The Bachelor 20 - Ben Higgins - Episode 9 - Discussion - #2 *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

sosleepy wrote:I'm still at a complete loss. Lauren could have been totally prepped about what was to come (she better have), but even still, watching this and feeling this huge SM reaction- wishing her strength. Ben too, though he's the one that created this mess.

The finale previews make it seem like Ben is pulling away from Lauren and ramping it up with JoJo. That better be a misdirect. For me to get back on the BenLau train, I need and AWESOME last episode for them, and a solid ATFR appearance as well.  If they make it, they won't be the only couple to survive a very messy ending. Des/Chris, Jason/Molly, and Kaitlyn/Shawn were all super messy.

Hotmomma wrote:Nutty I agree..I also believe that he discussed it with Lauren during their private time in theFD..she did that interview saying that it could be possible being in love with two people..

And we must remember that her date was last!

Cinn3 wrote:This episode was painful to watch. I'm really questioning if Ben is ready for marriage. At this point 'loving two women' and having "TWO TRUE LOVES" (Whaaaaaaaat??!! Out of all the kisses and explosions of love and everything in between...this quote from Ben makes me question his 26 year old self. We're the same age but even i know thats IMPOSSIBLE BEN.) Ben is in no way shape or form ready to propose to neither jojo or lauren. Going into the last week I hope all Ben did was prey and really analyze this 'bubble' he's surrounded in. He's said multiple times in interviews post show and to laurens family if he gets down on one knee and proposes at the end of this-it will be because hes fully committed and really ready. I look forward to the proposal.

I don't know if I'm the only one asking myself this but HOW THE HECK DID WE GO FROM BEN POSSIBLY LETTING JOJO GO IN EPISODE 8 TO THE GROWTH IN HIS FEELINGS (LOVE) ON EPISODE 9. Blows my mind because honestly i didn't see it. I thought it was fleeting and purely physical... albeit it's still very physical I can see theres a emotional connection as well. Idk im so confused. Thanks producers.

***i swear if Ben in his People Blog doesn't give an inclination to his F1 i will lose it. I've just about had it with him playing Mr. Nice guy with all the girls. Dude you're engaged to one of them. Be more loyal.

Cinn3 wrote:Also... did you guys see how jojo was trying to get some insight knowledge into Benlo relationship (during RC)...asking if she felt more anxious or less anxious now... glad Lauren didnt really respond. Also Ben giving her the first rose really perked her up.

Rdjbb wrote:Also, you know the producers planted seeds of doubt where Lauren was concerned, so he went for it with JoJo.  He did look shocked about Lauren's declaration of love before the "holy crap" she does love me look.

Cinn3 wrote:Also... did you guys see how jojo was trying to get some insight knowledge into Benlo relationship (during RC)...asking if she felt more anxious or less anxious now... glad Lauren didnt really respond. Also Ben giving her the first rose really perked her up.

sde1041 wrote:I can't blame Ben.
I do believe he was really living the moment and was genuinely in love with each one.
Tough situation for everybody.
No wonder the production was happy with this episode, they certainly got our attention!

see2love wrote:As someone who isnt a Jojo or Lauren fan, i feel Jojo is more invested in Ben. She actually reminds me of Chris S as someone who has been there and nuturing towards Ben. She has been caring and always checking in with him while I get the impression Lauren just wants to win. She knows Ben has been chasing her all season and is happy to revel in his adoration. Ben will keep chasing her in their relationship going forward and it will be him working to make sure she stays with him.
but with JOjo he will have an equal who is as invested in making the relationship work and last.
Jmo