THE BACHELORETTE - SEASON 12 - JOJO FLETCHER - **NO SPOILERS** - Episode Discussion - *SLEUTHING* DISCUSSION #2

rhondam Love that gorgeous profile of his, Jojo is one lucky girl! Take 'the passion that is Luke' girl!

moon, would love to know! Crazy how that info is out there for anyone to see!

moonchild wrote:I have the reported net worth of the remaining guys.  Do you want me to post them?  There are some surprises!

Please do.

^^I'm fine with knowing this info if everyone else is.

@moonchild - I responded to you, please send it to me first before posting. TYIA

i think their profession is extremely important, and so is their financial stability, and would never call that being shallow. Id call it prudent and wise to look into that. I also dont put a heck of a lot of stock into the reasons contestants go on this show as Id say most have ulterior motives initially but that doesnt mean they cant or wont fall for the lead. Guys like James worry me more, as theyre kind of desperate if they can fall in love that quickly, I think.

Guys like Jordan and Chase probably go on the show for the adventure, travel, meet a cute girl and hang out and party with a bunch of other dudes for a month or two. They realistically know theyre odds are 1 in 25. Once they meet they lead and develop feelings for them in the bubble, anything can happen. All this being there "for the right reasons" is just the contestants trying to throw each other under the bus to make themselves look better.

^ I just cannot express enough how much I love this post!! 

I think that it boils down to what she wants out of this. It appears that all of these guys are ambitious, as is she. I dont think that any of them would have gotten this far if she didnt get that from them as part of her attraction to them. I also think that she knows that she has financial security through her family, not saying she doesnt want to make her own way.

She said that with Ben she felt respected, she felt loved. Now that she knows that exists, she wants that more than anything. That deep trusting unconditional love. I dont think she is looking for financial security or a showmance. I think she likes being in love and she likes being in committed relationships. She now understands that she should get back as much as she gives in a relationship and she wants that more than anything. JMO

I think the realistic leads go into this WANTING to find a long term relationship but realize there's a chance theyre not going to find Mr or Ms Right so they give it a shot with the one theyre most attracted to .... Just like we all do in real life. I dont see Jojo as being desperate to find a husband, and thats why I think shes foing to choose Jordan as he'll be fun for as long as it lasts and who knows... He could end up being her inicorn after all

moonchild wrote:I think that it boils down to what she wants out of this.  It appears that all of these guys are ambitious, as is she.  I dont think that any of them would have gotten this far if she didnt get that from them as part of her attraction to them.  I also think that she knows that she has financial security through her family, not saying she doesnt want to make her own way.

She said that with Ben she felt respected, she felt loved.  Now that she knows that exists, she wants that more than anything.  That deep trusting unconditional love.  I dont think she is looking for financial security or a showmance.  I think she likes being in love and she likes being in committed relationships.  She now understands that she should get back as much as she gives in a relationship and she wants that more than anything.  JMO

I agree with the bolded and that she legitimately seems to want to hopefully meet the one. I also agree that she isn't looking for financial stability or a showmance. That said, and what I said in Thread #1 is, if the guy(s) she's considering are equal to her in all manners important to her: the unconditional love, the trust the security, the passion and all else that is on on her list, I think she would lean (and so would I) to the guy who upsets her current, day-to-day life the least. I'm thinking of longevity and possible future obstacles that MAY arise and I think that she would consider EVERYTHING when deciding on the ONE that she wants to spend her life with but I do not think it is high on her list IMO. 

northernviewer wrote:I think the  realistic leads go into this WANTING to find a long term relationship but realize there's a chance theyre not going to find Mr or Ms Right so they give it a shot with the one theyre most attracted to .... Just like we all do in real life.   I dont see Jojo as being desperate to find a husband, and thats why I think shes foing to choose Jordan as he'll be fun for as long as it lasts and who knows... He could end up being her inicorn after all

From her's and Jordan's interactions as well as from what she says, her expressions and body language, compared to these exact same things with the other three, I see her choosing Jordan too. JMO.

Jordan is an actor? Now that I think about it, he seemed very into singing the JoJo song It explains things. Maybe he was able to keep a level head through this season because he's able to perform. Jo at times early in Ben's season seemed able to go along with the script, too. If they both have stars in their eyes, then maybe Jordan as F1 makes the most sense. They could possibly become the new Rancics.

Jordan has been so heavily featured this season that it would be highly unlikely that he's not getting offers for something.

As for the guys' financial status, 1. I'd be interested in seeing their stats 2. We will know more about them on their HTDs. 3. I would think that Jo is interested in maintaining her current standard of living. Studies show that these days most people pair with someone who is their peer intellectually, physically, and financially though there are outliers.

northernviewer wrote:I think the  realistic leads go into this WANTING to find a long term relationship but realize there's a chance theyre not going to find Mr or Ms Right so they give it a shot with the one theyre most attracted to .... Just like we all do in real life.   I dont see Jojo as being desperate to find a husband, and thats why I think shes foing to choose Jordan as he'll be fun for as long as it lasts and who knows... He could end up being her inicorn after all

You are right, if she didnt find what she is looking for, Jordan makes the most sense. They just have developed " bachelr bubble " feelings.

FYI, it didn't sound like much of an acting gig, hence the .  Dude was also in Pitch Perfect with some football players because he could sing.

Sort of OT/Meta:  I don't think something from over a year before the show airs is a spoiler.  Like, Jordan is an ex-NFL player.  We know that from his tag and he's talked about it on the show.  I checked on the teams and then saw why/when he quit, which was a long time before the show. Someone else in these threads talked about the Pitch Perfect thing a while ago, and that wasn't considered a spoiler either.  I don't think jobs or money is a spoiler either.  To me a spoiler is something that directly has to do with the show and effects the outcome or the episode in some way (i.e. something about dates or when someone actually gets sent home, or who wins, or plot point of some type).  Knowing what the guys actually do isn't that; especially ones with vague titles.