Kaitlyn Bristowe - Bachelorette 11 - #5 - Discussion

Chgohighlife wrote:JMO When a man is practically loving you to death and you are his everything mainly because he has nothing else and this is true through a year ago when you purchased and began redoing your house together and then you finally help him achieve his career goal and he has his own business and all of a sudden he doesn’t want to get married and he has a whole list of grievances where there used to be worship —— that spells another woman. You know, the one who came along to reap the benefits after Kaitlynn made the man. JMO.

Sprite wrote:

Chgohighlife wrote:JMO When a man is practically loving you to death and you are his everything mainly because he has nothing else and this is true through a year ago when you purchased and began redoing your house together and then you finally help him achieve his career goal and he has his own business and all of a sudden he doesn’t want to get married and he has a whole list of grievances where there used to be worship —— that spells another woman. You know, the one who came along to reap the benefits after Kaitlynn made the man. JMO.

I'm sorry, but I totally disagree with this. This makes it sound as if Shawn had nothing and nobody until he met Kaitlyn when in fact, he was working and had his family and friends. To me it is more about unrealistic expectations and the need to have someone "worship" and "love you to death", which frankly sounds exhausting. Yes, it can happen during the honeymoon stages of a relationship, but eventually, real life makes demands and relationships have to change. To me it appears that this is the first time in their relationship that Shawn is not with her almost all the time and she is left on her own and she is resentful. Add that to the fact that he appears to be dragging his feet on the subject of marriage and all of a sudden Kaitlyn is feeling even more needy. It just becomes an never ending cycle of unmet needs.

Nowhere do I see any hint of another woman. I just see a guy who is working hard to get his business off the ground and a spoiled, immature brat resenting not getting the attention that she demands. The fact that she is dropping hints in interviews and sm just further reinforces  how juvenile she can be and if I was him, I would also be questioning if I want to continue being with her.

He doesn't want to get married? That is a legitimate issue, but then it is up to her to decide what is important and make those needs known. She needs to decide for herself what she will tolerate and what she wont and if that is a deal breaker, then she needs to stand up for herself and move on. And it doesn't need to be broadcast all over in interviews and sm in an attempt to shame him and get him with her program or to get her fans to all riled up in support of poor little Kaitlyn.

I'm amazed the guy has the energy to do anything other than just deal with her!


@Sprite your comment is just your opinion stated as if it’s fact when it clearly is not. My point is whatever is right or wrong about Kaitlyn is not new, she has not changed overnight, IMO. When the same irritating things that have been irritating for several years are suddenly too much for the partner who dealt with them fine before, it is often because a person’s interest has been redirected to someone new, IMO.  Also, when a mate who has been a full time cheerleader and lived in the partner’s shadow as their identity and only claim to fame, finally has something of his own, albeit due in large part to his alliance with Kaitlyn, his need for her can diminish. Those are my points and opinion. Time will tell. It always does. JMO.