Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion

bleuberry wrote:I'm definitely looking forward to seeing this video. I'm such a drama queen .

Haha same!! First thought was, "woah, they just got interesting!"  It's probably nothing, if anything, Ben seems more likely to cry than Lauren if they fight.

I see Lauren's Twitter comment (say whattttttt?) and her mother's comment could be showing us that Lauren might be a little naive about post life bachelor IMO. I say this as a supporter, but they are living through something they have never experience before. Lauren has stated she's still trying to get used to people recognizing her and wanting a picture. She envisions herself as someone so normal. Ben and her aren't googling their names every night looking at the news articles being posted about them. They are living life and probably are surprised that a moment was sold to the tabloids. They're still in a city but not NY or LA, so if I were them I would probably be a little more relaxed. IMO, they will learn a lot from whatever the release of this video entails. I think they'll learn that right now People still are interested in them and Denver isn't as private as they maybe hoped it would be. Thankful it's not LA though.

I was just thinking about that young girl who straight up told Ben she wished he had picked JoJo. If I was in Lauren's position, had a tired moment or were stressed, even a comment like that could make me cry. It's normal and human. Having a cry sometimes is healthy.

IMO this is just a lesson for BenLo, maybe to take step back from social media. The public mashine builds you up to tear you down. IMO this time in Portland will do them good, I doubt they have any public events lined up there. From the finale until they left Warsaw it was one public event after another for them. That's gotta be exhausting.

Jmo.

I have no preconceived notions about what this reported video is going to show. What might appear to be someone upset in a video clip looking through the windshield of a car could be nothing more than squinting in bright sunlight. However I do believe that there are two ways that a tabloid can create articles that some segment of followers are going to flock to read.

One approach is to report on the "happy times" - a good (and quite recent) example of this is the recent article from People Magazine that covered the cooking class (that Lauren "treated" Ben to as a birthday gift) when they were in Denver. Another approach is to fuel rumors of trouble in paradise and an imminent (or already happened) breakup. Both are really little more than business when it comes to tabloids - that's how they earn money. It's a little bit more work to write things like the People article because you have to have some sort of "inside" access to the people you write about. It's pretty easy to take a sliver of something out of context and write a rumor because that doesn't require any inside information - just a picture. It appears to me that this ET video is taking the latter approach - at least from what has been reported about it which AFAIK is only based - so far - on rumors of what it is - sort of rumors about a rumor.

For me, rumors of a breakup or trouble in paradise get pretty hard to believe when I can pick up my cell phone and see a family dinner, watching a basketball game on TV and Lauren getting a back-rub from Ben. (source: Snapchat: Lauren_Bushnell) I guess that's a problem the tabloids have to deal with these days - they can write what they want to write - but a "Snapchat savvy" couple can put their own message out there in a matter of seconds.
JMHO

I am not following what is going on with this couple anymore than going through the threads a couple times a day to read postings.
One thing that strikes me as funny and a bit ironic is pot calling kettle black in regards to scrutiny from media/public etc. Isn't that what's being done in this thread? Which is personally ok and no issues from me, but this is simply a case of the nature of the beast. It's going to be fodder of discussion whether a forum, magazine etc.

I'm just going to wait until I actually see the ET clip before I really comment.

That being said, it would be weird to me if they haven't fought (with tears) at some point in the last 5 months, they've gone through a lot together. Whoever taped them through their car then cashed in the video sucks. Yes, you sign up for this, but that's a true invasion of privacy.

How sad that all these moments in your life are out there for the world to see.
For all we know, Lauren had terrible cramps and Ben felt bad for her.

I feel so cold, I don't feel that bad for them or anyone really. You can't just have the love, support, and 'fame' aspect of this without a little negative. A few fake tabloid stories? Meh. Every couple gets it. Theyll be fine.

nutty1 wrote:How sad that all these moments in your life are out there for the world to see.
For all we know, Lauren had terrible cramps and Ben felt bad for her.

Yeah. To truly make it, they just need to let it roll of their shoulders and not worry about it. Keep on keeping on. I'm glad they are in Portland now with family support. Even if this is nothing, it still sucks for them that it's out there and it's making people/tabloids speculate. The longer they are together though, the less this kind of stuff happens. Pretty soon Jo and new guy will take a lot of this attention off them, and if/when they get to the wedding, most if not all of this goes away and they can fade into normal life, however they want "normal life" to look for them.

bleuberry wrote:I feel so cold, I don't feel that bad for them or anyone really. You can't just have the love, support, and 'fame' aspect of this without a little negative. A few fake tabloid stories? Meh. Every couple gets it. Theyll be fine.

Yeah this.

bleuberry wrote:I feel so cold, I don't feel that bad for them or anyone really. You can't just have the love, support, and 'fame' aspect of this without a little negative. A few fake tabloid stories? Meh. Every couple gets it. Theyll be fine.

I feel bad for the fact that they were videotaped during a private moment and the tape was sent to the tabloids. That's just wrong IMO.

Imo well if they never fight on this period of their rel then I will say that is not normal . Not that bad if they did or they do . That is okay . It shows that they are imperfectly perfect pair like normal pairs do . I agreed , if ever they did fight in public wherever was that and able to caught by someone . It should not be took video on it. I mean that is stupid to think someone would do that and then will send to a celebs gossip show like ET. If they have seen together in an argument  and saw her crying at some point that is their own thing . I know that is the price of signing this show in general and not suprise at all . It happens all the time. But to me , if they caught fighting or Lauren was crying on that ET talking about they should stop there . No need to take video on it and leave that way. Although that might be a paparazzi video who went to Denver still chasing them since they are so hot right now and you can really tell as much they went to their post life you can see how well love and like they are. So what they should do is just shake it off and ignore. And seems that is what they are doing . I mean they have their snapchat videos to back up all these rumors between them. After all following shaitlyn lead having snapchat maybe a good thing to benlo to shame this rumors . Jmo .