Re: Juan Pablo & Nikki Ferrell - Fan Forum - Discussion - Couples Therapy Premier Sept 10 2014

[GuardianAngel]

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While it would be nice to take everything we see on reality TV as fact, we as viewers have been duped too many times to not be skeptical. That rule applies for Bachelor couple Juan Pablo Galavis and Nikki Ferrell, whose current gig on Couples Therapy has been questioned since day one. The most recent rumors? That they just joined for the money.

Wetpaint Entertainment spoke with the VH1 reality show’s executive producer John Irwin recently, and he was quick to deny those claims. In fact, it sounds like John was more than impressed by the couple and their intentions.
“I know for a fact they didn’t do it for the money,” he states. “They did it for a couple reasons: The first was they were [in] a new relationship and had things to sort through. Second, I think they felt like this was an opportunity for them to show who they really are. They felt they’d been duped by The Bachelor and saw it as an opportunity to come on and sort of get their story out.”
If you are still doubtful that a payday was the driving force for Juan Pablo and Nikki, John has some info that will further negate that. “They had all of these endorsements and things coming at them after the show,” he dishes. “Money was sort of their last consideration when doing the show.”
Although the EP seems confident in the couple now, he admits it didn’t start that way. Since JPG and his winner had only been dating for a couple of months, John initially didn’t see why they would need to come on the show.

“Going into it I was kind of skeptical,” he concedes, before adding, “After sitting down with them, I learned how they came together in a crazy, unorthodox way, and they did really fall in love. But now, they have all of the issues that they’re dealing with, and if they can’t figure out how to deal with them, the relationship’s probably going to end.”
After that, John was convinced. He explains that, on the show, the couple was “able to work through a lot of issues that would have otherwise torn them apart” — namely the “critical limelight” which just piled onto the “regular stuff, like just getting to know someone.” Today, he sees only success ahead for their relationship.

“They were able to stay together and build a foundation for marriage and kids,” he explained. “I would be so bold as to say that part of that is because they came on the show.”
Couples Therapy airs tonight and every Wednesday night at 9 p.m. ET on VH1

[chinita]

Hmm...People didn't think their issues were bad enough to seek therapy??

[whit90]

Hmm...People didn't think their issues were bad enough to seek therapy??

Sounds to me they made the right decision to go on this show. We as fans saw something real believe theses two.

[metalgirl]

Sadly, that's not quite the case.  Juan Pablo said that he is not in love with her.  I DO believe he really cares for her and wants to be with her.  But he's not where she is, though maybe they can get there.  

It's good that somebody outside of the Bachelor world sees their potential as a couple, but outsiders need to take care in not pushing their relationship beyond where it is.

[SerenityGirl]

After watching last night, I still think Juan could do and say so many different things to make Nikki feel secure and I think that’s what he doesn’t get. The conversation they had in the bedroom was so telling. Nikki said she doesn’t meet all his requirements which Juan didn’t disagree with. I’m beginning to think he loves her and loves things about her and wants to continue dating her but maybe doesn’t see a forever with her. I guess we'll have to wait and see.

The fact that he wants to move in with Nikki doesn’t mean squat if he doesn’t make any plans to do that. I would be more impressed if Juan told Nikki at the end of the show that he found an apartment in Miami and that he wants her to look for a job there and would love for her to move in. They need to start there. That will show commitment on both ends (him finding a place of his own and her moving to be with him).

[chinita]

After watching last night, I still think Juan could do and say so many different things to make Nikki feel secure and I think that’s what he doesn’t get. The conversation they had in the bedroom was so telling.  Nikki said she doesn’t meet all his requirements which Juan didn’t disagree with. I’m beginning to think he loves her and loves things about her and wants to continue dating her but maybe doesn’t see a forever with her.  I guess we'll have to wait and see.

The fact that he wants to move in with Nikki doesn’t mean squat if he doesn’t make any plans to do that.  I would be more impressed if Juan told Nikki at the end of the show that he found an apartment in Miami and that he wants her to look for a job there and would love for her to move in. They need to start there. That will show commitment on both ends (him finding a place of his own and her moving to be with him).  

Couldn't agree more to the bolded but I wonder if Nikki is willing to move to Miami.

[glazedover]

Really I think Nikki should just cut her losses and get out. This man is not for her and even if he falls in love will never be able to give her the emotional comfort she needs. He is lacking.

i had this scenario with my first husband 45 years ago. After a whirlwind romance we broke up and I spent the next two years yearning after him while remaining friends. Finally he fell in love and we married. I was so in love it took me another two years to realize that he would never be able to give me emotional sustenance. He was too protective of his own persona....there was no ability to truly care about my needs. He was a lovely guy, but not a good mate. I see his personality in JPG all the time.

