Bachelorette 14 - Becca Kufrin - Episode 8 - July 16th - *Sleuthing Spoilers*

Astrobach wrote:The bottom line for me is that Garrett seems very immature and almost juvenile in his speech, reactions and explanations / excuses when he talks to Becca. His parents have said things that made me eye roll big time...like his mom:” from what I heard you come from a similar background”. They know nothing really about her when they meet, they just hope that she is not going to break their son’s heart. Both Becca and Garrett have this need to make this work at all cost because their chemistry is strong, but I see so many red flags about issues that are pushed right under the carpet to not disturb the fantasy. All JM sad O.

Relalou wrote:Well again, this is a lot of theorizing about very small clips of G, his family and what he discussed with Becca about his marriage.  The problem this show poses is that if you truly want to get to know the B/ette and to reveal who you are and what has made you that way, then you need to share intimate details of your past in order to go for that future with her.  The producers choose to show what they show and there is no way (apart form the FS which might be too late for such details as a previous marriage, or virginity..) to speak privately so I guess you go "all in".  I remember Jordan being so hesitant to speak about his brother on JoJos season but realizing he needed to do so.  Then Colton with his virginity was another intimate share that got big public exposure.  Of course what you share is your own perspective and there are 2 sides to every story of divorce.  I respect the ex wife for NOT chiming in and I don't think that reflects badly on G or on herself. G's family seem concerned he doesn't make the same mistake (their perspective) and that isn't inappropriate for a family to feel either.  ALL JMO!

SFoster wrote:

Astrobach wrote:The bottom line for me is that Garrett seems very immature and almost juvenile in his speech, reactions and explanations / excuses when he talks to Becca. His parents have said things that made me eye roll big time...like his mom:” from what I heard you come from a similar background”. They know nothing really about her when they meet, they just hope that she is not going to break their son’s heart. Both Becca and Garrett have this need to make this work at all cost because their chemistry is strong, but I see so many red flags about issues that are pushed right under the carpet to not disturb the fantasy. All JM sad O.

Yes!  Thank you!

Astrobach wrote:@Chgohighlife your comment about possible volatility is certainly something that I considered as I see the signs of it in his chart. So far, Becca has been agreeing, accepting and always minimizing any possible wrong thing Garrett says or does. I have to wonder how they will resolve any inevitable conflict or differences of opinion when they start occurring outside the ‘bubble’. They both have very strong opinions and style of expressions which when at odds could be pretty explosive. In the beginning of a relationship it is attractive and create sparks that are mostly channeled through ‘hot sex’, but eventually a relationship needs other foundation than sex.