Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion

I totally agree with you. I have rewatched most of their YouTube pieces , many times and you always see something that you missed, previously. It just isn't her nature to be so outgoing, as others have been.

Sosleepy - I loved the interview rounds and thought she handled it beautifully, best of any f1 IMO. But I see her snaps and pics and they leave something to be desired. I can't pinpoint what it is.

Maybe she likes it that way, idk.

As another reserved person I totally get her. Some of us just aren't comfortable being so open and showing our emotions even if we're feeling it. I relate more to her than the crazies who are crying all over the place and throwing themselves desperately at a guy who's dating multiple women. She has my respect for the way she handled this chit show.  

All JMO.

bleuberry wrote:Sosleepy - I loved the interview rounds and thought she handled it beautifully, best of any f1 IMO. But I see her snaps and pics and they leave something to be desired. I can't pinpoint what it is.

Maybe she likes it that way, idk.

I'll somewhat agree with you, her social media and her snap game can sometimes leave a little to be desired. But here is my take on that. Lauren was NOT big into social media before the show at all. No Twitter, limited stuff on IG, no snap. She's brand new to this. It's not really "her thing." I actually think her snap game has gotten a little better. But she's no Kaitlyn Bristowe who lives for the thing. If that makes sense. I'm also glad Lauren doesn't live and die for social media. I'm glad she's not a social media expert.

I agree, I thought she was super classy and poised in all the interviews. She handled everything beautifully. IMO.

Alanna wrote:

bleuberry wrote:I wish I knew a little more about Lauren now that the season ended. I know she can take a gorgeous selfie and that her make-up is always on fleek, to borrow a phrase from the tween crowd .

That might be all there is to know about the Incredible, Amazing and Unparalled in All Realms Lauren.

This is classic Alanna!

That is what is great about this show, we all can enjoy different people and our opinions on people can even change as we see them IRL.

I was a Jef fan and a Nick fan, now I look at them both and think of please grow up. I still love JPG and Nikki (except when she is with MeAndi), most do not. I expected Des and Chris to break up within a year, yeah way wrong on that. I liked SeanCat and now want them to fade into obscurity. I still dislike Emily, happy for her to have a beautiful family, but do not like her at all. I like Caila and Olivia, but the rest of Ben's girls except maybe JoJo are a waste of breathable oxygen to me. 

I am glad some people enjoy Lauren, so far she is living in Denver, though it seems they are never there, so as of now the feet have her and Ben on the road to HEA. Good for them. As for her SM presence, she doesn't have to do SM, it is not required. It is her choice and it keeps them relevant so she gets all those expensive clothes she loves and all the sports and concert tickets they are enjoying. So good for her. Probably helps ensure a tv wedding too. All good for them. But she does not have to do it. She and Ben could settle into quiet life in Denver and leave the bachelor behind. Since I don't think she wants that she has to keep up the SM. She was very poised in the post show interviews, she had 4 months to prepare and rehearse. I personally think the interviews like the show were partially a part she was playing. I think the clothes and makeup loving, silly party girl is more the real Lauren. I think the moments where you aren't as rehearsed show the real person and that is what I see. She is like 90% of all girls who come on this show. Could I be wrong? Sure, in time maybe I will warm to her. If not, no big deal, Lauren and Ben will do just fine no matter what my opinion is.

I didn't like most of Ben's girls either but I wouldn't say they are wastes of breathable oxygen. I'm sure they all have at least some value even if they aren't really everyone's cup of tea.

All JMO.

mysthelma wrote:Even Ben couldn't articulate his attraction to Lauren excepts being incredible, incredible, incredible.... and him looking at her like she was going to vanish if he took his eyes off her.

I couldn't read her on the show and she showed "zero" personality, but i think Ben and her are well suited.

For what it's worth (and I understand that for those that don't like her, it's not worth much):

Episode 9 Ben: You're beautiful and smart and sweet and sensitive. Same scene where they played the "you're too good for me; no you're too good for me" back and forth. This was also him describing how her sister was right when Molly said: She's beautiful, she's funny, she's smart, she's nice, good values.

Episode 11 Ben: You've made me a better person, and all this worth it, stood beside me at all times and not only allowed me to know you better but to fall in love with you.

Just my opinion but that is someone who knows why they love someone. He did however say things like I fell in love with you right away and I didn't even know why, so I can understand why some might find his words to not hold as much weight. I will also say that while I fell in love with them falling in love with each other Lauren did not emote as much as I feel the other two of his final three did. Her personality on the show was understated at times. I guess ultimately for their relationship it only really matters that Ben felt she was the best person for him.

Blu, no biggie. I didn't see much value in them. Went back and watched WTA. Found them mean and petty. Just not a very mature bunch. Maybe over the course of a full season some would have stood out more. That's the problem with assuming sometimes you just make yourself look silly.

I guess I don't see the party girl that some others see. Lauren and Ben, since the show ended, haven't really done much of that at all. The iHeart radio event last weekend, sure. But even there, we didn't get a ton a shenanigan snaps or anything. The snaps we got were of the artists they were watching. And I bet we will get some party snaps in Vegas, because it's Vegas. Otherwise, yeah... Not so much. They have spent a lot of time traveling, mostly to see family. But they've also spent considerable time in Denver. This last trip to Miami was for Ben's work. I get the feeling they actually spend a lot of boring time just chilling and watching TV or whatever together at the end of the day. Just normal, boring couple stuff. And even while the show was airing, Lauren was only really ever seen out partying like one time, with Amanda. Otherwise she, again, spent a lot of time with family, mostly kept a low profile.

And the girl that likes makeup and clothes? I guess point me to any Bachelor contestant that doesn't. That's par for the course. Seems like it almost has to be a prerequisite to apply. And that goes for the "high profile" "loved" contestants like Des, Jillian, Ali, and JoJo too, just to name a few.

I thought Ben's girls were mean and petty too but fortunately this was a really young group so I hold out hope that most of them will grow out of it. There is so much time for them to mature and improve themselves.

All JMO.

I try to not give up hope on anyone. The woman I was at 25 would annoy the woman I am at almost 45. I can only comment on what I see now. 

BTW, as a chemist waste of breathable oxygen is a favorite insult. Having a pulmonary embolism and then studying stroke just made me appreciate ragging on someone as unworthy of oxygen even more. Almost no one I meet IRL gets the unworthy of breathable oxygen title.