Re: Juan Pablo & Nikki Ferrell Facebook - Twitter Updates - Fan Forum -Discussion - Thread #7

[soccerm3m]

It appears that they did the Dick at Nite tonight so it will be interesting to see if JP participated.

Nikki posted a IG video torturing her cat with a laser pen. She said a quiet night at home. She should have watched CT.

[chinita]

For some reason, I knew Nikki was going to post something tonight. Why do I get the feeling she wants to hear what people have to say about tonight finale?

JPG seems to be glad to have participated in CT.

[soccerm3m]

I thought maybe she wanted JP to know she is at home.

[chinita]

I thought maybe she wanted JP to know she is at home.

Yup my thought exactly too. She's making sure he knows she's lonely and bored at home. Maybe she's waiting for his phone call

JPG still following her, isn't he?

[Maggenzm]

I saw that you could buy this week’s Life & Style magazine online so I went ahead and bought it.  My curiosity was getting the better of me.  I apologize for any typos ahead of time.  Here is a summary of the article:
• They tried hard.  Nikki felt like there were times when she tried harder but both wanted it to work.  She said they got to point where they were both exhausted from trying so hard.
• They start with her how she posted her IG rant about “Isn’t it pathetic……even worth a second of it” on 10/26.  Fans were thrilled that she finally realized that she could do better than JP and was moving on.
• Nikki was silent about what went down with JP until she sat down with L&S on 11/1 in Atlantic City.
• She said JP broke up with her via text messages on her birthday weekend.  She had tears in her eyes as she said it.  It all played out over a couple of days right before her bday.  They were going back and forth texting.  He was questioning the relationship and she was questioning it back. She sent the text back stating they should fight for their relationship and try and work it out. He never responded.
• Nikki was pissed by JP’s silence meaning he did not want to fight any more for the relationship.  She was angry and posted her IG post.  She said she should not have done it – she is impulsive.  She blocked him from Twitter and deleted his phone number although she has the number memorized.
• She did not want the bust-up to ruin her bday celebration with her friends so she pushed it under the rug.  She needed to process everything.
• They reconnected a few days later.  There was not a fight but just a sad acknowledgement that they were wasting each other’s time. Neither of them were happy.  She said the breakup was mutual.
• Why didn’t she say no long ago? JP did not propose but Nikki said she would have accepted if he had proposed.  She confessed that she did love him on overnight date in St. Lucia – he did not say it back and did not say it for months while they were dating.  She loved him and she wanted to let him know how she felt. She knew he would not say it back.
• They argued about him not saying the L word on CT.  He said he had to do with Venezuelan culture but she said it had to do with feelings.  She said it was hard when she was not hearing it back.
• JP did come around and say it but will keep details private because it was really special.
• ILU was not enough.  JP opened up emotionally but was not willing to move from Miami even though he can do his job as a consultant from anywhere.  Long distance was hard.  They saw each other every 2 weeks and have a great time – both love sports and lazy Saturdays watching ESPN and eating pizza but it was the time in between that was so hard.  You can not do long distance forever.
• Nikki works as pediatric nurse in KC and was not willing to relocate either.  They talked about moving to LA but she realized her life was in KC.  They were not willing to make the sacrifices or compromises to meet in the middle and make it work.
• It did not help that photos or stories emerged of JP getting close to other woman during time apart or that people would tweet her to leave him.  It is hard being in public eye.  She wishes she would have met him somewhere else.
• Why did she stay with him for so long?  She held out hope for marriage and children.  She cries talking about how much fun they had together.  He is a caring person she said tearfully.  I love him so much and I know he feels the same way.
• Nikki says a reconciliation is possible despite everything they have gone through.  They will have to be lots of compromising and sacrifices.  Who knows what the future holds but it was not working.
Here is information from little boxes on page:
• Never a normal couple.
• She has her wedding all planned out – she has had it planned since she was 6.  She filled her pinterest board with ideas for her wedding.
• Inside their biggest fight…they had some awful blowouts.  The biggest was when they were discussing details for a trip – out of nowhere he said you are f***ing up my life.  Nikki was horrified.  She was so angry that she hung up.  He called her back completely baffled.  She said I guess it is a phrase in Spanish but it does not translate into English the same way.
• Nikki addresses the rumors…They told Camila they were a couple in June but she knew anyway. Did he cheat (Atlantic City) – he is not a playboy womanizing douchebag like everyone thinks.  They laughed about cheating rumors.  He is so honest that she never thought he could be unfaithful for a second.  He was too close to his Ex – Nikki said there was never anything inappropriate between JP and Carla.  When JP says he is down with something he means it.  Carla was very kind to her and supportive of their relationship.
• I had to choose between Juan and Andi – Nikki became bfs with Andi on the Bachelor.  It was very awkward when Andi quit the show based on JPs behavior.   She was stuck in the middle,  DO I defend my bf or do I defend my bf?  She felt like she had to choose.  On plus side she can now go to Andi’s wedding without worrying about JP being invited.
• She will never be the Bachelorette.  She would not do it after she saw what they did to JP.  She was disgusted with the franchise.  She wants nothing to do with them.  She felt they betrayed her and betrayed him.  What about BIP –she would rather stab her eyes with pencils.  She would never use term Bachelor family.
There is a headshot of Nikki with man’s blue oxford shirt that is unbuttoned – looks like she might be lying on a bed, maybe.

