Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

I am just new here.. I will probably a lurker most of the time, I am not very good at posting but I will be very happy looking at their pictures which I am enjoying it already right now.

tealeafs wrote:

GuardianAngel wrote:

sweeti810 wrote:IMO, the first one to "move on" is usually the dumpee bc they want to make the dumper jealous. IMO, if Lauren dumped Ben she wouldn't have gone on a date to a baseball game where she's pretty much guaranteed to be shown bc her friend is the host. I say that bc I would think if she dumped him, she would care about his feelings like a normal human. Maybe she's just a bitch, but IMO, this makes me more confident that Ben dumped her fake azz

Who cares? Serious question, what does it matter? What exactly is she suppose to do to show that she cares for his feelings? Stay home and knit? I'm not sure what you expect her to do and I'm not sure how you know how hurt she was or wasn't?

If it somehow makes you feel better to think Ben was the one who broke things off then go ahead and think that. I choose to wish them both well as they move forward.

No one is saying she needs to stay home and wallow, but going to a baseball game, putting him in her stories and tweeting a rose in reference to a tweet about him seems to have shades of wanting to rub it in Ben's face. If Ben were the one doing this, I think people would be judging him more harshly.

Also, since this is a discussion forum, I think it's not necessary to draw conclusions about what makes posters "feel better" etc etc. That seems a little personal. JMO.

Why shouldn't she go to a baseball game if she had tickets? Or put him on HER social media? Ben is the one who announced his podcast in their break up announcement, he's the one 'joking' that Lauren took all of the furniture, and blogging about his future wife. But Lauren needs to watch her step, and not live her life? I love that she's open, not trying to be sneaky and hide. That's I've always found her, trying to not put on a front. And it's nice to see that cute, happy smile on her face too. Jmo

Cocoasneeze wrote:

tealeafs wrote:

GuardianAngel wrote:

Who cares? Serious question, what does it matter? What exactly is she suppose to do to show that she cares for his feelings? Stay home and knit? I'm not sure what you expect her to do and I'm not sure how you know how hurt she was or wasn't?

If it somehow makes you feel better to think Ben was the one who broke things off then go ahead and think that. I choose to wish them both well as they move forward.

No one is saying she needs to stay home and wallow, but going to a baseball game, putting him in her stories and tweeting a rose in reference to a tweet about him seems to have shades of wanting to rub it in Ben's face. If Ben were the one doing this, I think people would be judging him more harshly.

Also, since this is a discussion forum, I think it's not necessary to draw conclusions about what makes posters "feel better" etc etc. That seems a little personal. JMO.

Why shouldn't she go to a baseball game if she had tickets? Or put him on HER social media? Ben is the one who announced his podcast in their break up announcement, he's the one 'joking' that Lauren took all of the furniture, and blogging about his future wife. But Lauren needs to watch her step, and not live her life? I love that she's open, not trying to be sneaky and hide. That's I've always found her, trying to not put on a front. And it's nice to see that cute, happy smile on her face too. Jmo

I just think people are judging ben harshly and cutting Lauren extra slack. When Ben was seen with his ex, the twins (who are staying with her right now) put up a photo of Lauren in a bikini captioned "when he's seen with his ex" or something. It was way more bold than Ben talking about the breakup (which had already been announced via joint statement before the podcast) or joking about furniture. And what's wrong with writing about his future wife? Ben hasn't written off marriage entirely, he just thought it was too soon for him and Lauren.

What people?

tealeafs wrote:

Cocoasneeze wrote:

tealeafs wrote:

No one is saying she needs to stay home and wallow, but going to a baseball game, putting him in her stories and tweeting a rose in reference to a tweet about him seems to have shades of wanting to rub it in Ben's face. If Ben were the one doing this, I think people would be judging him more harshly.

Also, since this is a discussion forum, I think it's not necessary to draw conclusions about what makes posters "feel better" etc etc. That seems a little personal. JMO.

