Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

Yeahhhh Bach Nation and those who surround them can keep endless number of therapists and Prozac dispensaries in business for the next millennium. IMO.

ReneeM wrote:

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:Here's that lovely scene that got cut out of the epsiode and deleted from Twitter/Facebook. Annamarie was able to snag it before it vanished from the Internet

https://youtu.be/QF5euogihiU

The best part of this is that it's clearly not cut up by editing, we see her saying full sentences, those were the words coming out of her mouth. There might be other information I'm not aware of to the contrary but I think I'm gonna take her word for it.

Yeah, I don't think she was lying either Ben and Lauren both talked about how the process was emotional, and Mrs. Higgins spent such little time with each of them, accepted Lauren after the fact, blah blah blah, and essentially dove into all of that, that it seems like it was true on some level. Though watching the show back, I'm sure Ben's mom preferred Lauren, because it was obvious Ben preferred Lauren All the mama wants is for her baby to be happy! IMO.

Lauren saved her biggest smile of the interview for when the interviewer asked to see the ring - not when Ben said they wanted to get married in 2017.  They look forced in that interview standing far apart. Ben is a smooth BSer.

Forgot the all just IMO

^ Mama Higgins must be royally ticked off now though that Lauren apparently can't talk her sweet, grown man baby Ben off of the ledge. IMO

Meh... You live and learn and each relationship helps you better figure out what you do and don't want, IMO.  So, I don't necessarily see her or Ben being all that ticked off with Lauren.  Not sure if I can say the same aobut Lauren with her SM posts of late.

Sometimes, IMO, love is simply not enough reason to stay or continue a relationship if morals, values, personalities, and what you what in and out of life and relationships are that different.  IMO, if and when they finally announce they're done, they can say they tried and in the end it just didn't work.  They'll both find the right one when the time is right and this experience will only make them appreciate their special someone all the more.  JMO

I'm sure ticked off isn't the right word for Mama H. right now.

Devastated. Mama H is probably devastated for her poor, little unlovable boy.  But seriously though... I'm sure she is sad for Ben (and Lauren). I'm sure they wanted this to work for him, and I'm sure they want Ben to find a life partner. 

I get it. My mom sometimes gets overly invested in my little bro's life. Little brother had a pretty bad breakup over the summer. I was more worried for my mom than my brother, TBH.  Also I have a son. He may be a toddler now, but someday I hope he finds a partner to love him. I don't wish for him to go through public breakups or think of himself as unloveable. I want him always to feel adequate and lovable and I want those things to come easily for him - as all mothers do, I'm sure!

Ben is not unlovable, he just use his picker to choose, bad move.  The little I saw of her, I did not think she was right for him. IMHOAA.  We were spoil already and I watch 3 episode and I was done.  I just read after that to form my opinion.

IMO neither Ben or Lauren are bad people, but IMO he's just simply not ready for marriage or living together kind of relationship. With anyone. He needs to find himself, what he wants from life, build himself up, his confidence, and then find a partner from those circles. IMO he simply can't do any more reality tv, and try to find a partner that way. Three times is way too much, IMO. He also has to face it, and admit, that he needs attention on himself, IMO, be it from the camera, fans, interviews, whatever way, he loves the limelight, IMO. Maybe he could try to bring cameras with him to the charity trips he does, combine the two things he loves.

Lauren, IMO, is ready. When she'll meet the guy, who'll meet her half way she'll compromise, make an effort, support him etc, IMO. In that regard she's got no issues at all. IMO.

Changing the conversation away from Ben's mom and who she may have preferred because IMO it's irrelevant

Ben posted this picture and lauren commented she missed him.
https://instagram.com/p/BQ16N8SjaHJ/

Lauren's family continues to like things  on SM of Ben's and vice versa for Ben. I don't believe everything if perfect between these two but I just don't feel like these two are pretending to be together when they've been broken up for months. IMO, the theory that they need to wait to announce their break up until next month doesn't appear valid to me.

In Lauren's snapchat video, she said tomorrow is her last day of "events" with some company where she's shooting a YouTube video. I'm sure her stay at that hotel with Amanda was comped by them to promote it. This is essentially what she's created for herself post bachelor, and if BenLo are okay with it then that's fine. If her need to travel to LA is hard on their relationship, I hope they find a balance or some sort of compromise. The opportunities are coming to Lauren & I'm sure she loves going back to LA to see her friends, brother and sister. Just like Ben has different opportunities that may come up with H&H. They are independent people who appear to both enjoy having their own "work"

IMO lauren posting about "missing" him is akin to how you tell a friend of a friend you met twice you miss them when you run into them in the deli aisle of Trader Joe's after not seeing them for a year and feverishly looking them up on Facebook to remember their name. I'm expecting the next post to suggest they "get together sometime, text me!!" IMO.

I'm in no way comparing these two couples and saying they're similar, however, a couple of years ago I watched one couple grab dinner with her parents and saw fan pictures of them smiling and laughing at the dinner table. They appeared on a red carpet three days later together. A few days after that, they were broken up.

Randomly liking each other's posts or having family members randomly liking the posts of their daughters significant other really don't mean a thing to me. JMO

Alanna wrote:IMO lauren posting about "missing" him is akin to how you tell a friend of a friend you met twice you miss them when you run into them in the deli aisle of Trader Joe's after not seeing them for a year and feverishly looking them up on Facebook to remember their name. I'm expecting the next post to suggest they "get together sometime, text me!!" IMO.

"I miss you both"
Ben better take the "monkey" back with him, uno for some company