I think it is really unhealthy for Nikki to subject herself to feeling less than adequate for JPG.

p.s......married for 35 years to the right guy.

[stuckinsc]

Really I think Nikki should just cut her losses and get out. This man is not for her and even if he falls in love will never be able to give her the emotional comfort she needs. He is lacking.

i had this scenario with my first husband 45 years ago. After a whirlwind romance we broke up and I spent the next two years yearning after him while remaining friends. Finally he fell in love and we married. I was so in love it took me another two years to realize that he would never be able to give me emotional sustenance. He was too protective of his own persona....there was no ability to truly care about my needs. He was a lovely guy, but not a good mate. I see his personality in JPG all the time.

I think it is really unhealthy for Nikki to subject herself to feeling less than adequate for JPG.

p.s......married for 35 years to the right guy.

I agree, someone can be a good person and not the person for you. In my case, I don't fall in love fast, so for me my best loves have happened when built from friendship. I find my big sparks tend to die out and the ones who took time are the greater loves for me.

I see hope with the couple, but only if Nikki can actually be satisfied by what JPG can give. If she can't then she should find a man who can give her what she needs. I don't think either to blame, but they just don't seem to really know each other or listen to each other very well at this point in the show.

[glazedover]

Really I think Nikki should just cut her losses and get out. This man is not for her and even if he falls in love will never be able to give her the emotional comfort she needs. He is lacking.

i had this scenario with my first husband 45 years ago. After a whirlwind romance we broke up and I spent the next two years yearning after him while remaining friends. Finally he fell in love and we married. I was so in love it took me another two years to realize that he would never be able to give me emotional sustenance. He was too protective of his own persona....there was no ability to truly care about my needs. He was a lovely guy, but not a good mate. I see his personality in JPG all the time.

I think it is really unhealthy for Nikki to subject herself to feeling less than adequate for JPG.

p.s......married for 35 years to the right guy.

I agree, someone can be a good person and not the person for you.  In my case, I don't fall in love fast, so for me my best loves have happened when built from friendship.  I find my big sparks tend to die out and the ones who took time are the greater loves for me.  

I see hope with the couple, but only if Nikki can actually be satisfied by what JPG can give.  If she can't then she should find a man who can give her what she needs.  I don't think either to blame, but they just don't seem to really know each other or listen to each other very well at this point in the show.

Yes, we are on the same page. My husband and I were also friends for several years before truly falling in love. So much better not to be blinded by the lightning bolt!

It seems to me that Nikki's make-up does not allow her to be happy with what JPG can offer emotionally. And why should she be satisfied with so little?

[Nabsie]

I just really hope they both do the recap show. It makes us understand stuff so much better but it's highly unlikely Nikki will do it because she probably feels awkward talking about what happened on the episode.

[SerenityGirl]

After watching last night, I still think Juan could do and say so many different things to make Nikki feel secure and I think that’s what he doesn’t get. The conversation they had in the bedroom was so telling.  Nikki said she doesn’t meet all his requirements which Juan didn’t disagree with. I’m beginning to think he loves her and loves things about her and wants to continue dating her but maybe doesn’t see a forever with her.  I guess we'll have to wait and see.

The fact that he wants to move in with Nikki doesn’t mean squat if he doesn’t make any plans to do that.  I would be more impressed if Juan told Nikki at the end of the show that he found an apartment in Miami and that he wants her to look for a job there and would love for her to move in. They need to start there. That will show commitment on both ends (him finding a place of his own and her moving to be with him).  

Couldn't agree more to the bolded but I wonder if Nikki is willing to move to Miami.    

Hate to say it but if she doesn't want to move to Miami I think they need to call it quits.

There are a couple web exclusive clips on the VH1 site and one of them is the other couples giving feedback to each other.  Evel says that he thinks Juan and Nikki are going to have a really hard time making it and that he doubts Juan will move away from his daughter.  Juan cries when he talks about his daughter and how he wants to be a good dad.  So I don’t think he’s leaving Miami.  He’s just saying that he'd move to LA with her to make her feel better and it’s why he’s not making any concrete plans to move.

[chinita]

Oh Wow! Well, they are still together so I guess she has decided to move there after the show ends. I would hate to see JPG moving away from Camila.

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