Bachelor 22 - Arie Luyendyk Jr - Episodes - Mar 5th FRC ATFR - #2 - *Sleuthing Spoilers*

The lesson Arie has to learn is that once a man gets engaged conversations with other women (especially an ex) even if just friendly are off limits even more so on social media.

SeekAny wrote:Slay Bekah M, slay! There is no need for him to joke with her. I’m sure Lauren is thrilled to see he’s sending “jokes” to Bekah M. He’s such a Slimeball.

She might have been the one that told him to do it. "Go ahead do it "

I think Becca is a smart girl and knows that this experience can mess with a person, so she was listening to what her "fiancé" was saying and believing him because that's what you do in a relationship. YOU TRUST THEM. Yes, she knows now in hindsight that he is a lying liar who lies, but I don't know why people are ragging on her because she chose to trust the man she was engaged to??????

Especially when he says all the right things.

biglove44 wrote:

Aria wrote:

umngirl wrote:According to Wolfner, Becca had no idea. Considering how much he has defended Arie, I’m choosing to believe him.

Yeah, there's a HUGE difference in knowing that your fiancé is struggling with feelings he had for someone he dumped a few weeks ago versus knowing that they're going to trick you into coming to a happy couples weekend and then blindside you in front of cameras with a breakup. It's scary that people don't realize that.

Really interesting seeing fans defend Arie.  It always seems like no matter what, the woman MUST take some blame off the man’s shoulders.  

Sorry but don't include me in the bolded. I am a woman and if I were facing as many red flags as Becca did(Hell, I was in that position once in my life and yea, I did leave)I would of left. I would of known that something was up and would of tried to either get more out of it or in the very least would of left earlier if I couldn't get there.

littlereddress wrote:The lesson Arie has to learn is that once a man gets engaged conversations with other women (especially an ex) even if just friendly are off limits even more so on social media.

Exactly! He probably didn’t even tell Beks about the breakup but it shows his prowess on SM and slipping into dms. As long as Lauren doesn’t get it, she will soon. One hopes! That’s why Arie probably wanted to get engaged ASAP. So he could say... but but but, you’re my fiancé .

Anyway, can't wait to see Becca as The Bachelorette

Best of luck to Arie and Lauren. They'll need it.

pbmax wrote:

SeekAny wrote:Slay Bekah M, slay! There is no need for him to joke with her. I’m sure Lauren is thrilled to see he’s sending “jokes” to Bekah M. He’s such a Slimeball.

She might have been the one that told him to do it. "Go ahead do it "

She definitely took part in it and then waited for the best time to do her reveal. She is gonna be so good on BIP.

Preach girl! Truer words have not been said tonight

hahahahahaha @ariejr is the biggest ******** tool i’ve ever seen. becca is a queen. a goddess. thank the LORD he’s out of her life

— bekah martinez ♡ (@whats_ur_sign_) March 6, 2018

https://twitter.com/whats_ur_sign_/status/970881191682351104

She didn’t have time to get out on her own! He didn’t give her the chance. She was trying to make it work with her fiancé, I can’t fault the girl for that.

Even if Becca didn't see all these "red flags" doesn't make Arie any less of a douchebag.

AllAboutLove wrote:Lots of F1s deal with leads talking about stuff to them post-show I am sure. Many of them have said as much. No way did Becca think Arie was going to dump her imo. I've barely seen any emotion from him to ANY of the women this season, including Lauren. This is not a guy who is ready for a monogamous relationship at all and I'd tell any girl to run. jmo  

But if you(being me or anyone out there) saw as many redflags as Beca said was there, wouldn't it be questioned and if you couldn't get the answers needed, then leave if you wern't happy with what's going on.

I am sorry but IMO, if someone can see as many redflags as Becca said she was seeing, then speaking or myself, he would of had a hard time seeing my dust in the mirror. And this is coming from someone that's been married nearly 30 yrs. I would of had more respect for myself if the guy was giving me that many signs, I would of been out of there.

pbmax wrote:

SeekAny wrote:Slay Bekah M, slay! There is no need for him to joke with her. I’m sure Lauren is thrilled to see he’s sending “jokes” to Bekah M. He’s such a Slimeball.

She might have been the one that told him to do it. "Go ahead do it "

The stage five clinger who needs reassurance 24\7?? I doubt it.