Becca Tilley - Bachelor 19 - Discussion - #9

Since both RJ and RS are saying she won't even make it to hometowns, I doubt she'll be in the running for the bachelorette. And, like I said before, she's not going to make out with a dozen guys or throw around ILYs or cry if someone looks at her the wrong way. She literally meets none of the requirements to be the lead.

TPTB already passed on Becca for the lead because they did not think she is ready to fall in love with multiple men. I seriously doubt that has changed. JMO

Seabear wrote:I think once Becca starts reading the comments on her SM as the news leaks out she may wish she didn't have access.  The negative comments are already starting.  I don't think she is used to the negativity like Nick is.  I believe based on her comments here the other night that she is going to have a tough time with the backlash.

I think you are spot on. She had to chime in as soon as the speculation really took off and people began to question her. If she thought that was negative, she may be in for a rude awakening.

Sprite wrote:

Seabear wrote:I think once Becca starts reading the comments on her SM as the news leaks out she may wish she didn't have access.  The negative comments are already starting.  I don't think she is used to the negativity like Nick is.  I believe based on her comments here the other night that she is going to have a tough time with the backlash.

I think you are spot on. She had to chime in as soon as the speculation really took off and people began to question her. If she thought that was negative, she may be in for a rude awakening.

Great points by both, and I agree. It's not going to be easy for both Becca and her family. She's oblivious to what's in store for her.

Seabear wrote:TPTB already passed on Becca for the lead because they did not think she is ready to fall in love with multiple men.  I seriously doubt that has changed.  JMO

If she was F3, she would have been the Bachelorette. She was one of only a handful of girls that signed papers. It wasn't a contract or anything, but it was for only the people they considered. Kaitlyn and Britt obviously signed them, Becca did, and one other. I believe it was Carly, but I'm not positive.

I'm a little confused. Signed paper saying what, and I thought they all sign contracts.

eliza3 wrote:I'm a little confused.  Signed paper saying what, and I thought they all sign contracts.  

This was after the season finished filming. Basically saying, you're one of the candidates we're considering for the next Bachelorette. It touched on certain rights the production would have, what they'd show, the lead's responsibilities, etc. There's a reason why no F2 girl has gotten to be the Bachelorette for a while, and it has to do with the live ATFR and the Bachelorette schedule. If Becca was F3 and they called her up one day and said, "We'd like to meet with you this weekend and give you a contract. We want you to be the next Bachelorette," she wouldn't have turned it down.

I didn't read all posts, so it may have been discussed before.

I don't get what Becca wants at all. She knew how this show works, and knows better she is not ready to be a good lead/returnee, why did she think it's a good idea to appear the second time? She might like Ben as she claims to be, but maybe there's more behind that crush? I just don't think she is as innocent this time.

peggy0221 wrote:I didn't read all posts, so it may have been discussed before.

I don't get what Becca wants at all. She knew how this show works, and knows better she is not ready to be a good lead/returnee, why did she think it's a good idea to appear the second time? She might like Ben as she claims to be, but maybe there's more behind that crush? I just don't think she is as innocent this time.

Everything I've said on here is what I know about her and what I have been told. I know she likes Ben...A LOT. She really wants a chance with him. I have no clue why they never met up before filming. I read what RS posted yesterday about Becca having intentions other than meeting a guy she really likes. I'm not saying he is making that up. I'm sure he has been told that, although I don't know the angle that information has come from. However, I can guarantee that I have more sources that are closer to Becca and that are more familiar with her than he does. It's no contest. I haven't heard anything about those other intentions.

I don't care about RS, i just dont get Becca. And while I mention other intentions, it could be exploring life, new adverture, something other than fames.

She tried once and knew it for sure she is not the type of person who could fit in this setting, she knows herself can't open up to quick, not to mention to be engaged, so why would she think it's a good idea going back. I get she wants a chance with Ben, but that almost is not possible for a person like her. Or maybe she thought she is more experienced now and can fit in the format better?

I don't know, I just get a confused vibe about her all these times. Maybe that's why she is bff with Kaitlyn, they both live in the moment and don't seem to think thing through. Lucky that she has strong faith that grounds her.

Maybe she really thinks she can fall in love with Ben? She already likes him a lot and probably knows a lot about him thanks to being friends with Kaitlyn. Maybe she's going into this season like Whitney went into Chris's season, already half-way "in love". I also think she knew full well that Ben's gonna be the next lead no matter what, so that's why she didn't try to go after him in private. I still think Ben and Kaitlyn were both kind of acting towards the end, because they knew there was nothing there and wanted him to get the gig. I doubt Becca's in the dark about all that. Better to save the first impression for when you meet in person, rather than make yourself seem desperate and delusional via SM.

RammerJammer91 wrote:

eliza3 wrote:I'm a little confused.  Signed paper saying what, and I thought they all sign contracts.  

This was after the season finished filming. Basically saying, you're one of the candidates we're considering for the next Bachelorette. It touched on certain rights the production would have, what they'd show, the lead's responsibilities, etc. There's a reason why no F2 girl has gotten to be the Bachelorette for a while, and it has to do with the live ATFR and the Bachelorette schedule. If Becca was F3 and they called her up one day and said, "We'd like to meet with you this weekend and give you a contract. We want you to be the next Bachelorette," she wouldn't have turned it down.  

RJ I really appreciate what you are sharing with us, but am curious. Not sure if you mentioned it previously, but do you know Becca yourself or just know people who know her? Either way, I don't think she is going to come out of this looking as good. Nick had nowhere to go but up after his first season. Becca I suspect has nowhere to go but down after hers.

Everything you have told us makes me question her even more. She doesn't seem to know what she wants. She may be telling people she wants to settle down, but her actions don't. Someone earlier mentioned that she seems to be trying to convince herself and I tend to agree. The fact that she was willing to become the Bette after admitting that the whole process was too quick for her and that she is back again, not to mention her actions post show...the people she is hanging around with...makes me think she is looking for attention rather than a husband.

TPTB love to expose weaknesses in the edit and she is ripe for it. Unlike Nick, who had already dealt with the negativity and who doesn't seem to care, she clearly does or she would not have come here to defend herself. Unfortunately for her, what was said a few days ago was really tame and if that is already bothering her, she better grow a thicker skin because it will only get worse.