Vanessa Grimaldi - Bachelor 21 - *Sleuthing Spoilers* #5

Newto wrote:IMHO:  Kaitlyn and Shawn can split their time between US and Canada because they don't seem to have "real jobs."  Vanessa's profession means she needs to be in one place for the entire school year.  As for Nick, really can't figure out what he's doing for a living these days outside of Bach and DWTS.  They will have to put down roots somewhere.

Mgrissom wrote:In the last part of their date sitting on the couch, we never see both of their faces at the same time.  I swear the look on Nick's face when she tells him she loves him has been switched the video and the sound don't go together when the shot is on him and she is talking.  He doesn't react at all when she tells him she loves him - they must have rearranged that video.

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Cocoasneeze wrote:I just rewatched their scenes, and holy goodness, they have these discussions I don't remember hearing on this show often. Core values. What they are willing to compromise on. Are they too similar as personalities. None of their discussions were Bach fluff and show speak. They're out of the bubble, while in the bubble. Amazing!

One of the sm complaints about Vanessa has been 'What show did she think she signed up for?!' And IMO that's a positive when it's been meant as a negative. She's not going to settle for being no appreciated, even though she met Nick on this show. And that's great. She doesn't want to be a default choice, when nothing else is left, she wants to be the first and only choice. That's brilliant, IMO.

  Vanessa's FS 1-4  -  Deleted Scenes from New Orleans  (Nick's talking to Chris about 5 girls - Vanessa is someone he is very attracted to and he needs more time to be with her)  -  The Untold Truth Of The Bachelor


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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wQWstqWbWHU&t=34s

AllAboutLove wrote:I don't think just because one has a socially defined typical job that that alone should be reason for the other moving. Whomever earns the higher income (and has higher earning income potential, whomever wants to potentially be the breadwinner, if one wants children and possibly stay home, etc) and whatever is the long term strategy for the future (what makes sense for the couple in the long term, so years down the road) are what I could see as the deciding factors for Nick and Vanessa if they are thinking long term. There's a lot of unknowns still but whatever they decide as a couple together is what's best for them is what matters most, IMO.

Catdwoman50 wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:I don't think just because one has a socially defined typical job that that alone should be reason for the other moving. Whomever earns the higher income (and has higher earning income potential, whomever wants to potentially be the breadwinner, if one wants children and possibly stay home, etc) and whatever is the long term strategy for the future (what makes sense for the couple in the long term, so years down the road) are what I could see as the deciding factors for Nick and Vanessa if they are thinking long term. There's a lot of unknowns still but whatever they decide as a couple together is what's best for them is what matters most, IMO.

This! It is not about who will make the sacrifice, it is about deciding together how they see their immediate and long term future, near term and long term priorities, and then collaboratively working towards that.

ukglasgowkiiss wrote:I have it sussed.
Atfr - Nick comes on dressed as a Canadian Mountie & proposes, she says yes then they ride off together on a moose.

Catdwoman50 wrote:

AllAboutLove wrote:I don't think just because one has a socially defined typical job that that alone should be reason for the other moving. Whomever earns the higher income (and has higher earning income potential, whomever wants to potentially be the breadwinner, if one wants children and possibly stay home, etc) and whatever is the long term strategy for the future (what makes sense for the couple in the long term, so years down the road) are what I could see as the deciding factors for Nick and Vanessa if they are thinking long term. There's a lot of unknowns still but whatever they decide as a couple together is what's best for them is what matters most, IMO.

This! It is not about who will make the sacrifice, it is about deciding together how they see their immediate and long term future, near term and long term priorities, and then collaboratively working towards that.