The Bachelor 20 - Ben Higgins - Episode 9 - Discussion - #3 *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

agentcurls wrote:

ForeverLove wrote:Regarding  Lauren's tears being post show , I doubt it. Her FRC pic in the Heli looks like someone who's been crying jmo

Some of her ITMs that were featured in finale preview , IMO, we're done post-show. I'm not referring to the heli ride.

Lily wrote:

Seabear wrote:To me one thing is painfully obvious in this episode.  Ben truly believes he is in love with two women and he tells both of them ILY repeatedly.  I believe that Ben will choose Lauren B at the end because of the spoilers BUT the most real ILY moment for me was with JoJo at the waterfall.  Her expression was so revealing, raw and naked emotional happiness and relief.  She (thought she) knew what in the framework of the Bachelor what this meant.  Ben to JoJo ... I love you too JoJo.  JoJo.. What?  Are you allowed to say that??  Ben...I'm not. At least that seems very very real to me.  And it was filmed 1st.  To me Ben has been captivated by Lauren and has been in love with her too. Lauren is the girl he never thought he would find.  She also is closest to his "fantasy" look.  On paper she seems a more similar pick family background wise. I think Ben's decision will be agonizing for him and devastating for his F2.  Ben would have been a much nicer person in my eyes if he had exercised impulse control (I realize he has none) and kept his ILY's for the FRC.  And don't even get me started on the FS "activity" x 3.  I am curious just how his Besnick will go down.  Looking forward to March 14.

JMO

This is very reminiscent of the Melissa/ Molly situation. I kept hoping for a Molly ending because that's what made the most sense in my eyes. I feel the same about Ben and Jojo. It just feels real.

peggy0221 wrote:

Lily wrote:

Seabear wrote:To me one thing is painfully obvious in this episode.  Ben truly believes he is in love with two women and he tells both of them ILY repeatedly.  I believe that Ben will choose Lauren B at the end because of the spoilers BUT the most real ILY moment for me was with JoJo at the waterfall.  Her expression was so revealing, raw and naked emotional happiness and relief.  She (thought she) knew what in the framework of the Bachelor what this meant.  Ben to JoJo ... I love you too JoJo.  JoJo.. What?  Are you allowed to say that??  Ben...I'm not. At least that seems very very real to me.  And it was filmed 1st.  To me Ben has been captivated by Lauren and has been in love with her too. Lauren is the girl he never thought he would find.  She also is closest to his "fantasy" look.  On paper she seems a more similar pick family background wise. I think Ben's decision will be agonizing for him and devastating for his F2.  Ben would have been a much nicer person in my eyes if he had exercised impulse control (I realize he has none) and kept his ILY's for the FRC.  And don't even get me started on the FS "activity" x 3.  I am curious just how his Besnick will go down.  Looking forward to March 14.

JMO

This is very reminiscent of the Melissa/ Molly situation. I kept hoping for a Molly ending because that's what made the most sense in my eyes. I feel the same about Ben and Jojo. It just feels real.

Both of these two posts!!
To me, as a general viewer who is not on anyone's team, what I get from all along is:

JoJo - like Nick to MeAndi, Chris to Des, Reid to Jillian. She brings out the most relaxed side of Ben, and Ben can't resist himself getting closer and closer to her because it feels so natural and so right. However, she is not the typical type he has been picturing, just like Nick/Chris/Reid were not MeAndi/Des/Jilly's type. Only difference was Brooks leaving became the best gift for Des.

Lauren - like Josh, Brooks, Ed. She is the type Ben always dreams of, but not necessarily the best fit.

mindless wrote:

bluwavz wrote:I'm fine with the Queen's approach. If I was 1 of the 25-30 women who signed up for this you damn well better believe I'd make whatever male specimen they've chosen to pursue me. That's the only way I'd remotely believe any BS that comes out of the lead's mouth. I would never pursue the lead! When you offer yourself on a platter to a man, the majority of them are going to take it whether they have feelings for you or not. Lauren is a smart lady keeping her emotions in check. Ben is the one I question with his ridiculous proclamations of love to two women. For all I know he was just saying that because the producers told him to or to get the women to go to bed with him. #TeamQueen

I wish I could like this post more than once! I've tried pursuing a man when I was young and stupid. Never again! Bad, bad idea! My current boyfriend traveled over a thousand miles just to meet me for the first time and he's stuck by me for years now. Actions speak louder than words, always.  

bluwavz wrote:
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I know Lauren isn't the most exciting character to watch on TV but I can't fault her for how she's approaching this show especially when the guy she's there for doesn't even appear to be sure. She should be careful with her emotions especially since hasn't been with his.

Lily wrote:Sorry guys.. Off topic.. I've seen many references to this ess okay.. I want in.. What does it refer to.. I'm dying to know

bluwavz wrote:Ess okay, Peggy. We're cool. :winkie: And hey I could be completely wrong about Lauren. It wouldn't be the first time.