Re: Nick Viall Bachelorette 10 - Fan Forum - Updates - Discussion - Thread #9

[whit90]

Beautiful video that brought tears. Some of those scenes I haven't watched since Monday. It seems to me that Nick really brought out the best in Andi when they were together. I liked that Andi. Thanks for bringing this over.

Totally agree she will probably always in the back of her mind wonder what could of been with Nick.

[isittrue]

Still not quite able to bring myself to watch the video - too sad how it all ended. It probably will take awhile before I am able to watch. This is always the hard part of the show for me - settling myself back into reality. I am sure the video is good as the last one and I will watch soon!

[SueSt]

Still not quite able to bring myself to watch the video - too sad how it all ended.  It probably will take awhile before I am able to watch.  This is always the hard part of the show for me - settling myself back into reality.  I am sure the video is good as the last one and I will watch soon!  

Like Nutty said, it's better. Actually the best of the 3... the song is absolutely perfect as are the images.

[isittrue]

[quote="SueSt"]

Still not quite able to bring myself to watch the video - too sad how it all ended.  It probably will take awhile before I am able to watch.  This is always the hard part of the show for me - settling myself back into reality.  I am sure the video is good as the last one and I will watch soon!  

Like Nutty said, it's better.  Actually the best of the 3... the song is absolutely perfect as are the images.  [/quote

I will give it a couple more days and then I'll watch!

[GuardianAngel]

One last Nick/Andi Video

That was so perfect! Wow! Great job!    

[GuardianAngel]

Still not quite able to bring myself to watch the video - too sad how it all ended.  It probably will take awhile before I am able to watch.  This is always the hard part of the show for me - settling myself back into reality.  I am sure the video is good as the last one and I will watch soon!  

There's no voice, which is great. The song is so perfectly lined up with the images. Actually, it will help you feel better!    

[emad0722]

Really good article in support of Nick and the life he offered Andi...  this woman really gets it!!  

http://elitedaily.com/dating/bachelorette-settling-safe/692675/

Lessons From ‘The Bachelorette’: Why Gen-Y Should Never Play It Safe
DATING • JUSTINE NANCARROW • AUG 1, 2014 - 2:51PM

Like every season of “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” before, my sisters and have I tuned in with intense commitment to watch this season’s bachelorette, Andi Dorfman, find her dream man.
On Monday night, we sat there with popcorn and great anticipation, waiting for Andi to hand the final rose to 33-year-old Nick Viall. Only then, she didn’t.
For those of you who didn’t watch, Viall is an endearing, confident but somewhat timid guy, with a bit of a naughty edge.
Okay, so there were some definite red flags: None of the guys liked him (always a bad sign); there was an unmistakable “bad boy” side to him and some questionable genuineness; he constantly struggled to effectively communicate.
These things weren’t deal-breakers, however. It was clear that most of these traits were amplified through clever production to drum up the entertainment edge — aka reality television at its best.
To us, and most of America, it was reasonably obvious from the beginning. Nick and Andi had overwhelming and undeniable chemistry and she was so clearly falling for him. Then, on the final day, she simply decided that Nick was too great of a risk, and their relationship was too uncertain.
Just like that, she chose the “safe” guy, Josh Murray. Andi made the decision to go with her idea of her perfect guy, and she chose the easy, yet ordinary relationship and turned her back on the challenging and potentially miraculous one she could have had.
It got me thinking: Why are we so afraid to take this risk? Why are we so hesitant to dive deep into a passionate and an intense love affair in case we get our hearts broken?
The relationships I’m referring to are the ones that will either end in utter calamity or all-consuming, forever love. It’s a huge risk to take, but doesn’t the possibility of the hopeful outcome make it all worth it?
I mean, we all know what getting our heart broken feels like, and we’re afraid to try again because we know how it ended last time.
The thing is, what is a relationship without the potential for heartbreak? If there isn’t the possibility of getting your heart broken, you’re obviously not that into this person anyway. Without this risk, what’s the point? Safety is perpetually boring.
I get that my analysis of Andi’s decision may seem like a slightly ignorant call to make from the outside, and that television producers can do wondrous things to make us think and believe certain things for the purpose of entertainment.
But I really hope for Andi’s sake that myself, my sisters, the other viewers and Nick, who said himself she’s playing it safe, have it entirely wrong. I hope she didn’t just take the safe option in Josh and that she’s actually madly in love with him because he does seem to be a really great guy.
I just have a feeling that’s not the case. Falling in love with the idea of someone is not the same as falling in love with the actual person.
In theory, Josh checks all the boxes: He’s the favorite amongst the men, the pleaser, the likeable and genuine character and the cheery personality.
They are all amazing qualities, but you can’t argue with chemistry, instant lust or a connection that is simply unconditional because these qualities in a relationship are irrevocable.
So if you find yourself in a similar position, worried about taking a risk and totally afraid of heartbreak, you only need to ask yourself one question: Is this person worth taking a risk for?
If you can trust that he or she will do right by you and that he or she is a good person, then allow yourself to be honest about how you feel and follow those feelings. Just make sure this person is worth leaping for and if you truly believe he or she is, jump right in.
As hard as it is at the time, heartbreak is ultimately better than always wondering what might have been.

Aussies are the best... ahmazing article

[nutty1]

SueSt, that was an excellent article!

[Kashathediva]

Don't most of us have a relationship in our past that was so hot, so exciting both physically, emotionally and mentally? That relationship that is so numbing, so tingling, so edgy and high that you think you are never going to let go, that you never want it to end. It's forever.
Until it's not.
Sometimes, you have to break it off for whatever reason. You have to. It's not something you want to do, but you have to end it.
It's not easy. It's gut wrenching. Or it was for me. I'm sure many of us have been here.
I watched Monday night and thought to myself, I sure the hell hoped I was kind and compassionate, but I know in my heart--it was torture for him regardless.

[nutty1]

I have a crummy sinus headache, so I am putting PJ's on, watching Iluvromance's video one more time, then I am going to crawl into bed and watch all Nick's parts from the finale, as I watched with a bunch of noisy people on Monday. Wish me well!   

[Catdwoman50]

Thanks iluv, just a reminder that I wasn't dreaming all that (or Andi is up for the Oscars).  Anyway, Sue that was a very apropo blog to go with the video. Nice to reminisce with a glass of red wine, Nick should move on now from Nasty Andi, he sure has the moves for someone else who can give him amazing.

[SueSt]

I have a crummy sinus headache, so I am putting PJ's on, watching Iluvromance's video one more time, then I am going to crawl into bed and watch all Nick's parts from the finale, as I watched with a bunch of noisy people on Monday. Wish me well!   

  

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