Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

I don't like or dislike them. I guess if I had to gauge myself it would be more like than dislike.
With that being said, I think they both would have served themselves and their relationship better if they had stayed off SM or restricted it greatly.
I will be the first to say I don't understand this SM promotion crap. It's not a good thing.imo Yeah, you can earn a lot of easy money fast. I get that. But maybe the all mighty dollar should not be the new deity. IMO
I see the negatives of SM diarrhea outweighing the benefits. In order to keep their 15 minutes rolling, they did another reality show. They put every fart out there for every nut to read and comment on. Why? Who needs that? How does that help anyone personally? IMO it does not.
So now they got what they got.
I think it's time, if they value anything Ben/Lo to keep it personal and screw the public. That's if they really care and if they really aren't addicted to SM. 2 big if's IMO

Sometimes time apart can show that the relationship is worth working on. Lauren said they a trying. IMO they have had some obstacles to overcome but perhaps them can learn from them. I have never doubted these two love each other. Hopefully they decide what is best for them both. Happiness is worth the work it takes to find....whatever that may be. IMO.
JMO

Aww the IG story from JJ is kinda cute. Maybe they're tolerating each other in short spurts .

bleuberry wrote:Aww the IG story from JJ is kinda cute. Maybe they're tolerating each other in short spurts .

Ben did say that sometimes he can't stand being around himself 24/7

I really don't know much about these two and all of their issues (individually and as a couple), but sometimes it just takes time to figure things out. This could be time spent apart or time spent together, as long as it is time spent focusing on themselves (as individuals and as a couple).

The way I see it is: 1) They are not trying to figure out if they are attracted to one another or if they like/love one another. They are trying to figure out if the other person is the person that they want and need to go through the trial and tribulations of life with. Is he/she the one person that they want to rely on when the chit hits the fan. It is easy to be compatible when the times are breezy and fun. The marriages that last are the ones in which the 2 people work well as a team - in good times and bad, sickness and health, richer and poorer. A proper analysis of whether or not you think you are compatible enough to commit to a lifetime together should take time. Other than parenthood, it is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make in your life.  Which leads me to....

2) This is NOT a decision that should involve anyone else's opinions/comments than their own. SM feedback should NOT be involved in this analysis at all. Even though I don't really know these two, my gut feeling of Ben is that he worries about the opinions of others perhaps too much. I also think that sharing/over-sharing their personal lives on SM is only muddying the waters more.

All IMO.

I said earlier that I hope she finds someone who cherishes her with his actions and words. I actually do hope it ends up being Ben...


From Ben's instagram

I know I'm biased because I'm not a fan of either of them, I see a lot of awkwardness in that picture.

It looks like a fan picture Ben looks awkward

I like them both. Both of them may have issues, insecurity, the need to be liked, whatever it may be. I do however find it interesting that IMO they don't do anything different than any other person on SM and I don't just mean contestants. There are millions of SM users who post every minute of the lives for anyone and everyone to see who do not have to put up with nasty comments. As far as former contestants are concerned, she is not the only one that does photo shoots posts selfies listens to sappy music has a blog and does crazy girl stuff.

I also find it appalling that after all this time, there is a level of "hate" on SM for someone who IMO hasn't done anything wrong. I truthfully don't understand. I don't read many comments so I don't know what percentage is positive or negative, but I would think that having a heart and wishing someone well during turbulent times would make one feel better and set examples, rather than posting such mean hateful messages. We all post our opinions on this forum and that's what we do, however SM is IMO a place where some people loose all sense of mankind and they are the real ones who need help and should stay off. I don't think it's fair that Ben and Lauren need to stay off SM just because people are nuts. They have every right IMO just as the next person that's posting music blogs clothing makeup etc.

They decided to participate in HEA, success or not it was IMO an opportunity for them at the time. If it brought issues to the forefront, that they need to deal with, I don't see anything wrong with that. Same as Marriage Boot Camp or any of those types of shows. Maybe it helped some viewers who were trapped in an engagement and didn't know how to get out of it, or helped someone understand the importance of communicating. I remember walking down the isle thinking WTH am I doing because I didn't have the guts to call it off. Both had successful jobs before, they got up every morning and went to work, they can go back to their jobs if they choose to. If they are having issues, and are trying to resolve them, at least IMHO they recognize and are willing to work at it.

@GuardianAngel completely agree with you .

Cila51290 wrote:It looks like a fan picture Ben looks awkward

Ben always looks awkward. From the time they went public, most of all his pics are awkward . He has never been over the top with PDA either in snaps or instagram or twitter . Hence I didn't find this pic any awkward . That's classic Ben .