Re: Married At First Sight - Season 1 - General Discussion - **Spoilers** Thread #2

[Ariela]

I'm confused. What is mediocre about Vaughn's job? Monet's manner towards Vaughn was abrasive. She had the audacity to be upset when he said a wife should cook and then expect him to swallow her demeaning comments about his ambition.

I'm not sure what's so different from Monet saying she wanted a man to fix things around the house. Is that not stereotypical? So it's okay for Monet to say that, but it's not okay for Vaughn to want his wife to cook him dinner a few times a week? I'd say that's hypocritical. Being critical, cold, rude and abrasive is not the way to a man's...or woman's heart. They were just grease on a fire to each other and it was painful to watch.

Oh Bee I agree with you. I just didn't agree with Ariela's assessment of Vaughn's job or suggesting that Monet was somehow blameless.

That is not what I was suggesting at all. They were both to blame.  They were disappointed in each other for different reasons.

Vaughn wanted everything  Monet is, but without the rigidity, and the aloofness that comes with many super career oriented, independent  women. Vaughn is too laid back and unmotivated for Monet. She's one of those who makes plans and no variations allowed. Either you keep up with her or you're in the wrong. She wanted to run her marriage like a corporation.
Their behavior irritated each other.

There are no perfect people out there. Monet said at one point in the show that she didn't realize that some of the traits that she's looking for come with negative aspects as well. IMO, every trait has a positive and a negative side, so be careful what you wish for. Life is full of trade-offs.
They both need to figure out what is more important to them: an easy going person, or a strong career first, person....

I think Vaughn is a little easier going, but the needy part (stroking his ego to keep him happy) would wear me down too quickly. He needs to continue to work on his career, for his own sake, then things will fall into place.

Monet needs to let go a little. Life is not all organized and rigid. She's a tough cookie to keep up with and that gets old. Nobody wants to be under pressure to perform.

BTW- Fixing things around the house by a man is traditional, and so is cooking by the woman. What is not traditional is a woman bringing home the  bacon, cooking, cleaning, taking care of the husband's ego, while he sits on the couch unmotivated, eats and asks for sex. They both have a lot to learn about marriage, give and take....but primarily GIVE. :shocked!:

[Guest]

I was wondering why the experts actually matched them because high on Monet's list was a financially stable man- How did they miss that?

[umngirl]

^There's a difference between financially stable and very high-earning/rich. I believe Monet wanted the latter and didn't make that clear enough.

[Ariela]

^There's a difference between financially stable and very high-earning/rich. I believe Monet wanted the latter and didn't make that clear enough.

I don't think she was looking for a rich guy, but someone who made enough to support a family when she got preggers. In her mind she couldn't respect a man who didn't make more than she did. I see her point. If she was to assume a traditional wife role, the money should NOT be her responsibility.

I also see his point that Monet is not a warm and fuzzy person. In fact, she sounds as though she has a chip on her shoulders from bad dating (saying how Black women are portrayed). Quite frankly, I was disturbed by her comments. They seem to be all in her head.

[dw_a_mom]

^There's a difference between financially stable and very high-earning/rich. I believe Monet wanted the latter and didn't make that clear enough.

I don't think she was looking for a rich guy, but someone who made enough to support a family when she got preggers. In her mind she couldn't respect a man who didn't make more than she did. I see her point. If she was to assume a traditional wife role, the money should NOT be her responsibility.

I also see his point that Monet is not a warm and fuzzy person. In fact, she sounds as though she has a chip on her shoulders from bad dating (saying how Black women are portrayed). Quite frankly, I was disturbed by her comments. They seem to be all in her head.

I frequently felt that way watching Monet through out the season, ie that she would say something and I would wonder how she got to that conclusion.  I don't feel her social analysis is very accurate.

From what I saw, Vaughn fits the traditional definition of financially stable.  He had a decent apartment, pays his bills, has worked consistently, etc.

I think that Monet's definition of financially stable is more along the lines of, "and able to support a family in the style I am used to."  Plenty of working class families have stay-at-home moms and somehow make it all work, while also building savings.  That is "financially stable."  It is all relative to how you spend, and Monet seems to like to spend, so I think she needs to realize that what she wants is actually much more than "financially stable."  When I was dating I eventually realized that I had trouble really relating to men whose earnings weren't in the same category as mine and, so, I adjusted accordingly.  But I would never say that those men weren't financially stable.  It felt more like they simply led a different life.  In some ways I was kind of jealous of it, because it was something I didn't know how to do.  So I guess what irritated me about Monet was how condescending she came across to me.

Vaughn had his own ways of being a complete turn off to me, so it isn't like I give him a pass.

Honestly, I can't figure either of them out.

[theKeptGrits]

On the That's Normal site the latest recap is up.
6 mos later episode

I also see his point that Monet is not a warm and fuzzy person. In fact, she sounds as though she has a chip on her shoulders from bad dating (saying how Black women are portrayed). Quite frankly, I was disturbed by her comments. They seem to be all in her head.

Agree. I also saw somewhere that she is suppose to start writing a "humorous" book on the NYC dating seen....wondering if it will happen and if it would be anywhere near funny.

Vaughn's job $$$ according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics can be found here.
avionics tech

[albean99]

^There's a difference between financially stable and very high-earning/rich. I believe Monet wanted the latter and didn't make that clear enough.

I don't think she was looking for a rich guy, but someone who made enough to support a family when she got preggers. In her mind she couldn't respect a man who didn't make more than she did. I see her point. If she was to assume a traditional wife role, the money should NOT be her responsibility.