Why shouldn't she go to a baseball game if she had tickets? Or put him on HER social media? Ben is the one who announced his podcast in their break up announcement, he's the one 'joking' that Lauren took all of the furniture, and blogging about his future wife. But Lauren needs to watch her step, and not live her life? I love that she's open, not trying to be sneaky and hide. That's I've always found her, trying to not put on a front. And it's nice to see that cute, happy smile on her face too. Jmo

I just think people are judging ben harshly and cutting Lauren extra slack. When Ben was seen with his ex, the twins (who are staying with her right now) put up a photo of Lauren in a bikini captioned "when he's seen with his ex" or something. It was way more bold than Ben talking about the breakup (which had already been announced via joint statement before the podcast) or joking about furniture. And what's wrong with writing about his future wife? Ben hasn't written off marriage entirely, he just thought it was too soon for him and Lauren.

And that all your opinion.

I see nothing wrong with Lauren living her life as she wants to, and honestly, I don't see her going to a baseball game or posting about a guy on her sm has anything to do with Ben. She moving on with her life, looking happy, and I'm happy for her. If you, or other forum member want to criticize her for it, you're free to do so. I'm happily cheering Lauren on, and I hope she is having a great time. Jmo

Cocoasneeze wrote:

tealeafs wrote:

Cocoasneeze wrote:

Why shouldn't she go to a baseball game if she had tickets? Or put him on HER social media? Ben is the one who announced his podcast in their break up announcement, he's the one 'joking' that Lauren took all of the furniture, and blogging about his future wife. But Lauren needs to watch her step, and not live her life? I love that she's open, not trying to be sneaky and hide. That's I've always found her, trying to not put on a front. And it's nice to see that cute, happy smile on her face too. Jmo

I just think people are judging ben harshly and cutting Lauren extra slack. When Ben was seen with his ex, the twins (who are staying with her right now) put up a photo of Lauren in a bikini captioned "when he's seen with his ex" or something. It was way more bold than Ben talking about the breakup (which had already been announced via joint statement before the podcast) or joking about furniture. And what's wrong with writing about his future wife? Ben hasn't written off marriage entirely, he just thought it was too soon for him and Lauren.

And that all your opinion.

I see nothing wrong with Lauren living her life as she wants to, and honestly, I don't see her going to a baseball game or posting about a guy on her sm has anything to do with Ben. She moving on with her life, looking happy, and I'm happy for her. If you, or other forum member want to criticize her for it, you're free to do so. I'm happily cheering Lauren on, and I hope she is having a great time. Jmo

If Ben is also given the same "living his life as he wants to" judgement, then I see no problem with it. What struck me as odd is the apparent double standard skewing towards empowering Lauren and criticizing Ben. imo.

IMO both ben and Lauren are about to live their best lives. They weren't right for each other and have been happier than I have seen them in a long time this past month and half imo. And good for them. They both are onward and upward. Both have discussed their breakup to their benefit. Lauren used the breakup to promote her modeling photos and has done various interviews since and ben has used it to 
Promote his podcast and various interviews as well.. I dont see any as better or worse than the other. The only reason they are in the public eye is due to their relationshis so imo it's expected for it to be a topic of discussion for the both of them.

tealeafs wrote:

Cocoasneeze wrote:

tealeafs wrote:

I just think people are judging ben harshly and cutting Lauren extra slack. When Ben was seen with his ex, the twins (who are staying with her right now) put up a photo of Lauren in a bikini captioned "when he's seen with his ex" or something. It was way more bold than Ben talking about the breakup (which had already been announced via joint statement before the podcast) or joking about furniture. And what's wrong with writing about his future wife? Ben hasn't written off marriage entirely, he just thought it was too soon for him and Lauren.

And that all your opinion.

I see nothing wrong with Lauren living her life as she wants to, and honestly, I don't see her going to a baseball game or posting about a guy on her sm has anything to do with Ben. She moving on with her life, looking happy, and I'm happy for her. If you, or other forum member want to criticize her for it, you're free to do so. I'm happily cheering Lauren on, and I hope she is having a great time. Jmo

If Ben is also given the same "living his life as he wants to" judgement, then I see no problem with it. What struck me as odd is the apparent double standard skewing towards empowering Lauren and criticizing Ben. imo.

