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Post by Guest Mon Mar 16, 2015 4:14 pm

cindebugg wrote:
soccermom333 wrote:To bring it back to Becca, I am just glad  sweet Becca did not cave into anything.  Smiley  

She caved.  She didn't tell Chris about her virginity until it was poo or get off the pot time.  That was either a producer directive, which means she didn't stay true to herself, or she didn't tell Chris up front out of fear.  That wasn't  fair to Chris.   In the real world, If you wait until your date plans a romantic evening complete with over night accommodations to pull out the Virgin card you will be labeled a tease.  IMO, something like that needs to be out at the very start to be fair to the other party who may not want to wait for sex.   If Becca's virginity is based on her faith then she will only be having sex with the man she marries and the probability that the wedding night will be the first time for her is high.

Yeah, but this isn't real life. Most past contestants have said that the main point of the FS date is to talk without cameras. Many have said it was at that point where no one was acting for the cameras that they realized how horrible they were for each other (Sean/Ashlee, Jason/Deanna, etc) Lots of contestants have refused sex at the FS. Krisily said that she made it very clear that she wasn't going to have sex with a guy who was dating 2 other women, but refusing time wo/ cameras is plain stupid. And, honestly, calling someone a tease for not having sex on their 3rd date seems crazy sexist to me. No one called Sean Lowe a tease.

I'm sure that she was pressured to tell chris on-camera since it was their storyline for her. I'm sure she would have preferred to tell him off-camera, but being manipulated by producers to do something does not make one not staying true to oneself.

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Post by notarose Mon Mar 16, 2015 4:17 pm

i'm hoping Becca's story with lead to a "rethink" regarding the engagement aspect of the show.  There have been a few non-engagements over the years and they have all been met with "disbelief" affraid IMO it is the silliest aspect of the show.  I would much rather a proposal, if wanted by the couple, happen at the ATFR. 

I do think the edit attempted to portray Becca as not being at a stage in her life where she is ready to get engaged whereas I think she just wasn't ready to commit after spending the equivalent of 3-4 days with the guy.  Even people who have become engaged on the show say the real relationship starts after filming so why not base an engagement on a real relationship. 
I'm glad Becca was on the show because it opens the debate.


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Post by Guest Mon Mar 16, 2015 4:29 pm

notarose wrote:i'm hoping Becca's story with lead to a "rethink" regarding the engagement aspect of the show.  There have been a few non-engagements over the years and they have all been met with "disbelief" affraid IMO it is the silliest aspect of the show.  I would much rather a proposal, if wanted by the couple, happen at the ATFR. 

I do think the edit attempted to portray Becca as not being at a stage in her life where she is ready to get engaged whereas I think she just wasn't ready to commit after spending the equivalent of 3-4 days with the guy.  Even people who have become engaged on the show say the real relationship starts after filming so why not base an engagement on a real relationship. 
I'm glad Becca was on the show because it opens the debate.

Even with Whitney/Chris, when they tell people that they haven't set a date yet, people start freaking out. Ryan seacrest said, after talking to Chris, "yeah, they're never getting married". And, it's like, these people have only been dating for 3.5 months! Give them time. I think jason has said that a proposal on TB is really just an agreement to start dating. And, hey you might get to keep a crazy expensive ring, if it works out (or not, in Jillian's case).

And Becca has said that she believes that you can fall in quickly, because her BIL fell in love with her sister in 2 weeks but that 3 days just wasn't enough for her.

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Post by sfrank Mon Mar 16, 2015 4:35 pm

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soccermom333 wrote:To bring it back to Becca, I am just glad  sweet Becca did not cave into anything.  Smiley  

She caved.  She didn't tell Chris about her virginity until it was poo or get off the pot time.  That was either a producer directive, which means she didn't stay true to herself, or she didn't tell Chris up front out of fear.  That wasn't  fair to Chris.   In the real world, If you wait until your date plans a romantic evening complete with over night accommodations to pull out the Virgin card you will be labeled a tease.  IMO, something like that needs to be out at the very start to be fair to the other party who may not want to wait for sex.   If Becca's virginity is based on her faith then she will only be having sex with the man she marries and the probability that the wedding night will be the first time for her is high.

What was she to do? Walk up to Chris on night one and say "hi I'm Becca from San Diego and I'm virgin"?!

Or perhaps she should have told him in the short 5-10 minutes of interrupted time during the first 5 weeks on group dates? When exactly is the "right" time to tell guy you've known for a collective 1 to 2 hrs about one's virginity? Should she have on the first 1on1 date when she finaly has his undivided attention?! Maybe. Or maybe she wanted him to know more about HER personality and not her bedmates. Do you think any of the other women shared how many men they been with on their first dates?!

Unlike Ashley I don't think Becca whole identity is her virginity- she's so much more than that and perhaps she thought it was important to spend their quality time getting to know each other on deeper level than a sexual one. Obviously sex is important in any relationship but surely she wants to know who he is before she even goes down that path, no?!

