Body Language Analysis - The Bachelorette 8 - Discussion

Shelby wrote:How to Read Women's Body Language for Flirting


1 Watch her fingers carefully.

If she pushes her fingers through her hair, she is looking to get your attention. The way she touches her hair is also very important. It tells you information about her temperament. If she does it slowly, you have encountered a cunning expert of the art of love. Quick, nervy movements disclose impatience or embarrassment.
If she touches the edge of the glass with her fingers, Freudian psychologists often interpret it as a sexual sign. This theory is supported by the women themselves, who claim that they deliberately pet the glass, in order to call the chosen man’s attention upon themselves. Elegant, caressing movement is a sign of intrinsic calmness, self-control and waiting, so sit by her. Her beating a rhythm on the glass with her nails is a sign of impatience or a broad hint of SOS, which she’s sending to her boyfriend, who is fighting for another Bailey’s at the bar.

2 Note any physical contact.

If she touches you in any manner, this is almost always a good sign, with the exception of the event in which she is striking you and telling you to get out. If she is lightly touching you on the arm while laughing, or in general just finding any way she can to touch you, bump into you, or grab you, then she is almost certainly interested.

3 Check out her hands and arms.

If she leans on her hand with her chin and her eyes seem to be thinking, it’s not always the sign of her being impressed by your appearance. Generally, the woman tries to answer her own question this way: "Does this guy deserve me?" You know the answer, but the lady needs time. If you want to help her make the only right decision, be politely determinate and determinately polite. Flash your sense of humor as well.
If she sits back with her arms crossed together, she may be uncomfortable with her weight or she might be annoyed. This is the worst possible thing you can encounter when out hunting. This gesture is evidence of the fact that you’ve made the worst impression of all on the woman and she doesn’t trust you at all. Nothing helps here, neither refined jokes, nor nice, muscular body. The only thing that MAY help in this situation is to pull back away from her: Lean back, and lean away. Turn away from her if you cannot lean back. Show her that you're not interested in her. Turn back and smile to her if she is opening up, do it progressively. Tell her that you'll have to go soon, and sit/stand there talking with her. Let her see that you're charming to other people, talk with other woman/people, let her miss you. If this is the case, maybe she'll come back.
The way the woman herself thinks of her hands is also very important. If she stares at them for a very long time, it may imply that likes you and is nervous. If she is very shy, she will not be able to look at you. another reason for this behavior is that something angers her (perhaps you?). If she beats the rhythm on the table or the bar means a similar state of mind.

4 Look at the lips.

If a woman wets her lips quite frequently, it’s either out of habit or desire to get you to pay attention to her lips and sooner or later kiss her.

When a woman is biting her lips, do not interrupt her – everything’s alright. But sometimes, when she’s biting them, you may assume that she’s nervous. Why? Perhaps you are staring at her too inquisitively, or she is subtly flirting with you.

5 Eye the eyes.

According to famous experts of the topic and authors of cheap romantic stories, the fast movement of the eye-lashes is the sign of women who like to conquer men of their own accord. Besides, they are emancipated, who like to take over the duty of initiation. They aren’t waiting for your jokes and wide smile. They undertake to initiate. The only problem with such ladies is that not all of them will enjoy herself in the role of the doped out game. But if you don’t mind losing the role of the hunter, swallow the bait. Also, note her pupils. Basic biology tells us that when we like something (or someone) our pupils expand (dilate). When we don't like something, they contract. If her pupils are big, it may be a sign that she likes you, or likes what you're saying. On the other hand, if her pupils are small and pointed, it may be a bad sign. However, this method isn't foolproof. If it is really bright outside pupils contract naturally, regardless and if you are somewhere darker, they naturally dilate.

6 Check out the legs.

Researchers of body language emphasize that when a woman frequently crosses her legs or let them swing, is also a sexually charged movement. The strongest of all these movements is when she opens her legs without meaning it. It’s a classical Freudian opening symbol. A contrary sign to this is when she puts her legs together.

7 Look at her feet.

If her feet are pointed at you, this means she is interested in you. But, if not, tell her something that will catch her attention.

Tips

- Check to see if she turns away quickly when you turn to her direction: this can be a bad sign, or she just doesn't want you to catch her looking at you. This is often called "eye tag."

- You can also try the clock trick. Look abruptly at the clock, then back at her, unless you were watching her from the corner of your eye. Any object works for this. If she was looking where you were looking, she was probably watching you. But beware, she might have thought you saw something dangerous or interesting and wanted to find out what it was.