100%. Ben had so many mean comments on IG for the ex thing...which honestly, IMO, was a non-event. Legit nothing. Yet whatever Lauren does, whatever her bffs the twins do - the ones who post and attack others on her behalf, she gets a free pass. What would people be saying if Ben got into a relationship with someone? "Oh wow, he's so insecure, he's already in someone else's bed, he's trying to make Lauren feel bad" I can see it now. And that double standard is annoying af.

tealeafs wrote:

Cocoasneeze wrote:

tealeafs wrote:

I just think people are judging ben harshly and cutting Lauren extra slack. When Ben was seen with his ex, the twins (who are staying with her right now) put up a photo of Lauren in a bikini captioned "when he's seen with his ex" or something. It was way more bold than Ben talking about the breakup (which had already been announced via joint statement before the podcast) or joking about furniture. And what's wrong with writing about his future wife? Ben hasn't written off marriage entirely, he just thought it was too soon for him and Lauren.

And that all your opinion.

I see nothing wrong with Lauren living her life as she wants to, and honestly, I don't see her going to a baseball game or posting about a guy on her sm has anything to do with Ben. She moving on with her life, looking happy, and I'm happy for her. If you, or other forum member want to criticize her for it, you're free to do so. I'm happily cheering Lauren on, and I hope she is having a great time. Jmo

If Ben is also given the same "living his life as he wants to" judgement, then I see no problem with it. What struck me as odd is the apparent double standard skewing towards empowering Lauren and criticizing Ben. imo.

I honestly don't care, if you see or don't see a problem with it. If I see Ben doing something that makes me go hmm, I'll post about it, and not think twice how I posted about Lauren before. I like Lauren looking so happy, and I doubt her actions have anything to do with Ben. In the latter part of the relationship she definitely didn't look this happy, and that's why it's good, that Lauren is moving on. Jmo.

ETA: @hannah.e. funnily, there was just a post basically saying this about Lauren. How she's doing this all to rub it in Ben's face etc. The beauty of discussion forum, where both negative and less negative posts can co exist.

Cocoasneeze wrote:

tealeafs wrote:

Cocoasneeze wrote:

And that all your opinion.

I see nothing wrong with Lauren living her life as she wants to, and honestly, I don't see her going to a baseball game or posting about a guy on her sm has anything to do with Ben. She moving on with her life, looking happy, and I'm happy for her. If you, or other forum member want to criticize her for it, you're free to do so. I'm happily cheering Lauren on, and I hope she is having a great time. Jmo

If Ben is also given the same "living his life as he wants to" judgement, then I see no problem with it. What struck me as odd is the apparent double standard skewing towards empowering Lauren and criticizing Ben. imo.

I honestly don't care, if you see or don't see a problem with it. If I see Ben doing something that makes me go hmm, I'll post about it, and not think twice how I posted about Lauren before. I like Lauren looking so happy, and I doubt her actions have anything to do with Ben. In the latter part of the relationship she definitely didn't look this happy, and that's why it's good, that Lauren is moving on. Jmo.

It's just easier to look smiley and candidly happy in a baseball screenshot than a posed instagram photo. To me, her insta posts look just as manufactured and dolled up. I don't think it's fair to compare her at a game with Devin to her with Ben in a posed shoot where she's super aware of how her face looks. imo

Lauren very well may be wanting to appear happier on purpose. Hey look at me, I'm SO happy now. The things she does, the things she posts are deliberate IMO.

IDK, she can live life however she wants. I just find it funny she's being praised for publicly posting and attending the game with this guy while Ben was raked over the coals for being in the same place as his ex so he could attend a mutual friends' kids bday party while never even acknowledging his ex. Feels like a double standard to me but I'm not a fan of either one of them.
JMO