Thanks soccerm3m for doing all this.

JMHO

DO I defend my bf or do I defend my bf?

She should never have had to feel like she had to choose.

JP opened up emotionally but was not willing to move from Miami even though he can do his job as a consultant from anywhere

She shouldn't have ever expected him to move from Miami. That is selfish of her IMO. You don't try to come between your SO and their child.

I'm glad to see there were no issue's when it comes to trust. They obviously both loved each other. I hope they both have leanred  saying I love you means nothing, without compromising, without a give and take, without making sacrifices. That goes for any relationship. She wanted him to say ILY, she wanted him to propose, and she wanted him to move.

Its very sad to read all that. It would be nice to hear from JPG.

Great post!  

She lost me completely with the unwillingness to move to Miami, it was to be with his daughter, that should never have been a question in my opinion.

I agree, she should never expected him to move, just as JPg should never expected her to move without a proposal commitment. I really believed she would have moved if he had proposed to her, without a proposal there is no commitment. But, I am just glad to know that we weren't wrong, they really love each other. May be in time they will miss each other enough to comprise, but JPG should never moved until his daughter is out on her own. JMO

[soccerm3m]

No. Neither is following the other but his family still follow her - his mom, sister, and Carla.

[chinita]

No.  Neither is following the other but his family still follow her - his mom, sister, and Carla.

Is Nikki still following them?

I though he's following her since he posted the Bday message on IG and Twitter

[soccerm3m]

Nikki does not follow them on IG but she follows sister, Carla, and father on Twitter.

[Maggenzm]

Thanks for all the info Soccerm3m. I guess a lot makes sense now but I think Nikki is putting on a brave face and inside it's probably really tough especially because they tried so hard. They're probably better off without each other even though it makes me really sad to see them broken up. I'm happy that she still said good things about him and cleared up the rumors. At least he said ILU and told Camila about their relationship. The moving thing was obviously the biggest issue - glad it wasn't anything else like some of the media made it out to be-womanising etc.

The bolded: That's because she has nothing bad to say about him.  JPG is not popular among the people who do NOT know him.  People who know him say nothing but good things about him including Nikki now

JPG is an amazing guy, no doubt. All that know him think the world of him including his bach friends.
I think she will miss him terribly and want to move. all she needs is to spend a little time with Josh and Andi to be reminded of how JPG was always all over like Josh is on Andi. For someone who didn't say ILU, his body language with her was off the hook and screamed " I loooooooooooovvvvvvvvvvvvvvvve U" LOL I really wish them the best.

[chinita]

I just saw JPG's tweets ( don't know how to bring them over) and I was like He got the ring that Nikki loves. Wow! all I can say, it's a pity they broke up!

[GuardianAngel]

I just saw JPG's tweets ( don't know how to bring them over) and I was like  He got the ring that Nikki loves.  Wow! all I can say, it's a pity they broke up!

Juan Pablo Galavis @JuanPaGalavis · 10h 10 hours ago
THANKS to you @GabrielleM00RE for LETTING me find that RING she loved and SHOWED me on Instagram and we were ABLE to get it...

I give him credit for acknowledging what he got out of this show. He obviously was thankful someone helped him find the ring that Nikki loved and is not afraid to show it or thank the people who helped him even though they are no longer an item. At that moment in time, finding that ring for her made him happy. By the use of Caps, it appears this brought back his excitement of what it meant to him.

[Nabsie]

I watched the CT recap with Juan Pablo, Cicily, Treach and Dick. Dick asked so many questions about him being single and them breaking up and he said he is not going to say a word and just kept making jokes. He kept saying 'how do you know I'm single', 'you love magazines' etc. So Evel asked if he has a new gf and he said No. And later on Evel asked if he regrets doing it now that they're broken up and he said not at all because he learnt so much about himself and relationships etc. He didn't say much else and left early because it was his mums bday party and he had to go. The CT episode was quite sweet when JPG gave Nikki a promise ring and they looked really happy. It was sad to watch knowing they're not together anymore but that's life I guess

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