Re: Episode 11 (Finale Part 2) - 8/05 - Bachelorette 9 - Thread #1

[Shadow]

I am assuming we won't be getting a preview today from GrapevineTV?

I think it's in the vault because they think it's going to be a surprise. Millsy said the surprise happen within the first minute of the show. So what can they show us. Really?  

They could just give us the first minute  I'll take anything new at this point to be honest. I don't care if it's shots of the trees shaking and the ocean tide coming in. ANYTHING please.

Maybe a few more birds with crazy hairdos? A pile of used, snotty tissues? Old BoJangle boxes? ANYTHING PLEASE!!!

Well I am going to watch Pretty Woman, that always put me in a positive mood. Nothing like Julia Roberts to make you feel better. Cinder F#$%ing rella........ she got her Prince....So will Des :Smiley: 

[Guest]

I'm pretty sure I will be calling Des stupid on Monday when she accepts Brooks proposal (if that is what happens).  You see, like others have told their stories of love along the same lines, I too have a story to tell about the woman I am.  I once had a guy leave me, then change his mind and wanted to come back.  I had to inform that jerk that there was not a revolving door on my house or my heart and to scram!

Ironically, as I type this, The Band Perry is singing "All I wanna Be is Done!" on the Today show.  I love that song.  

Luv it! My favorite song for an occasion like that is by Helen Reddy. "I am woman, hear me roar" Guess I'm dating myself.

I think you are being too hard on Des and Brooks.  As a man I believe that he was sincere when he said he was not yet in love enough to propose marriage.  If this show ended in a "let's keep dating and see what happens" agreement things would be different. A marriage proposal requires a lot more (and of course that is why so may of these TB "engagements"s fall apart).  I also believe when she said she loved him and he said "why didn't you tell me?" he was genuinely surprised and began to rethink what he had said to her.

My own personal experience is that I was in love with a woman but I felt that she was moving too fast so I told her I couldn't continue the relationship.  She was devastated and so was I.  After I realized how much I needed to be with her I asked for a second chance. She said yes, and we agreed to keep on dating.

Thirty-two years, three kids, and five grandchildren later we are still in love and best friends.

Hey Litharigic!!!!!   Glad to see you!!!! I remember you from FORT....I didn't post a lot there either, but I swore you were Mike Fleiss in disguise!!

great story....if Brooks comes back then maybe he and Des can have happily ever after....or it could just be that he was not that into her and he may not come back at all...or if he does come back he might dump her later...or Des will always be in a relationship where the guy has the upper hand....of course you are the guy so you prob dont think that sounds too bad. anyway anything is possible.

[ImeldaMarcos]

I'm pretty sure I will be calling Des stupid on Monday when she accepts Brooks proposal (if that is what happens).  You see, like others have told their stories of love along the same lines, I too have a story to tell about the woman I am.  I once had a guy leave me, then change his mind and wanted to come back.  I had to inform that jerk that there was not a revolving door on my house or my heart and to scram!

Ironically, as I type this, The Band Perry is singing "All I wanna Be is Done!" on the Today show.  I love that song.  

Luv it! My favorite song for an occasion like that is by Helen Reddy. "I am woman, hear me roar" Guess I'm dating myself.

I think you are being too hard on Des and Brooks.  As a man I believe that he was sincere when he said he was not yet in love enough to propose marriage.  If this show ended in a "let's keep dating and see what happens" agreement things would be different. A marriage proposal requires a lot more (and of course that is why so may of these TB "engagements"s fall apart).  I also believe when she said she loved him and he said "why didn't you tell me?" he was genuinely surprised and began to rethink what he had said to her.

My own personal experience is that I was in love with a woman but I felt that she was moving too fast so I told her I couldn't continue the relationship.  She was devastated and so was I.  After I realized how much I needed to be with her I asked for a second chance. She said yes, and we agreed to keep on dating.

Thirty-two years, three kids, and five grandchildren later we are still in love and best friends.

 Many thanks for providing a male's perspective and one that required your wife to take a chance, to be strong and accept your word and love after having been rejected at first for loving you.  I am sure you have felt blessed throughout your 32 years together that you were given this chance.  Everyone is different, everyone has had experiences both ways to be sure.  I tend to favor those willing to try even at the expense that they may have their heart broken not once by the same person, but maybe even twice.   The rewards they reap can be so great, like your circumstance.  

Yes, at this point it is a choice. Right now it is Des's choice. As some think if a spouse cheats once they will always cheat and you should throw away the relationship, I think each situation is individual and should be evaluated by those in it. I have fun snarking, and sleuthing and commenting on this show, but I will not insult Des for making a choice for herself. It is hers alone to make. I hope they are all happy in the long run.

