Bachelor 22 - Arie Luyendyk Jr - SM Media - *Sleuthing Spoilers* - #3

Pirouette wrote:

mslat92 wrote:

Pirouette wrote:Whoa! I came back on this thread to check the news and...such a hate fest on Arie! What did he do to deserve so much hate ? The guy had a change of heart. So what’s the big deal about it ? In such circumstances, I am even surprised there hasn’t been more leads doing the same thing. By fear of backlash like this one maybe.
I personally can’t blame Arie for changing his mind if once in real life, he discovered Becca was not a good fit or saw another side of Becca he hadn’t during filming. Maybe she was not the one she portrayed herself during the show.
Also, why the love fest on Becca ? So many praises as if she was the last messiah on earth. I am guessing she’s a nice girl from what seen on TV, but what makes her be so idolized?

It's a culmination of his awful dating history, all the shady rumours that have surrounded him for years, how he is coming across on TV (yuck) and the fact that it seems he proposed to Becca and then was immediately pining after Lauren (liking her Insta posts), but still taking Becca back to Arizona and going on multiple SHV's.

I don’t know the guy, but dating history regarding a single young man in his 30s must be a long list but that doesn’t make him bad IMO. As for the rumors, it’s just that : rumors. I remembered the very bad rep Jordan Rodgers had, with all the rumors, and the girls claiming he was an awful boyfriend. He doesn’t look too bad now with Jojo.
If Arie decided to go back with Lauren, I am guessing he has to be sure it was a viable possibility before breaking up with Becca. Timing is neither good anyway: if he done it later, there would also have been a backlash because he would have waited too long. It’s a no win situation for him anyway.
Brad Womack got backlash because he picked nobody.
Jason got backlash because of his switcheroo.
Chris Soules got backlash because he picked the one who would accept a proposal but not the one he loved.
Juan Pablo got backlash because he didn’t propose.
And of course, some leads got backlash just because they don’t pick the favorite one.
Just IMHO.

Rolly wrote:Arie had to be sure Lauren was a viable possibility before he broke up with Becca?!? Just no. He’s engaged to Becca....does he want to be or not??? And if Lauren didn’t want him does he stay engaged to Becca? OMG Arie is not in junior high. Be a grown azz man and act like a guy in your 30’s. If he made a mistake proposing to Becca end it. It’s his relationship with Lauren before he broke up with Becca that makes him a jerk IMO. He is proving that the awful things people thought and said about him before filming started are true.

Alanna wrote:Why not just break up with Becca, give it until the afr and then BEG Lauren for a second chance after a few months have passed? Or is she such a freaking hot commodity, he was afraid she’d be snapped up within days?

Alanna wrote:Why not just break up with Becca, give it until the afr and then BEG Lauren for a second chance after a few months have passed? Or is she such a freaking hot commodity, he was afraid she’d be snapped up within days?

Ladybug82 wrote:

Alanna wrote:Why not just break up with Becca, give it until the afr and then BEG Lauren for a second chance after a few months have passed? Or is she such a freaking hot commodity, he was afraid she’d be snapped up within days?

Yes, this is where I am.  If she wanted to be the Ette instead of try with him, then he had his answer.  Or he could always join her season.  

JMO

Rolly wrote:

Pirouette wrote:

mslat92 wrote:

It's a culmination of his awful dating history, all the shady rumours that have surrounded him for years, how he is coming across on TV (yuck) and the fact that it seems he proposed to Becca and then was immediately pining after Lauren (liking her Insta posts), but still taking Becca back to Arizona and going on multiple SHV's.

I don’t know the guy, but dating history regarding a single young man in his 30s must be a long list but that doesn’t make him bad IMO. As for the rumors, it’s just that : rumors. I remembered the very bad rep Jordan Rodgers had, with all the rumors, and the girls claiming he was an awful boyfriend. He doesn’t look too bad now with Jojo.
If Arie decided to go back with Lauren, I am guessing he has to be sure it was a viable possibility before breaking up with Becca. Timing is neither good anyway: if he done it later, there would also have been a backlash because he would have waited too long. It’s a no win situation for him anyway.
Brad Womack got backlash because he picked nobody.
Jason got backlash because of his switcheroo.
Chris Soules got backlash because he picked the one who would accept a proposal but not the one he loved.
Juan Pablo got backlash because he didn’t propose.
And of course, some leads got backlash just because they don’t pick the favorite one.
Just IMHO.

Arie had to be sure Lauren was a viable possibility before he broke up with Becca?!? Just no. He’s engaged to Becca....does he want to be or not??? And if Lauren didn’t want him does he stay engaged to Becca? OMG Arie is not in junior high. Be a grown azz man and act like a guy in your 30’s. If he made a mistake proposing to Becca end it. It’s his relationship with Lauren before he broke up with Becca that makes him a jerk IMO. He is proving that the awful things people thought and said about him before filming started are true.

CHO wrote:I agree  - not rushing to judgment until I see the facts -
Unusual that Becca had the first one on one.  Producers just don't hand us the results on a silver platter.  I was struck by Arie saying to Lauren - I really want to kiss you.  Not something one says if one is smitten by another.  But we know strange things happen on this show.  I think there is more to this - and it certainly is catching peoples' interest - excellent for publicity !

Aria wrote:

Alanna wrote:Why not just break up with Becca, give it until the afr and then BEG Lauren for a second chance after a few months have passed? Or is she such a freaking hot commodity, he was afraid she’d be snapped up within days?

Maybe they convinced him that he needed to act now or she would become the Bachelorette. Because America has been dying to follow the love story of the most vanilla of contestants ever.