Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion - #6

hae1001 wrote:If the cancelled wedding wasn't part of the script then it never would have been put back on imo. If they were having legitimate issues at that point, then it wasn't necessary to have the show end in "happily ever after" imo. It's weird to me that basically every other scenario from the show was written off as fake and scripted by the majority except for this one scene, which seems to always be conveniently left out that it was resolved (back on).

Seabear wrote:No one will ever convince me that Lauren was expecting Ben to cancel the wedding during the on camera "group therapy" session on HEA. The utter confusion and tearful expression on Lauren's crestfallen face was as real as real can get. IMO no doubt that in that moment she was blindsided and devastated. I am certain watching it play out on TV for all the viewers to see only made a terrible situation worse. IMO that was truly the straw that broke the camels back on their relationship. And the cause of that trauma was ALL Ben's FAULT.

IMO Lauren truly loved Ben and Ben thought he loved Lauren. However with Ben's own inability to accept his own failings or even true feelings IMO Lauren and Ben were doomed to fail from the moment of the engagement. I agree with Lauren that Ben should have told Lauren about the double ILY's before he proposed so Lauren could have made her own informed decision on whether she wanted to say yes or no to accepting the ring. I am certain when Ben told Lauren all that had happened the next day....that the happy engagement took a turn for the worse. Then when Lauren had to relive it very publicly for a second time during the airing of the show, no doubt this was damaging to the already fragile engagement. Once again this is Ben's fault for not being honest and forthcoming to Lauren and only being concerned by his own process and feelings. Also Ben's fault for being incapable of accepting the fault of his double ILY verbal diarrhea and lack of empathy to understanding Lauren's upset.  

I agree it is better to break off an engagement that exit a bad marriage. It is how the engagement and canceling of the wedding was handled that I find fault with. This is all on Ben IMO.

Hopefully both Ben and Lauren learned valuable lessons about themselves and what they want in their future partner. Sometimes the most difficult situations and painful episodes in our lives teach us the most. I am certain both Lauren and Ben will eventually find their true HEA.
All JMO

Cila51290 wrote:Lauren looks so beautiful now in days. Not that she wasn't before, but she really glows now. The dead weight is gone.

hae1001 wrote:The people article insinuated that they signed up for the show so ben could pursue politics imo which was exactly what ben originally said the show would showcase when it was first announced. Lauren said in the interview neither really wanted to do another reality show but it was a good opportunity for Ben's political aspirations. They were both duped by the show imo. It was supposed to be some part time filming thing that mutually benefited both of their professional careers. Instead they were forced to spend several weeks all day filming a show that made a farce of them as people and their relationship and didn't allow them to have the time they needed to be a couple imo. I don't blame either over the other for that because in the end they both agreed to it. IMO both of them were fully aware of the storyline that was laid out for them and chose to move forward with it. 

Also people are entitled to have positive opinions of ben.