The Bachelor 20 - Ben Higgins - Episode 9 - Discussion - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

actually i am interested in hearing olivia and what she has to say and what leah has to say about why she threw lauren under the bus. I really could care less about lace.

And...there's always another preview at the end...hooking us in for just one more week!

Who's Lace?

Seems like a lifetime ago.

I'm not sure why we are surprised Ben tells two women he loves them. It has been clear from the start that he is the most caring, honest, compassionate bachelor that they've probably ever had. He clearly is the type of guy who falls easily and wears his heart on his sleeve. Could he have held it in and told neither of them? Sure, but then he wouldn't have been showing his true colors. What people love about him as the Bachelor is that he feels things and he's very present in the moment he is in, regardless of who it is with. If he held in his feelings he would've been going against that.

If I'm Lauren, this doesn't affect me all that much. In the end, he chose her, so regardless of his feelings for others, she was the one he wanted to be with. That should mean something. It's kind of like Catherine always said when she talked about Sean, she was glad he explored every relationship fully and really allowed himself to feel, it made her more confident that what they had was real when he ultimately picked her in the end and he would never have to ask "what if?".

adj13 wrote:I'm not sure why we are surprised Ben tells two women he loves them. It has been clear from the start that he is the most caring, honest, compassionate bachelor that they've probably ever had. He clearly is the type of guy who falls easily and wears his heart on his sleeve. Could he have held it in and told neither of them? Sure, but then he wouldn't have been showing his true colors. What people love about him as the Bachelor is that he feels things and he's very present in the moment he is in, regardless of who it is with. If he held in his feelings he would've been going against that.

If I'm Lauren, this doesn't affect me all that much. In the end, he chose her, so regardless of his feelings for others, she was the one he wanted to be with. That should mean something. It's kind of like Catherine always said when she talked about Sean, she was glad he explored every relationship fully and really allowed himself to feel, it made her more confident that what they had was real when he ultimately picked her in the end and he would never have to ask "what if?".

This!!

sosleepy wrote:Ugh, I always hate the WTA/MTA interruption! You finally get down to the REAL story of the season, then a week break to talk about crap that happened in the first few weeks! Like anyone cares to rehash Lace and Olivia at this point.

I keep saying "Fine...this is it! I'm going to go on with my life and just wait until the Finale and then watch"...but dangit, this forum keeps reeling me back in! I have an issue

WTA is like serving us liver when what we want is filet mignon.

ForeverLove wrote:WTA is like serving us liver when what we want is filet mignon.

I like liver!...and onions. Delicious. And I enjoy the WTA.

Crazylady29 wrote:He could but as the f1 how can you know he really is in love with you when he has the same feelings for other people. No wonder most couples don't work out on this show

Imo, there's a big difference between loving someone and being in-love with someone. I think that he loved both women, but realized later that he could not let one of them go, which meant that he fell in love with the one he couldn't let go.

Chris doing what he does best...

Host Chris Harrison on Bachelor Ben Higgins Telling 2 Women He Loves Them: That's ‘Not Something You Can Script'

It was definitely a caught-on-camera, impromptu feeling and emotion," Harrison said. "I mean, honestly if he had come to me and asked my opinion I probably would have said: 'Don't do that!' But he just left himself go, in that moment, which is a special, wonderful thing."

As for the finale, which will air March 14, Harrison said "what's going to happen now is so deep and so emotional that I think it's just incredible to watch."

"You've seen how emotional Ben gets – he does pull at least a ¾ Mesnick," Harrison said. "He really narrowed it down to two women that he loves and he knows that he's going to hurt somebody and he knows that he's going to lose somebody he loves."

What qualifies as 3/4 of a Mesnick?

NCGalBecca wrote:Chris doing what he does best...

Host Chris Harrison on Bachelor Ben Higgins Telling 2 Women He Loves Them: That's ‘Not Something You Can Script'

It was definitely a caught-on-camera, impromptu feeling and emotion," Harrison said. "I mean, honestly if he had come to me and asked my opinion I probably would have said: 'Don't do that!' But he just left himself go, in that moment, which is a special, wonderful thing."

And that's why he gets paid the big bucks! :Nod:

AmoreBella wrote:https://amp.twimg.com/v/60c75de7-b45d-45b3-a008-e184eb56663b

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Why have they stopped showing the "I've known I was in love with you for awhile now?" Makes me wonder if that I love you is LCD or something... But wait, it's in Lauren's Fantasy Suite right? Or is it just Lauren's hair... Ugh he's said it so many times I'm mixing them up. Loose Lips, Ben!