I also see his point that Monet is not a warm and fuzzy person. In fact, she sounds as though she has a chip on her shoulders from bad dating (saying how Black women are portrayed). Quite frankly, I was disturbed by her comments. They seem to be all in her head.

I frequently felt that way watching Monet through out the season, ie that she would say something and I would wonder how she got to that conclusion.  I don't feel her social analysis is very accurate.

From what I saw, Vaughn fits the traditional definition of financially stable.  He had a decent apartment, pays his bills, has worked consistently, etc.

I think that Monet's definition of financially stable is more along the lines of, "and able to support a family in the style I am used to."  Plenty of working class families have stay-at-home moms and somehow make it all work, while also building savings.  That is "financially stable."  It is all relative to how you spend, and Monet seems to like to spend, so I think she needs to realize that what she wants is actually much more than "financially stable."

I don't know how we could possibly know what Monet's expectations or her spending habits were other thant what we saw or she said. There's a lot of assumptions being made imo. I think her problems with Vaughn were more about his attitude & personality than money or his job/career. If "it" was there for both of them, neither would have been so picky or critical about each other. Before I met my dh I had a relationship where we spent a lot of time arguing. It wasn't until I met the right guy for me that I realized it didn't have to be so hard. 

Rather than worry about which of them was more in the wrong, I'm just going to assume that it was a combination of a lot of things so both are to blame. For me it doesn't matter to what degree. JMHO

[smartcat]

Soooo I've checked in every place I know how to check and I can't find another word any where about "married at one year" I did hear it and also so did some of you. It was only once at way way at the end with the credits so I'll have to come to the same conclusion as some other posters that it was a kind of "joke"
Or it's not September, but it's actually April 1 and I've been April fooled. I would have loved it if we were able to follow our couples after a year BUT#disappointed

[Ariela]

On the That's Normal site the latest recap is up.
6 mos later episode

I also see his point that Monet is not a warm and fuzzy person. In fact, she sounds as though she has a chip on her shoulders from bad dating (saying how Black women are portrayed). Quite frankly, I was disturbed by her comments. They seem to be all in her head.

Agree. I also saw somewhere that she is suppose to start writing a "humorous" book on the NYC dating seen....wondering if it will happen and if it would be anywhere near funny.

Vaughn's job $$$ according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics can be found here.
avionics tech

You can't live on that in some parts of the country....mine being one of them. NYC is not cheap.
I thought I heard that he worked one week or weekend out of the month, but long hours. Maybe I misunderstood. Point being that if he didn't work full time, he couldn't have been making a lot.  I think it didn't matter. Vaughn found Monet difficult to get along with, so he'd leave sooner or later.

[umngirl]

^He works one weekend a month for the National Guard in addition to his regular job. I'm not that familiar with the difference in terms of living, but Vaughn lives in Jersey which is probably significantly cheaper than NYC.

[Guest]

On the That's Normal site the latest recap is up.
6 mos later episode

I also see his point that Monet is not a warm and fuzzy person. In fact, she sounds as though she has a chip on her shoulders from bad dating (saying how Black women are portrayed). Quite frankly, I was disturbed by her comments. They seem to be all in her head.

Agree. I also saw somewhere that she is suppose to start writing a "humorous" book on the NYC dating seen....wondering if it will happen and if it would be anywhere near funny.

Vaughn's job $$$ according to the Bureau of Labor Statistics can be found here.
avionics tech

You can't live on that in some parts of the country....mine being one of them. NYC is not cheap.
I thought I heard that he worked one week or weekend out of the month, but long hours. Maybe I misunderstood. Point being that if he didn't work full time, he couldn't have been making a lot.  I think it didn't matter. Vaughn found Monet difficult to get along with, so he'd leave sooner or later.

Monet said something about him having a goal or idea for the future but no idea on how he would get there. I think she found that pretty unimpressive. What does Monet do for work and what kind of education did she get?

[absolutelyido]

Soooo I've checked in every place I know how to check and I can't find another word any where about "married at one year" I did hear it and also so did some of you. It was only once at way way at the end with the credits so I'll have to come to the same conclusion as some other posters that it was a kind of "joke"
Or it's not September, but it's actually April 1 and I've been April fooled. I would have loved it if we were able to follow our couples after a year BUT#disappointed

I feel pretty sure "MAFS - First Year" is happening. I watched the reunion episode on Amazon instant video and the announcement was at the end of the episode yesterday, but it is gone today. My guess is that somebody screwed up and added that announcement to the episode prematurely. I thought it was odd that the FYI Network hadn't had a press release on the new series, but I think it is just that they are not ready to officially announce it yet. Maybe they are waiting until after the clips episode on 9/30.

People keep tweeting to Jamie, Doug, Jason and Courtney that they need to have their own series, and all 4 of them keep re-tweeting these comments. In one of this re-tweets, Jason made the comment "you never know". After the reunion Jason also tweeted, "And that's just only 6 months! dun dun dunnnn haha". Also, when all 3 couples were together on the six months show, the host made a comment about what a great love story MAFS was, and Jason said, "and that was only the first six months" and all the couples laughed. To me it felt like they laughed because they knew the show would continue to follow the 2 successful couples.

MAFS is the highest rated show on the FYI network, so you know they are going to try to capitalize on its success for as long as possible. I'd bet money it will happen, and I'm so excited!!

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