Bachelor 22 - Arie Luyendyk Jr - Episodes - Feb 19th - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

Stone_Hedge wrote:Switcherooing is Arie’s trademark imo, even while being in a relationship . There were no shortage of women then nor will there be after. An MO helps determine a person’s pattern and thought process. To me his exes have revealed that MO. The fact that he initially reached out to Lauren on SM works into that MO . What their future be is not of importance to me whether I’m right or wrong . Yup, just ready to move on to the next .
Jmo

I guess I don't understand how 'switcherooing' is Arie's trademark??

@Nibbles22 I don't either. I see a 35? yr old single guy who dated. Just because he didn't get married, IMO he didn't find the right one and doesn't mean he got bored or broke things off because he got bored.

Many women have said Arie has a history of having multiple women lined up. Courtney even wrote it in her book.

Monogamy has not been his strong point, so him switching from one woman to the next kind of goes with that pattern.

RS said that Becca was going to be the bachelorette since the break up happened, and know he is saying that it is very likely she is the lead, so IMO if she accepted the gig a couple of days later that really doesn't sound heartbroken to me, again I still think Arie went with the wrong approach to all of this.JMO

He didn’t say she was going to be the ette a few days after just that it was hers if she wanted it. JMO. You can’t fake her tears in the preview

stuckinsc wrote:Many women have said Arie has a history of having multiple women lined up. Courtney even wrote it in her book.

Monogamy has not been his strong point, so him switching from one woman to the next kind of goes with that pattern.

Isn't that what single guys do, date multiple women until they find THE one?? That's what I did as a single woman. I knew when I met my husband he was the one, but I dated lots and lots, and lots of men until then.

No.  Dating multiple people is one thing, as long they all know your dating others - no commitment.  Dating one or more with each of the girls thinking your only dating them is another.  And I'm not getting into whose fault it all is for that.  

Also, contacting, flirting and warming up one on the side (threw SM), so they'll be available to you as soon you dump the current one is not just something all single guys do either.

It doesn't make him evil or awful, but IMO it does make his current actions questionable since they seem to follow his typical behavior and patterns.  This is not the first time we've heard about it.  It can't all be lies and all the girls can't be totally at fault for not asking for a commitment.

JMO

LiboLRC wrote:RS said that Becca was going to be the bachelorette since the break up happened, and know he is saying that it is very likely she is the lead, so IMO if she accepted the gig a couple of days later that really doesn't sound heartbroken to me, again I still think Arie went with the wrong approach to all of this.JMO

Diana wrote:He didn’t say she was going to be the ette a few days after just that it was hers if she wanted it. JMO. You can’t fake her tears in the preview

We have not seen who was crying. At least I have not. So it may or may not be Becca.

Nibbles22 wrote:

stuckinsc wrote:Many women have said Arie has a history of having multiple women lined up. Courtney even wrote it in her book.

Monogamy has not been his strong point, so him switching from one woman to the next kind of goes with that pattern.

Isn't that what single guys do, date multiple women until they find THE one??     That's what I did as a single woman.  I knew when I met my husband he was the one, but I dated lots and lots, and lots of men until then.  

I don't think people are expecting a guy his age to be a monk. I know I certainly don't. The issue is the fact that he seems to have multiple women on the go at once and if one starts questioning things, she is swiftly out of the rotation. This is according to several ex's ... including Courtney ... who wrote it in her book. So that is a pattern of switching when confronted or bored. He is certainly entitled to date as many as he wants, but I am just as entitled to not believe him when he says he is ready to settle down and get married and have kids...with one woman. After watching him in action on the show, I am even less inclined to believe him. He most certainly could prove me wrong, but his ex did say he would have a hard time picking just one and thus far he is proving her right since he has admitted he wanted a 5th home town date, fell in love and said he was falling to multiple women and has apparently switched just a few weeks after proposing. Doesn't sound like a solid pick to me.

I'm Just saying I still think the Finale is going to be more simple with Arie being the target of all the blame, but just the whole way things have been going since the finale, the way Arie has acted in regard the whole situation and Not a lot of women are coming at Arie just Caroline is going hard at him if we are being honest, it remains me a lot to when Nick was announced as the bachelor and Lauren came after him more than Jen Saviano, yes the guy is a doig but it just seems to me that we are missing something big, which regardless of what it is I still think Arie deserevs a lot of blame for this whole drama but again I'm just feeling hesitant to judge only knowing this little about the way things go down.

This could be me also buying into the hype and it's probably going to be nothing but this just makes me more anxious for the finale.

LiboLRC wrote:I'm Just saying I still think the Finale is going to be more simple with Arie being the target of all the blame, but just the whole way things have been going since the finale, the way Arie has acted in regard the whole situation and Not a lot of women are coming at Arie just Caroline is going hard at him if we are being honest, it remains me a lot to when Nick was announced as the bachelor and Lauren came after him more than Jen Saviano, yes the guy is a doig but it just seems to me that we are missing something big, which regardless of what it is I still think Arie deserevs a lot of blame for this whole drama but again I'm just feeling hesitant to judge only knowing this little about the way things go down.

This could be me also buying into the hype and it's probably going to be nothing but this just makes me more anxious for the finale.

Unless you are Arie, you have nothing to be anxious about.

I don't think they can have the women really going after him since technically most people still don't know the spoilers...#1 or #2. Even Caroline apparently didn't actually accuse him of anything...just sort of hinted of things to come. I think that will all come once the show airs. Arie better buckle down.

Honestly, I think lots of women have been trying to tie Arie down, and he was having none of it, and I don't see anything wrong with that.  It's not like he was living with any of these women, planning a future with them, or anything else.  Obviously they wanted more than he was able to give them.  Sorry, but a lot of those woman aren't used to rejection either, and I'm sure it was a challenge with Arie.  I just can't fault him for staying true to himself.  When you know what you want, you know what you want, and why should you settle until you find it.  It doesn't mean that you can't enjoy someone's companionship until you find it, but if they want or expect more, then hey, time to move on.