Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #4

Ben didn't spend Christmas in Indiana with his family last year. He spent it in Denver with friends, at a bar to be exact. IMO, its clear he has no issues being away from his family during the holidays, as he has spent them apart before. Couple that with the he fact that every other holiday this year has been spent with Lauren's family, as they were in Indiana for the two holidays (Easter and 4th of July) he has spent with his family, I think he is justified in wanting to spend some good quality time with his family.

hae1001 wrote:Ben didn't spend Christmas in Indiana with his family last year. He spent it in Denver with friends, at a bar to be exact.

I actually find this endearing for some reason .  I mean, it's kind of weird but normal at the same time, if that makes any sense?

Anyway, I don't follow Ben/Lauren all that closely and didn't watch their show (mostly because they seem so meh), but seeing now as there may or may not be trouble, maybe I should start....

kimberlyg wrote:

hae1001 wrote:Ben didn't spend Christmas in Indiana with his family last year. He spent it in Denver with friends, at a bar to be exact.

I actually find this endearing for some reason .  I mean, it's kind of weird but normal at the same time, if that makes any sense?

Anyway, I don't follow Ben/Lauren all that closely and didn't watch their show (mostly because they seem so meh), but seeing now as there may or may not be trouble, maybe I should start....

Haha, that was the same reason I was thinking about checking out their show! They've always been such a lackluster couple to me, who I figured would probably get married since they're so generic and too boring to have any actual drama. Now, that I'm hearing they might be having some problems, they've become a tiny, tiny bit interesting to me! I heard that the bachelor episode is crazy amounts of awkward and innapropriate though...

There's no trouble IMO! And the show is NOT worth watching IMO! All you really need to do to get the gist of the show is: 1) Read recaps from Vulture.com 2) Look at the manips, videos, and pics on Pacozero IG account 3) Read the forums ! That is literally all it takes IMO.

But is this trouble or is this just how they are? Totally lukewarm posts about their 1 year anniversary, Ben being totally unresponsive to why taking away/giving back a wedding might not be fun for Lauren, okay spending the holidays apart? It seems this is just how and who they are and nothing out of the ordinary. All IMO.

Alanna wrote:But is this trouble or is this just how they are? Totally lukewarm posts about their 1 year anniversary, Ben being totally unresponsive to why taking away/giving back a wedding might not be fun for Lauren, okay spending the holidays apart? It seems this is just how and who they are and nothing out of the ordinary. All IMO.

I think this is just how they are! Lauren doesn't appear to be a super emotional, attached, romance-y type of person (I totally get that.) Ben is though (way too much, might I add) IMO.

And I truly don't get why it's such a big whoop that they're spending Christmas apart.. They're celebrating with both of their families together, just not on the day. Christmas is important to history, yeah, but it's just a day. Just like a birthday is just a day or an anniversary or whatever. IMO.

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:

Alanna wrote:But is this trouble or is this just how they are? Totally lukewarm posts about their 1 year anniversary, Ben being totally unresponsive to why taking away/giving back a wedding might not be fun for Lauren, okay spending the holidays apart? It seems this is just how and who they are and nothing out of the ordinary. All IMO.

I think this is just how they are! Lauren doesn't appear to be a super emotional, attached, romance-y type of person (I totally get that.) Ben is though (way too much, might I add) IMO.

And I truly don't get why it's such a big whoop that they're spending Christmas apart.. They're celebrating with both of their families together, just not on the day. Christmas is important to history, yeah, but it's just a day. Just like a birthday is just a day or an anniversary or whatever. IMO.

Yeah, for them it might just be what you said. It's just another day, but they clearly wanted to be with their own families for it so there's some sort of meaning of Christmas for them. Once you're engaged to someone, they're your family. It's about building a life together while blending your previous lives together. Christmas, anniversaries, birthdays, etc. are about being with your loved ones and making memories IMO.

Ben apparently spent Thanksgiving in CA with the Bushnells. Perhaps it would have been nice for Lauren to spend this weekend with her fiancé and his parents and then head to Portland the day after. That's just my opinion though and not something they have to do

I think it's funny that such a boring, meh, lukewarm, drab couple has 8 pages and counting discussing their Christmas plans.

sosleepy wrote:I think it's funny that such a boring, meh, lukewarm, drab couple has 8 pages and counting discussing their Christmas plans.

We are bored and waiting for the Jomama showdown to start already!!

Alanna wrote:

sosleepy wrote:I think it's funny that such a boring, meh, lukewarm, drab couple has 8 pages and counting discussing their Christmas plans.

We are bored and waiting for the Jomama showdown to start already!!

Gosh. So off topic. Forgive me. Jomama!!! Who came up with that?! Soooooo freaking funny.

Ok sorry. Back to lukewarm Christmas plan discussions.

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:
And I truly don't get why it's such a big whoop that they're spending Christmas apart

It's just ugly to me tbh. Like I understand if circumstances like a family emergency, or work etc, force you to be apart for Christmas but willingly choosing to be separate from my fiancé for christmas? The whole situation is a no from me. It's their life they can do what they want, and this is a forum where I can state my opinion on it.

Alanna wrote:

sosleepy wrote:I think it's funny that such a boring, meh, lukewarm, drab couple has 8 pages and counting discussing their Christmas plans.

We are bored and waiting for the Jomama showdown to start already!!

Haha! Warming up with B&L and MM lite.