- Don't look directly at the parts, look with peripheral vision. It's when concentrating on one thing, but looking at another.

Warnings

- Not all women have the same body language! Not all women correspond well; it may be due to shyness or any other cause.

- Refrain from assuming that seemingly sexual gestures mean the girl wants you. If you make advances and she's not looking for that, things will probably not end well.

- Also, do not stare at the woman's cleavage if she has it partially exposed. Some men, when talking to a "sexy" woman, have a very bad habit of doing that. Any woman will take offense when she notices that your eyes are wavering (especially on the very first date). Try to resist the temptation!

- Small talk is the key. Don't talk about your past previous relationships or a three hour talk about your job. Get her to do most of the talking, so she'll think you're a good listener. Alternatively, some of us prefer it when a man takes the lead of a conversation. Try to find things you have in common, and casually mention them. Most of us are unimpressed with sports and video games. (Hint, hint.) Try animals, books, music, theme parks, rollercoasters, colors, nature, movies, be careful with TV shows, unless you both love it. Comedy works really well here, so try making funny faces, imitating people (not too offensively, unless you know for a fact she hates them, doing funny voices,and acting a little clumsy, but make it known you are acting shows her you know how to have a good time.) Inside jokes make great fillers for awkward pauses, but don't use the same one all the time if she seems to think it's getting old.

Love_Me:
Should we post some body language screencaps to compare the F3 or would that cause things to become too heated in this thread?

ETA: I answered my own question. Nevermind. [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Tiggerlgh: I would love this. I think some good old fashioned sluething of pictures maybe a good thing. As long as everyone keeps an openmind about Three great guys!

bach607 wrote:

Love_Me:
Should we post some body language screencaps to compare the F3 or would that cause things to become too heated in this thread?

ETA: I answered my own question. Nevermind. [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Tiggerlgh: I would love this. I think some good old fashioned sluething of pictures maybe a good thing. As long as everyone keeps an openmind about Three great guys!

I second Tiggerlgh. I have been seeing mostly really nice respectful comments and I miss the sleuthing. This will be fun and it's about their body language, not about the people themselves so hopefully comments will be a more objective.

If anyone is brave enough to start or knows how to turn a video into an SC, please help a newbie like myself get started. I posted this in the Jef general forum, but it fits really well with this thread.

I just watched Sophienette's latest video - really cute and great job Sophie! This is about all her F3s and all their kissing scenes practically.



I don't know how to embed the video into my comment. If anyone knows, please let me know. I am not at all good at BL analysis, anyone good at that and wants to get that started? We gotta do something to keep sane between now and tomorrow night.

Love_Me wrote:

bach607 wrote:

Love_Me:
Should we post some body language screencaps to compare the F3 or would that cause things to become too heated in this thread?

ETA: I answered my own question. Nevermind. [You must be registered and logged in to see this image.]

Tiggerlgh: I would love this. I think some good old fashioned sluething of pictures maybe a good thing. As long as everyone keeps an openmind about Three great guys!

I second Tiggerlgh. I have been seeing mostly really nice respectful comments and I miss the sleuthing. This will be fun and it's about their body language, not about the people themselves so hopefully comments will be a more objective.

If anyone is brave enough to start or knows how to turn a video into an SC, please help a newbie like myself get started. I posted this in the Jef general forum, but it fits really well with this thread.

I just watched Sophienette's latest video - really cute and great job Sophie! This is about all her F3s and all their kissing scenes practically.



I don't know how to embed the video into my comment. If anyone knows, please let me know. I am not at all good at BL analysis, anyone good at that and wants to get that started? We gotta do something to keep sane between now and tomorrow night.

ILoveCase wrote:I think the banner at the top of the board gives a huge clue to body language of the final three. Keep in mind, I am not an expert. She is turned away from Sean and only kissing him with a mouth, but not body contact. He is F3. Arie is grabbing Emily who isn't touching him at all though she is facing him. He is controlling the Kiss and Em is along for the ride. Jef and Em are holding each other and completely facing each other with full body contact. He is F1.

ILoveCase wrote:I think the banner at the top of the board gives a huge clue to body language of the final three. Keep in mind, I am not an expert. She is turned away from Sean and only kissing him with a mouth, but not body contact. He is F3. Arie is grabbing Emily who isn't touching him at all though she is facing him. He is controlling the Kiss and Em is along for the ride. Jef and Em are holding each other and completely facing each other with full body contact. He is F1.