Re: The Bachelorette 10 - *Final 1-F2* - Speculation * Sleuthing - Spoilers Thread #3

[happygolucky]

Woody... pretty much YES. Not just "in love" ... but that he is IT for her. One and only. And he has every right to want that cleared first. He said IT, while she ... is what? ... still considering who is a better choice/fit/husband/future-baby-daddy? ... Goes back to first 1on1: WE make a choice, we don't want anyone else, we want to make this work, cherish what we have. If not, let it go.

[Rolly]

I think Nick brings out the softer side of Andi because he really listens to her and makes her feel heard.  He’s not pushing an agenda or defending himself and is not afraid to admit when he’s wrong (which he was in the group date).  This puts Andi at ease so she doesn’t have to argue with him like a Diva.  
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On the other hand, in no way do I think Nick is a push over.  He is asking for what wants (more time) in a way that does not make Andi feel like he’s calling her out or attacking her (vs. Eric calling her fake).  And in the preview he says he will not propose unless he knows he’s the only one.  So he has his limits… but is shown to be able to diffuse Andi’s high-strung personality in a way that puts her at ease…

They balance each other.

Love the bolded!  This is what I have seen too and what I have liked so much with Andi and Nick.  Similarly with Marcus, Andi was softer, more easy going and relaxed to me.  I know so many here see that with Josh, but I've seen such a more relaxed, trusting Andi having great discussions with some of the others.  In the long term, I think that's what she will need.  I totally see that she's most into Josh and don't doubt he's her choice but I've seen more of an adult relationship that I could relate to with Nick.  With Josh I feel like she's a high school girl wanting to get the great-looking quarterback because he's a prize, but also kind of blaming him that he's too great of a prize to be trusted.    

It's great if Josh can manage her, but for how long does someone want to manage someone who seems to think it's cute and funny to describe herself as a bratty diva who likes mind games?  Good luck to all after the show.  

Bratty diva who likes mind games....yikes not a pretty picture!!!  

[schnitzel]

So maybe Josh can put her in her place. She will definitely not be number 1 if she marries into the football family. Shes going to wish she chose Nick.

[schnitzel]

Josh and Andi will definitely lock horns. His family will not like her trying to dominate their Sundays with his family or try to control him.

[albean99]

I'm having trouble seeing where Josh knows how to handle Andi. I think that humor is good but it may not work as well when out of the honeymoon stage. I believe Josh has a bit of a temper himself which we saw a hint of. I'm sure there's adjustments to be made with either of the f2 and on both their & Andi's side.

[schnitzel]

The 'RIGHT PERSON BRINGS OUT THE BEST IN SOMEONE" doesn't it?

[luvlady345]

LOL, people act like Andi is not just as close with her family? I imagine they will bump heads like all couples do, it's called compromise...... It's a good thing that they live close by their families if not that could be some major disagreements....

[GuardianAngel]

LOL, people act like Andi is not just as close with her family?  I imagine they will bump heads like all couples do, it's called compromise...... It's a good thing that they live close by their families if not that could be some major disagreements....

I didn't get that impression. Whether she is or not, if Josh is the F1, she will be part of a family that is very close, which I admire. Close families do a lot of things together. She will have to be doing a lot of giving, which IMO shouldn't be that way. She should want to be as close as possible. I didn't get the impression she would when she was concerned everything revolved around Aaron during the HTD. Josh had not spoken to his brother when the draft took place. It was the first time he was seeing his brother. I would be touched to see Josh finally getting all the details about the NFL draft, while he was away. Whereas she was MeAndi'ing about the possibility of the attention being taken away from her.

[docnash14]

LOL, people act like Andi is not just as close with her family?  I imagine they will bump heads like all couples do, it's called compromise...... It's a good thing that they live close by their families if not that could be some major disagreements....

I didn't get that impression. Whether she is or not, if Josh is the F1, she will be part of a family that is very close, which I admire. Close families do a lot of things together. She will have to be doing a lot of giving, which IMO shouldn't be that way. She should want to be as close as possible. I didn't get the impression she would when she was concerned everything revolved around Aaron during the HTD. Josh had not spoken to his brother when the draft took place. It was the first time he was seeing his brother. I would be touched to see Josh finally getting all the details about the NFL draft, while he was away. Whereas she was MeAndi'ing about the possibility of the attention being taken away from her.

While that may be true, Andi framed it as her concern that the focus be on Josh rather than Aaron and more specifically that Josh's family realize how important this (his relationship with her) was to Josh. I found her to be very protective of Josh during the visit and in fact thought she made her point when Aaron was talking about how Josh had deferred his own needs for the family and Andi immediately piped up and said "especially for you" (Aaron).

[rosesrREd]

LOL, people act like Andi is not just as close with her family?  I imagine they will bump heads like all couples do, it's called compromise...... It's a good thing that they live close by their families if not that could be some major disagreements....

I didn't get that impression. Whether she is or not, if Josh is the F1, she will be part of a family that is very close, which I admire. Close families do a lot of things together. She will have to be doing a lot of giving, which IMO shouldn't be that way. She should want to be as close as possible. I didn't get the impression she would when she was concerned everything revolved around Aaron during the HTD. Josh had not spoken to his brother when the draft took place. It was the first time he was seeing his brother. I would be touched to see Josh finally getting all the details about the NFL draft, while he was away. Whereas she was MeAndi'ing about the possibility of the attention being taken away from her.

While that may be true, Andi framed it as her concern that the focus be on Josh rather than Aaron and more specifically that Josh's family realize how important this (his relationship with her) was to Josh.  I found her to be very protective of Josh during the visit and in fact thought she made her point when Aaron was talking about how Josh had deferred his own needs for the family and Andi immediately piped up and said "especially for you" (Aaron).  

This show, regardless of the F1, and their family rarely produces a true, and lasting relationship. If Andi is going to make it work with either Nick or Josh, she will have to make compromises. With Nick, it may be moving to Chicago, with Josh, is may be spending less time as a couple, and more with the his family.

[MiaHawk]

Please refresh my memory....in what ways did Josh make personal sacrifices for the needs of his family? Were they sacrifices or choices?

[luvlady345]

LOL, people act like Andi is not just as close with her family?  I imagine they will bump heads like all couples do, it's called compromise...... It's a good thing that they live close by their families if not that could be some major disagreements....

I didn't get that impression. Whether she is or not, if Josh is the F1, she will be part of a family that is very close, which I admire. Close families do a lot of things together. She will have to be doing a lot of giving, which IMO shouldn't be that way. She should want to be as close as possible. I didn't get the impression she would when she was concerned everything revolved around Aaron during the HTD. Josh had not spoken to his brother when the draft took place. It was the first time he was seeing his brother. I would be touched to see Josh finally getting all the details about the NFL draft, while he was away. Whereas she was MeAndi'ing about the possibility of the attention being taken away from her.

Saying that Josh is close with his family and will not make Andi or their relationship a priority is crazy because we don't know if he will or not..... And it's not like Andi comes from a broken home Andi is just as close with her family as Josh is to his from what I can see.... Just like in any relationship it takes compromise IF Josh is the F1, they live close to both of their families so it shouldn't be too big of a deal, I personally didn't see it as you did on the HTD I saw Andi become a mama bear where josh was concern I didn't see it having anything to do with her getting the attention, she wanted them to be equally as happy for Josh as they were for their NFL son an any woman in a relationship would feel that way, I know I would ......

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