline. I consider this to be similar. Nick has reiterated many times now that he has no business with Andi. What's the point of following her if she's in the past?

I think the funniest thing for me is that when he made comments about their breakup he said Andi was in his past and he doesn't move backwards, but that he hoped to reconnect with Josh and be friends with him again. So instead of following Josh and perhaps trying to reach out to him he just so happens to follow Andi while she's in Cali visiting her sister and brother-in-law. IMO it's just funny and I find the timing interesting.

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