Kaitlyn Bristowe - Bachelorette 11 - #5 - Discussion

crunchette wrote:saying that she wished S&K would break up because Kaitlyn would be happier and more secure with someone else

Would she though? IMO right from the beginning they were attached at the hip every day 24/7. I remember commenting that I didn't think it was good for either one of them that they didn't seem to have any friends, or spend any social time apart. To me she was always very clingy.

He opened a gym, he's never home. There are million's of self employed business owners who work their butt's off because the idea is to make money. There's a difference between doing something that you love, rather than working "for a living" and hating your job.

I really want to hear Shawn's side of the story.

GuardianAngel wrote:

crunchette wrote:saying that she wished S&K would break up because Kaitlyn would be happier and more secure with someone else

Would she though? IMO right from the beginning they were attached at the hip every day 24/7. I remember commenting that I didn't think it was good for either one of them that they didn't seem to have any friends, or spend any social time apart. To me she was always very clingy.

He opened a gym, he's never home. There are million's of self employed business owners who work their butt's off because the idea is to make money. There's a difference between doing something that you love, rather than working "for a living" and hating your job.

I really want to hear Shawn's side of the story.

Very true and would also love to hear his side too !

GuardianAngel wrote:

crunchette wrote:saying that she wished S&K would break up because Kaitlyn would be happier and more secure with someone else

Would she though? IMO right from the beginning they were attached at the hip every day 24/7. I remember commenting that I didn't think it was good for either one of them that they didn't seem to have any friends, or spend any social time apart. To me she was always very clingy.

He opened a gym, he's never home. There are million's of self employed business owners who work their butt's off because the idea is to make money. There's a difference between doing something that you love, rather than working "for a living" and hating your job.

I really want to hear Shawn's side of the story.

I would be interested, too. Just because I have always seen this relationship as a major train wreck, not because I don’t or do like the couple or part of the couple, I am basically indifferent to them, yet so different from them. I am very independent and easily feel smothered. I cherish alone time. So I can’t imagine how Shawn could survive this long term. Or any one for that matter

I have been following these two the past 3 years and i can say they are both independent, they are not spending 24/7 together. Shawn did ironman last year, was training 7-8 hrs a day, did we see this mess? NO.
Its clear to those of us who have been following them that shawn really went full on with his gym, which is ok but he has to find a balance long term. No one would be ok with their partner not having any time for them and being tired all them time when they are together. In order for a relationship to grow, both need to spend time, energy , put effort and connect with each other or it will fail. I don't think kaitlyns being unreasonable because she has been very patient and supportive with his ironman, city strong, shawnbooth meal plans, his becoming vegetarian, his app and now gym and her feelings are valid. I would like to hear shawns side too but i know i never will.

Glad many of you are on the same page about their relationship. I have followed them since after the show and for the last year or 2 their relationship is going downhill. Every normal couple fight And what Kaitlyn and Shawn are going through is not like a regular couple cause Kaitlyn and Shawn are clearly on different pages. It is so obvious he doesn’t care and there are so many signs. I agree with the one that said Kaitlyn is like trying too hard to look like she is having fun and you can clearly see she is hurt. I don’t get why she is complaining when people are talking about them when she is the one telling the whole world about their problem/personal life so obviously people will have something to say. No one needs to know about their problems and some stuff is meant to keep private between the two of them not with her 1.6 million followers

They obviously are not together now 24/7 but in the beginning they were flip flopping all over the place, crashing wedding's and doing silly things. Which is ok, but at the same time they didn't do anything separately.

2016

Kaitlyn Bristowe and Shawn Booth fell in love last year on ABC’s The Bachelorette, and they have been inseparable ever since.
https://www.inquisitr.com/2806746/kaitlyn-bristowe-and-shawn-booth-share-relationship-updates-bachelorette-stars-looking-to-have-babies-before-wedding/

2015

Kaitlyn Bristowe and Shawn Booth have been inseparable since their season finale of The Bachelorette this past spring.
https://www.inquisitr.com/2407440/kaitlyn-bristowe-shawn-booth-update-bachelorette-couple-tackles-fishing-adventure/

IA @Pinkpincess that she shares far too much information about their relationship issues, which IMHO is no one's business especially when to me she is making it look like it's all his fault. Maybe it is, but I don't know where he stands.