That aside, Chris said that he knew that she was a virgin during her hometown date and certainly if that was an issue for him, he could've sent her at that point. It was not and he did not. Chris also said he didn't know why she was still a virgin (faithbased or not) and didn't press her for answers because it didn't matter to him.
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Post by Jolena Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:09 pm

sfrank wrote:
cindebugg wrote:
soccermom333 wrote:To bring it back to Becca, I am just glad  sweet Becca did not cave into anything.  Smiley  

She caved.  She didn't tell Chris about her virginity until it was poo or get off the pot time.  That was either a producer directive, which means she didn't stay true to herself, or she didn't tell Chris up front out of fear.  That wasn't  fair to Chris.   In the real world, If you wait until your date plans a romantic evening complete with over night accommodations to pull out the Virgin card you will be labeled a tease.  IMO, something like that needs to be out at the very start to be fair to the other party who may not want to wait for sex.   If Becca's virginity is based on her faith then she will only be having sex with the man she marries and the probability that the wedding night will be the first time for her is high.

What was she to do? Walk up to Chris on night one and say "hi I'm Becca from San Diego and I'm virgin"?!

Or perhaps she should have told him in the short 5-10 minutes of interrupted time during the first 5 weeks on group dates? When exactly is the "right" time to tell guy you've known for a collective 1 to 2 hrs about one's virginity? Should she have on the first 1on1 date when she finaly has his undivided attention?! Maybe. Or maybe she wanted him to know more about HER personality and not her bedmates. Do you think any of the other women shared how many men they been with on their first dates?!

Unlike Ashley I don't think Becca whole identity is her virginity- she's so much more than that and perhaps she thought it was important to spend their quality time getting to know each other on deeper level than a sexual one. Obviously sex is important in any relationship but surely she wants to know who he is before she even goes down that path, no?!

That aside, Chris said that he knew that she was a virgin during her hometown date and certainly if that was an issue for him, he could've sent her at that point. It was not and he did not. Chris also said he didn't know why she was still a virgin (faithbased or not) and didn't press her for answers because it didn't matter to him.

Actually he couldn't have because at that point. TPTB already knew what Becca's place would be in the storyboard of the top 3 . Kaitlyn's and Becca , strong fan base and they knew Kaitlyn was in the top running for ette ( of course Britt was right up there with the producers too ). jmho
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Post by bleuberry Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:14 pm

So what's Becca up to post show? Is she still working for a chiropractor?


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Post by mindless Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:15 pm

How could they know Becca had a strong fan base before the show even aired? It was filmed in Sept-Nov, so whatever decisions they made about people going home certainly had nothing to do with fan base. Most people didn't even notice she existed until February.
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Post by cindebugg Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:15 pm

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mindless wrote:Amy Long was on AfterBuzz TV a couple of weeks ago and she claimed the show is actually surprisingly real. Like the producers didn't try to put words in her mouth or anything. Though she only made it to week 3 on Juan Pablo's season, so I doubt they had much reason to push her in any certain direction. But I remember Samantha saying something similar and she was there for 6 weeks.

Obviously they were pushing Becca to say ILY though, but all the more respect for her for staying real!

She's dating Drew, who made it to the end,so she would probably know if they any force certain actions or dialouge. She said that Drew also had great things to say about his experience and the producers. I think the producers probably egg the lead/contestants on certain things to ask (why don't you talk about past relationships), but I don't think that there are cue cards. I know kalon said so, but I don't really believe a word out of his mouth.

No offense to anyone, but Amy and Drew are possibly two of the sweetest, but not that smart people to ever come through this show.  I always thought this was why hot and sweet and poor dumped Drew was not the lead.  After Emily, they probably didn't want to take a chance with another lead who couldn't remember the script.

I think they are both nice people, but they were probably not feed lines as there was no need to feed either of them anything.

Becca is fine now and I respect her for not giving into ILY or an engagement as agreement to date.  It is a stupid thing and to me one of the sad changes that has come about since Brad 1.0 and DeAnna.  It used to be would the bachelor propose?  Now it is expected and if heaven forbid the lead isn't ready to say ILY or propose after having spent three days with someone while also dating other people, he is to be vilified and destroyed.  

I respect, Brooks, JPG and Becca.  I hate, hate, hate the engagement as agreement to date and find it sad that for the most part what we do post show is look for signs of stress, since the couples aren't trying to be realistic and building a relationship i nstead they are hassled to move into together right away and to set a wedding date with someone they still don't know all that well.  It can work, but honestly has only worked with F1 in 4 out of 28 seasons.  This one is TBD.  So the people like Becca aren't the ones who are broken it is TPTB and their formula that is faulty.

I think they have tweaked their formula over the years. It's been years since we've had a dream occupation lead. All but one married couple has happened in the last 5 years so they are doing something different. Is 1 successful couple per every 7 seasons all that bad?


