Re: Brooks Forester - Bachelorette 9 - Fan Thread - Discussion #4

[nannymargie]

Maybe it's as simple as "Out of sight, out of mind" or "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."  If he's not missing her terribly and thinking about her constantly when he's not with her, then it's not hurting him enough to be away from her. Maybe it's the yearning so much for someone, that it hurts.  I don't know if what his sister Jana was telling him just reinforced what he may have thought before, or if that was some new thing for him to consider when trying to figure out his feelings.  

I bet he missed her after he left. He said in his PI that he missed those moments they had together and missed them a lot. Then he said I guess it's really good by. Well DUH isn't that what you wanted. After she said she loved him, I think he regretted the breaking up.

There was just so many things he liked about Des and he said it was rare to find in anybody. Wonder if he will ever find that again?

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[nannymargie]

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I did not see this, thanks for bringing it over.

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Brooks posted it. Said Juan Pablo approves, lol.

[nannymargie]

Why does Brooks think that when you love someone and are not with them it has to be painful?  His sister put that in his head.  I know it's only part of it but it does not make sense to me.

  He must've never really trusted his past girlfriends if he felt this way. Or was just infatuated.

I think his past girlfriend hurt him pretty bad and that's when the walls came up around his heart.  They were even thinking about getting married.  He talked about it on his Hollywood date.

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[Rolly]

Adele1117, is there a way to see this without being an Instagram user?

[Piper61]

Maybe it's as simple as "Out of sight, out of mind" or "Absence makes the heart grow fonder."  If he's not missing her terribly and thinking about her constantly when he's not with her, then it's not hurting him enough to be away from her. Maybe it's the yearning so much for someone, that it hurts.  I don't know if what his sister Jana was telling him just reinforced what he may have thought before, or if that was some new thing for him to consider when trying to figure out his feelings.  

I bet he missed her after he left.  He said in his PI that he missed those moments they had together and missed them a lot.  Then he said I guess it's really good by.  Well DUH isn't that what you wanted.  After she said she loved him, I think he regretted the breaking up.

There was just so many things he liked about Des and he said it was rare to find in anybody.  Wonder if he will ever find that again?

I sure hope so!  I think he was definitely surprised when she told him she loved him, and do believe he was having some regrets about breaking up but no matter what he may have felt in his heart, he didn't display wishy washy behavior.  He did leave, and once he did that, I think he'd protect both himself and her afterward by not saying anything that would be contrary to that.  He was surprised at the ATFR when he found out she was engaged to Chris, he admitted it, but also remained resolved to wish them both well, and not say anything to throw a monkey wrench into the equation.  What good would that do, and it was 3 months later.  I think TPTB definitely wanted to have the chance at a reaction because they sequestered him from watching the finale part 2 but not Drew.  I'm so happy he was gracious and supportive, and didn't make a fool of himself no matter what was going on inside with his head and heart.  

Nice avi, wink, wink!

[Piper61]

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I have not seen that! So funny! Thanks for sharing it.

[Piper61]

I'm like Rolly, not an instagram user, so when I click on the link, it wants me to sign in.

[nannymargie]

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Thanks adele, keep them coming.  

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I think the issue for most is not WHO she chose, but disbelief THAT she chose anyone at all after what we witnessed between Des and Brooks in Antigua.  Much less, accepted a proposal from Chris a couple of days later.  It wasn't just that she told Brooks that she loved him, but that when she was with the other guys she was thinking about him and wishing she could be with him instead of the other guys.  Kinda a slap in the face for the guy that she accepted a proposal from.  People find it hard to believe that she could flip a switch like that in just a few days and yes, that would make him a default in their minds.  Maybe they have worked things out and they are in love now.  If that's the case then I'm very happy for them.  Under the circumstances though, that proposal was a little tough to take.  

I've been having a tough time with this one as well. I said there should be no proposals from Brooks or Chris after part 1. I think TPTB told her she could not tell Chris that Drew was gone. I think the quote in the journal "not where we are now.. but where we we are going" tells us Chris knew about Brooks and wanted to propose anyway (why?) TPTB were going to have a rose ceremony. She had 2 choices: Let him propose (tell him we'll date) thus rejecting and disappointing him or accept. I think she went on his confidence, not hers that day. That's my take and I so wish we had a discussion thread to discuss this together. I am not willing to re-write what actually happened. She was crying AFTER the FD with Chris. I do think they seem happy now.

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