Ben Higgins - Lauren Bushnell - Bachelor 20 - Discussion

Jules3 wrote:

bluwavz wrote:Ben is a very private man. He lived as a recluse before the show until his parents forced him to go on it twice. Lauren is the one tweeting and posting pics on his accounts. He wouldn't do any of this if he had a choice or if he was in his right mind. You guys aren't seeing all the behind the scenes stuff.  

All JMO.

This is the first I've heard of Ben being a recluse and his parents forcing him on the show or that he isn't in his right mind. How do you know this?

First im hearing of this as well. imo Ben handled this show with class , he's a smart guy and at no loss for words and very mindful & attentive to all the women , seemed very much in his right mind to me. I don't believe for a second that his parents or anyone else "forced" him to go on this show. jmo

^^Thought Blu was being sarcastic....

Linds911 wrote: Well she said that in April she would move so if this month passes and still nothing then...

She also said as soon as their schedules would allow them. They still have that other thing for Ben's college around the 14th or 15th. SO I think she will make the move this month.

I did notice that Ben used Instagram last night to post a picture with Lauren's youngest brother captioning it that he had picked up a new brother and they were missing her other brother.  I take that as a good sign for their relationship, future and for Ben being integrated into Lauren's family.  All JMO.

I'm not worried about the move. They will do it when the timing is right for them. Also, blu was being sarcastic. Ben isn't a recluse.

I do think the move will happen after the uni event on the 14-15th. And they might start going back to work in May. Jmo.

Lauren was just out of control posting on social media last night while at the Blazers games...All those obnoxious snap chats and Instagram pictures. Oh wait...

SeekAny wrote:Lauren was just out of control posting on social media last night while at the Blazers games...All those obnoxious snap chats and Instagram pictures. Oh wait...

Right? **edited** I actually think they are hitting a nice balance. Nothing she posts on any platform is an over share or out of control. Next to the average 26-year-old in 2016, especially one hot off a reality show, she's posting waaaaaay less than the norm. Ben posts stuff too, he's no recluse. I think on average, women tend to use and post to social media more than men anyway. So yeah, from my view they are respecting each other and hitting a nice stride with regards to SM.

Haha yes just being sarcastic.

Kashathediva wrote:IMO, it's hard to equate respecting someone's privacy in the same frame as a person who has been on 2 reality tv shows and god knows how many other tv or radio interviews etc. to that of those who don't like their picture taken, don't embrace sm or whatever.
And in Ben's case this is something he pursued vs someone else who may shun the limelight.
Personally, I don't think Ben actually could care that much about the situation, but if the particular incident did irritate him, he needs to grow a pair and maybe take a nap.

Well I guess I better get back in bed for my nap then (but hopefully not grow anything) because it would totally irritate me, and Ben was grumpy about something so maybe it bugged him too.  People are different.  

That said, I don't think being irritated at each other is any sign of trouble or a breakup coming, just normal couple stuff, unless it becomes a pattern.

Mommyof1 wrote:

Alanna wrote:Lauren just strikes me as calculating and Ben is a dummy, a loveable one but a dummy nonetheless. All imo of course. I think they'll be together as long as this suit Lauren, so maybe forever. They can either be Emily and Brad or Trista and Ryan.

This post made me , Alanna.  Btw, Easter has passed...shouldn't she be packing her suitcase for Denver?  No, too soon?  Alrighty then.

I don't compare the couples (Brad/Emily and then later Juanp and Nikki among others) just the situation so if she hasn't moved by May then she/they are putting the brakes imo. I cannot blame them if they don't make it. Both are great people but this is one of the most unnatural circumstances ever to get engaged. The F1 literally needs blinders on (where the heck is that icon at ????)



Just because they are both individually awesome doesn't mean they don't have issues which other past couples got beat up on mercilessly particularly on this board.

I think if they start spending time apart even a week or two prior to her moving I would really start watching them. But if they keep busy and traveling together I don't see any issue if the move doesn't happen until early May.

All IMHO