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Post by mindless Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:19 pm

bleuberry wrote:So what's Becca up to post show? Is she still working for a chiropractor?

I believe so, if this tweet is anything to go by: https://twitter.com/beccatilley5/status/576641663214297088
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Post by cindebugg Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:21 pm

chasingpavements wrote:
stuckinsc wrote:
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She's dating Drew, who made it to the end,so she would probably know if they any force certain actions or dialouge. She said that Drew also had great things to say about his experience and the producers. I think the producers probably egg the lead/contestants on certain things to ask (why don't you talk about past relationships), but I don't think that there are cue cards. I know kalon said so, but I don't really believe a word out of his mouth.

No offense to anyone, but Amy and Drew are possibly two of the sweetest, but not that smart people to ever come through this show.  I always thought this was why hot and sweet and poor dumped Drew was not the lead.  After Emily, they probably didn't want to take a chance with another lead who couldn't remember the script.

I think they are both nice people, but they were probably not feed lines as there was no need to feed either of them anything.

Becca is fine now and I respect her for not giving into ILY or an engagement as agreement to date.  It is a stupid thing and to me one of the sad changes that has come about since Brad 1.0 and DeAnna.  It used to be would the bachelor propose?  Now it is expected and if heaven forbid the lead isn't ready to say ILY or propose after having spent three days with someone while also dating other people, he is to be vilified and destroyed.  

I respect, Brooks, JPG and Becca.  I hate, hate, hate the engagement as agreement to date and find it sad that for the most part what we do post show is look for signs of stress, since the couples aren't trying to be realistic and building a relationship i nstead they are hassled to move into together right away and to set a wedding date with someone they still don't know all that well.  It can work, but honestly has only worked with F1 in 4 out of 28 seasons.  This one is TBD.  So the people like Becca aren't the ones who are broken it is TPTB and their formula that is faulty.

I do think that Amy was a little...naive? She said in that interview "I don't even think producers are trying to get you to stay anything! It's just that it usually happens accidentally and then they have to use it. They really care about everyone". I don't think that's true AT ALL.

Back to the cue cards - I do absolutely think that leads are told what topics to discuss, based on what they know about the contestant's history and experience in the house, and if they ever veer away too far from that topic, they are told to stop talking and change topic. Jason has even said that in his podcast. So, I do think that TPTB told Chris to get Becca to say ILY in that last week. I don't believe that they gave him a script that said "I want everything you can give me", etc.

And, I don't think that Drew didn't get picked because he was too stupid or sweet. I think it was just because he came off too soft and too passive to be the male lead. I don't think Emily's necessarily smart, but I don't think that her intelligence is that much different than most of the recent leads, to be honest.

IA with the bold. It's entirely possible that a producer told the sister that Becca needed to be pushed. She in turn verbalized this to Chris and he ran with it.


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Post by FLChica Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:22 pm

bleuberry wrote: So what's Becca up to post show? Is she still working for a chiropractor?
:detective Filming ended for the show four months ago. We know she has been active on Twitter, IG and Pinterest. What else has she been doing that is non-Bachelor rejected contestant related?


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Post by cindebugg Mon Mar 16, 2015 5:23 pm

murasaki1393 wrote:
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You can not compare Juans season to Chris's season. Juan was pressured to no end to propose to Nikki but like we saw he was not going to be a puppet to what the producers wanted. After his season and Andii's season which had the worst ratings. There is no doubt in my mind that they made sure that there was a proposal at the end. Jmo

Oh, yeah, that's totally different than cue cards. I mean, jason has said that he was literally threatened with a bad edit if he didn't propose. He said that he called Melissa's parents and told them he wasn't going to propose, and the producers called back and said Jason just was confused. I absolutely think that this pressure played into Chris's decision. He couldnt choose to date long-distance a girl who didn't even love him, when he had said all season he came here looking for a wife. And TPTB would have been pissed that two Bachlor seasons in a row had not produced a proposal and an exchange of ILY.

i, for one, totally believe after JPG's disastrous season (going by TPTB's standard)  TPTB would do "whatever it takes" to get a season with the  "JPG's Polar Opposite" outcome. From CS media interview, to CH's, to MF's 'changing the game', etc gave me that impression. This literally means in the end an ILY exchange- a Proposal- a Ring was a must. (stated in the contract?..maybe..). As the cherry on top (the sweet prize?) was the DWTS gig * cough2 JPG, cough2...laugh out loud. Thus i honestly think it was'nt a lost cause in light of Becca as CH wanted us to believe, its actually CS's lost cause from the very beginning hmmm

Speaking of cue cards, on a related note, there must be some reasons why Becca hardly had PIs appearance aside from her dates. IMO that girl is too normal, smart and immune toward Producers's manipulations. Good for her Hugesmile

I would say the reason why Becca didn't get many PI's is that there were other girls with bigger personalities that would give more entertaining insights.


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