[lithargic]

I don't see love as a competition for the "upper hand".  You can read my thoughts in the book I wrote HAPPY HUBBY'S GUIDE TO MAKING YOUR WOMAN HAPPY TOO.  It is available on amazon.com

[lithargic]

I'm pretty sure I will be calling Des stupid on Monday when she accepts Brooks proposal (if that is what happens).  You see, like others have told their stories of love along the same lines, I too have a story to tell about the woman I am.  I once had a guy leave me, then change his mind and wanted to come back.  I had to inform that jerk that there was not a revolving door on my house or my heart and to scram!

Ironically, as I type this, The Band Perry is singing "All I wanna Be is Done!" on the Today show.  I love that song.  

Luv it! My favorite song for an occasion like that is by Helen Reddy. "I am woman, hear me roar" Guess I'm dating myself.

I think you are being too hard on Des and Brooks.  As a man I believe that he was sincere when he said he was not yet in love enough to propose marriage.  If this show ended in a "let's keep dating and see what happens" agreement things would be different. A marriage proposal requires a lot more (and of course that is why so may of these TB "engagements"s fall apart).  I also believe when she said she loved him and he said "why didn't you tell me?" he was genuinely surprised and began to rethink what he had said to her.

My own personal experience is that I was in love with a woman but I felt that she was moving too fast so I told her I couldn't continue the relationship.  She was devastated and so was I.  After I realized how much I needed to be with her I asked for a second chance. She said yes, and we agreed to keep on dating.

Thirty-two years, three kids, and five grandchildren later we are still in love and best friends.

Hey Litharigic!!!!!   Glad to see you!!!! I remember you from FORT....I didn't post a lot there either, but I swore you were Mike Fleiss in disguise!!

I'm a lot better looking than him! 

[BarbB222]

I don't see love as a competition for the "upper hand".  You can read my thoughts in the book I wrote HAPPY HUBBY'S GUIDE TO MAKING YOUR WOMAN HAPPY TOO.  It is available on amazon.com

You had great reviews on your book! Lots of men thanked you and we do too! A man's perspective is often valued especially one that made a success out of a previous misjudgment .

[Guest]

I don't see love as a competition for the "upper hand".  You can read my thoughts in the book I wrote HAPPY HUBBY'S GUIDE TO MAKING YOUR WOMAN HAPPY TOO.  It is available on amazon.com

It's not but it always exists in a relationship. I have one friend whose hubby never seemed that in love with her. they dated for awhile, he broke up with her once to date other women, then they got back together and to my surprise he finally married her. I guess he has it good cuz he has a wife who kisses his butt and lets him go out and party and do whatever he wants. I know secretly it bothers her but she just lives with it. If my hubby did that I would put my foot down and say no and he would listen. Also it's a nice feeling cuz I feel like my hubby is madly in love with me and I feel very secure in the relationship. Another thing about men and women that I noticed is that a girls feelings tend to grow while a man's either stays the same or get less. I have one friend who when she first met her hubby she didn't know if she was that interested...he kept pursuing and she eventually came around. They eventually got married and she grew to like him more and more. His feelings are the same or actually it might seem she might like him more now. Anyway I know sometimes there is no upperhand and two people love eachother equally or almost equally. I just think it's best in a relationship if the guy slightly looks up to the girl or likes her more esp in the beginning.

anyway like I said it's NOT a competition for the upper hand...it's just there (when I say upper hand I mean one person liking the other person more than the other) it's not something you can really change....like someone being in love with someone....you can't change that it's just there or not.

[ImeldaMarcos]

One way to describe it in very plain English...

It takes balls to ask for a second chance .. And it takes balls to forgive and give it a try

:cutesmile!:  :bigsmile:  

 I am SO drinking that KoolAid!

[lithargic]

I don't see love as a competition for the "upper hand".  You can read my thoughts in the book I wrote HAPPY HUBBY'S GUIDE TO MAKING YOUR WOMAN HAPPY TOO.  It is available on amazon.com

You had great reviews on your book! Lots of men thanked you and we do too! A man's perspective is often valued especially one that made a success out of a previous misjudgment .

The premise of my book is that no man can be happy if he lives with an unhappy woman.  I interviewed a lot of women and asked them what their husbands did that made them happy. The responses I got were wonderful!

[nutty1]

I don't see love as a competition for the "upper hand".  You can read my thoughts in the book I wrote HAPPY HUBBY'S GUIDE TO MAKING YOUR WOMAN HAPPY TOO.  It is available on amazon.com

You had great reviews on your book! Lots of men thanked you and we do too! A man's perspective is often valued especially one that made a success out of a previous misjudgment .

The premise of my book is that no man can be happy if he lives with an unhappy woman.  I interviewed a lot of women and asked them what their husbands did that made them happy. The responses I got were wonderful!

Hi Lithargic!! That is awesome!! I am headed over to Amazon now!!

[nutty1]

One way to describe it in very plain English...

It takes balls to ask for a second chance .. And it takes balls to forgive and give it a try

:cutesmile!:  :bigsmile:  

That should be your avi or siggy!!!

[nutty1]

I love it, I just bought it for my Kindle! I want to know why, in "about the author" you didn't mention you were a Bachelor fan?  

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