@GuardianAngel yes absolutely. During their first year together, they were inseparable but its like 2 years ago. Also, kaitlyn never really said its shawns fault or anything, still is supportive of him all the time and say nice things about him , but i think most of us just assume its shawns mostly because he is the one that changed the most the past 3 years. I just wish them well and i know that we probably don't know a lot only see very small glimpse of their life.

Someone asked Kait if she misses Shawn because she (fan) misses seeing them together and Kait replied that she cried about it today actually but just doesn’t insta it  Poor thing. I know she’s not everyone fav and I get why but man, this super sucks and she’s clearly very hurt.

I just don't get it, I really don't. I could never say that out on SM for everyone to read. To me that's another example, of putting the guilt on Shawn.

She's talking to the wrong people. She needs help. That sounds like a desperate cry for help. It's almost as if she's just throwing everything out there, hoping something will stick, but to me, she's going about it all wrong.

bleuberry wrote:@crunchette but he still managed to say basically nothing. It seems clear in his reply that the trigger is no longer Kaitlyn/their relationship, but someone hating him.

I agree 100% that this was all about Shawn being upset about someone hating HIM.  I was actually surprised that he said "WE know" instead of "I know."  What stuns me is that Kait's been getting most of the blame for this situation: she took the ring off, she went to Canada, she went to Italy, she doesn't want kids (HA!), etc...but Shawn saw one person blaming him and he had to lash out.

@Mozhi1 - I hate to say it, but Kaitlyn has lied about her not liking anyone's IG posts.  She has liked posts from friends like Arielle, so she's clearly avoiding Shawn and vice versa.  I don't think she's lying about them being completely done since they do seem to be communicating via phone, but she said that she doesn't really want to go home and that once she gets home she's going to stop all SM.  I think this poor girl knows what's coming, and she's dreading it.  IMO, she probably knew how bad things were 3 weeks ago, but she was hoping time apart would make them miss each other and want to fight to repair things.  Sadly, that doesn't seem to be the case.

I don't care what Shawn's side of the story is. I'm going to come up with a ton of viable and possibly ridiculous scenarios: she drinks too much, he hates her family/friends, they don't agree about money, she nags him too much, they fight all the time, she's a lousy housekeeper/cook, she doesn't want sex, she's too clingy/needy, he hates her decorating, she shares too much on her podcast, she wants marriage and he doesn't, she wants babies and he doesn't, etc.  I don't care what the friggen issue is because he would've had these concerns long before she took her ring off, so he could have (should have) ended things before using her to get his career going and before wasting valuable child-bearing years.

Tbh I think Kaitlyn is sharing all of this just in case they break up so that people will feel sorry for her and this is a way to drum up traffic to her page and increase engagement. She is all about making money... I am sure she has gained a lot of followers since this whole Shawn thing. I think she is sharing partly because she doesn't know what to do and is stuck and partly because this is good business for her and if they eventually break up, people will take her side. With Kaitlyn most people will take sides and she will gain followers because now everyone sees Shawn as the bad guy. Look at how much Kaitlyn has changed. Like when he met her she was confident...and Shawn has seen her become so insecure and caring about what people think. Maybe he wanted the confident, independent woman he saw on TV and not this insecure mess that is Kaitlyn

Pinkpincess wrote:...Maybe Shawn wanted the confident, independent woman he saw on TV and not this insecure mess that is Kaitlyn

When you’re unable to be your authentic self and the relationship drags you down and doesn’t build you up it’s time to end it. If this is happening to Kaitlyn I hope she has the strength and fortitude to get out and move on JMO