Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #8

I don't think Ben knows who he is or what he wants.
However, he has no problem dishing out advice for others (which I can't stand since he should be the one taking his own advice, imo).

jmo

Im throwing it out there, if Ben and Lauren break up, he'll get back together with his ex within a year. Jmo. Imo there's a weird thing going on, when I read this all from here. Jmo.

^ she might be in a relationship but idk??? I don't think Ben likes her posts much at all.
But I'm not opposed to the idea. I can't picture Ben wanting to be with anyone other than Lauren tbh. That boy is a lovesick puppy for her

My hope is that people in this franchise stop seeing breakups as something that is detrimental to their image and stop being in an unhappy relationship just to save face. IMO There is no saving-face or maintaining image for any of them - be it 2 months or 2 years. People will still say all sorts of things on their SM for a few days irrespective of what happens and then move on with their lives IMO. Why continue to be miserable to uphold a certain idea in the minds of people who have no bearing on their lives? Life is too short to be miserable IMHO.

I hope Ben and Lauren both find happiness and peace. They might be a reality TV couple who chose to put their lives on camera for my entertainment but at the end of the day, they are still regular people with feelings who are going through an admittedly tough time. I wish them nothing but the best.

All JMO

I'm always a little sad when a long term couple break up and in Bachelor terms, this is a long term couple. That said, I was always blah about both of them individually and as a couple. They had chemistry from the start, but that isn't enough to sustain a relationship over the long haul. They seem very different people with very different lifestyles. Better that they break up now than after they are married.

In terms of who is at fault, I don't blame either more than the other. Ben has his issues, but so does Lauren. I don't see either of them being nasty....at least thus far. If they end it in a civil manner and don't start going after one another on SM post break up I will continue to hold a fairly good blah opinion of both. If they start attacking or throwing shade at one another on SM or in interviews, I can easily change that to a negative blah opinion. Either way, I just can't get that worked up about these two.

Mommyof2 wrote:I've said it before and I will say it again, Ben needs to find a more compatible match.  Someone who is not high maintenance, who enjoys helping on mission trips, not a big party girl, basically someone the opposite of Lauren.  In this case, opposites do not always attract.  They can initially, but in the end you need something to bond you together.  Jmho.

Agreed. However, I see this as more of a thing where Ben didn't realize they were opposites. I think he was a goner the moment he saw her and fell in love with the idea of who he thought she was. A reverse Witney and Chris if you will, with Ben as Witney. In real life they seem like such a mismatch. I'm not much of a Ben fan, he's fine but nothing special to me, but really have never been able to warm up to Lauren at all. She always seemed so cold, bland and devoid of emotion to me. I really didn't expect her to be as superficial as she has turned out to be IMO and I'd guess Ben didn't either. JMO.

I'm glad they're moving on from each other (if they are) and hope they each find a better match.

In case anyone is curious what Lauren is doing in Vegas.. Well she's in a DJ's snapchat (@diplo) dancing about low to the ground. Ahahahah
Doesn't look one bit sad. Looks happy actually

Good for her, if she's having a good time. Jmo

^ omg wooow . If you look at her IG pics pre-Bach..going to vegas and dancing next to DJ's was her thing after her other break up too. I hope Ben was the one who ended it because he saw that she's NOT this 'simple' girl from Portland. People can act and do whatever they want after a break up..everyone's different, but still...it comes across as trashy and kinda disrespectful towards Ben I think. Like if you're hurting from this breakup with 'the love of your life'...first thing is partying with DJ's in Vegas makes sense obvs JMO

WOW,then saying I love you to two women N cancelling wedding in a very public platform by blindsiding her must be a very gentlemanly thing to do.And noone has even confirmed the breakup .Even the infamous reality steve IMO is just shooting the darts on dark like everyone . If he had a solid proof of them breaking up , he would have given it to the bachelor nation . I don't believe he will think about anyone's privacy if it benefits him or makes him the god who knows everything in beforehand . JMO

I think Ben deleted a picture promoting the Disney's special off IG...They weren't in the pic though

coolangel wrote:My hope is that people in this franchise stop seeing breakups as something that is detrimental to their image and stop being in an unhappy relationship just to save face. IMO There is no saving-face or maintaining image for any of them - be it 2 months or 2 years. People will still say all sorts of things on their SM for a few days irrespective of what happens and then move on with their lives IMO. Why continue to be miserable to uphold a certain idea in the minds of people who have no bearing on their lives? Life is too short to be miserable IMHO.

I hope Ben and Lauren both find happiness and peace. They might be a reality TV couple who chose to put their lives on camera for my entertainment but at the end of the day, they are still regular people with feelings who are going through an admittedly tough time. I wish them nothing but the best.

All JMO

Totally agree with this post .... They are both regular people going through a tough time . I find it extremely tasteless when a post is made that they will laugh when they officially break up. I find it sad that some people find humor in this. I too wish them nothing but the best and hope they truly find the right one. JMO