Josh Murray - BIP - Famously Single - Season 3 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

Why does Amanda get the Amanduh title? Why does everyone think she's so dim, so stupid, such a pushover? Where does that come from? Is it maybe the baby voice or the excessive use of the word like? Outside of that, I thought Amanda was fine, and definitely one of the more mature girls on Ben's season. I won't personally use leaving her girls behind to do this show against her, because she's not the first to do so, nor will she be the last.

I saw a girl who married and had babies young, and maybe she did that with the wrong guy, but lots of people make that kind of mistake. She seemed (to me) to take her mom role seriously, and wanted to do well by her daughters, and felt immense guilt for how things turned out for her girls and her family. She always seemed supportive, friendly, and mature to me on Ben's season.  Lauren said in some interview she really gravitated to Amanda because she was "so calm" and "motherly," knew how to help Lauren keep her cool. I thought she was pretty classy too. While I did get the impression that she's type B and chill, unlike Andi, I don't get the impression she'd be a complete pushover with Josh.

GuardianAngel wrote:Ia @SeekAny I'm thinking he needs someone like Amanda, laid back, patient, and hopefully they can make it work.

Maybe CH handed out free bees of the book to everyone when they arrived.  

I could see TPTB putting them in their goody bags. They have a lot of time on their hands.

Good post sosleepy. My two daughters are quiet women and some might wrongly think they are pushovers, but let me tell you, you cross them and they rear their ugly heads. A few men found that out the hard way. They are no way going to allow a man to walk all over them.

Being quiet and soft spoken does not mean empty headed nor submissive. We all learn, hopefully, with age and experience, to pick our battles and don't sweat the small things.

I also think Josh's temper is mostly due to immaturity, but the thing is he's almost 32! If he still doesn't know how to handle negativity like an adult then will he ever? Some people never learn.

I don't think Amanda is a pushover either. She may have been at some point, but I think she can hold her own by now. Don't let the sweet and calm exterior fool you. People would probably call me docile as well, but I'm only like that until you cross me. I can definitely stand up for myself.

JMO: 
I think she mentioned that she made some very poor choices regarding her ex multiple times despite knowing and ignoring some glaring red flags. This was prior to marrying him. Then she got pregnant and still married him.
Then she repeated the same process and got pregnant again knowing the same things and the same stuff could happen. It did. 
Then she goes on a reality tv show leaving the kids, who are quite young for what 5-6 weeks? 
Then she kind of whines about it at her exit? 
Then she goes on another reality show and leaves them again. Expecting exactly what? Even if it ended in a MF engagement, at this point that is all it is--an MF engagement. 
So this could easily be why the DUH is added to her name. Just saying.

And--I am a culprit here, also --but--this is not her thread.

^^ Ack! Sorry Kasha! Forgot where I was, exactly. It's hard to separate all thoughts Josh from Amanda since they are all Twu wuv now!

I agree, she hasn't made all the wisest choices, and I think I acknowledged that in my initial post. I guess I can see giving her the duh title based on that. I just also saw someone who acknowledged her mistakes and wanted better for herself and her girls. And overall, I thought she handled herself well on the show the first time.

Oookay! Sorry! Back to Josh!

If RS is true about the twins warning Amanda about Josh's behavior.. man, will Andi come out smelling like roses?!?

I think it's more about how Josh behaves after he finds out the twins warned Amanda. If he shows any kind of a temper or anger, then, yes, I think andi will be vindicated.

Idk why either of those psychos (Josh or Andi) need to come out smelling like roses.

I don't know if it's even possible.

Andi will never be vindicated to me. EVER! Even if Josh is a hothead or controlling, no one in my opinion deserves to be eviscerated publicly like he was in Andi's book. For any faults he may have, I still think the good in him far outweighs the bad.

I can't see him ever coming out of this "smelling like a rose", but if he can have a successful relationship with Amanda and eventually get married and have the family he desires, he still wins.

why should Jish not get angry/upset if Ananda was warned about him by the twins? Is he expected to just smile away a situation?