Marcus Grodd - Lacy Faddoul - Bachelor in Paradise Season 1 - Discussion

But he's still posting about her. It's like he's teasing and inviting questions by mentioning his 'other half' that he seems to pretend doesn't exist most of the time. And what's with not actually marrying her? Weird. IMO I don't blame the fans for being confused, esp when they roped them in and still do in a sense. Make your SM private, go underground and quit it all together. Fine with me. But at least be consistent about it.

How does he pretend Lacey doesn't exist though? He can post or tweet about his other half when he wants to. I don't think it's any 'plan' to rope fans in. Fans are acting entitled, demanding relationship updates from them when it's none of their business. Jmo.

I don't know about a blanket statement that fans are acting entitled. If you like a couple it's perfectly natural to want to know that they're still together. It's up to M/L if they want to share but I doubt very much it's because they want to penalize their fans. They must see each other at times so it wouldn't be hard to throw in a pic of them together once in a while. There wouldn't be nearly as much speculation if they had done that IMO. I think it was made worse because they did choose to post pics with other people. I like them although don't consider myself a fan so it really doesn't bother me one way or another but I can see why there are questions. All JMO.

I don't think they owe anyone an explanation, but I also think people are free to speculate. They have been acting pretty weird and I really don't believe they are legally married. They may still be together, but I don't think it's been smooth sailing by any means. JMO.

I believe the transition to Marcus joining the military has been very hard. That is when their SM behavior changed. But reading the comments on the pic of Lacy with friends I understand. Some were just out of control IMO. They did set themselves up by being on tv, but I truly think they don't know what is going on with each other and themselves as a couple. Rather than throw shade or hissy fits they have gone silent about each other (until Marcus recently). It might be an effort on his part who knows. I believe Lacy did make her SM private for a while, but she is now in realty and her wanting to post on SM is her right. They could make it easier and clarify, but then they would be asked to explain and for details, etc. And IMO, they maybe aren't ready for that.

I think they're probably "on a break" and not together but also not dating or sleeping with other people, so they likely don't know the status of the relationship themselves. I also don't think they're married and the whole BIP thing was just a big farce.

stuckinsc wrote:Or Marcus joined the military and they are figuring out how to adjust and handle that. She is settled where she is, so she can't just quit and follow him to each new place he is posted. 

They get so much negativity, I don't blame them for stopping the posting with each other completely. JMO.

I disagree. 
There is lots of speculation from what I gather. People(their fans?) want to know. There would be little to no speculation, if things were not obviously absent. As long as the relationship appears to be so cloak and dagger, the speculation will continue. 

There are lots of long distance military relationships that still post things, visit each other and take pictures. So it's an excuse, in my opinion, to say this is why they don't/can't. l have had friends with sons on submarines and they manage time with their families during their breaks. Endless examples abound of men and women in the armed forces who manage to maintain contact with family. In all this time, has Lacy visited Marcus at all? Certainly, there has been a stretch in his training where this has been possible. It's not like she has that consuming of a profession or life.  So this, imo, is why people wonder.

Per Alanna

I think they're probably "on a break" and not together but also not dating or sleeping with other people, so they likely don't know the status of the relationship themselves. I also don't think they're married and the whole BIP thing was just a big farce.

 
This is what I think, also.  They have not figured it out themselves. Thing went too fast and they fell too hard and then real life bit them in the azz.

Alanna wrote:I think they're probably "on a break" and not together but also not dating or sleeping with other people, so they likely don't know the status of the relationship themselves. I also don't think they're married and the whole BIP thing was just a big farce.

This is a perfect way to put it. If they were married they would be separated. Obviously they moved way too fast. It is such a shame that the show encourages this. :/ I agree with Kasha also, that many military families post pictures of their loved ones, and make reference to them when they can. Maybe they can "find their way back to each other." Only they know what is best for them.

^^^ get the pressure on the next crop of BIP contestants whomever they may be. Encouraged to get engaged at the end and exchange vows before the next year is out.

Fingersandtoes wrote:^

I agree with stuckinsc, they don't owe fans anything, and I would block anyone demanding answers. That's insane. One of the comments actually said that the fans 'deserve' answers, because the spent time watching BIP. What crazy logic is that?

And it could be they've decided to not post about each other on sm, because the fan entitlement never stops. If they posted more, these same fans would go in on them for the clothes they wear, their looks or anything else. Or it could be they're figuring things out and don't want to make any announcements. Fans wants answers, but Lacey and Marcus might not have one. And Lacey/Marcus win that one for me, obviously, since it's their life.

I agree with both of you. Lacey/Marcus owe no one any explanations or apologies. It's none of 
anyone's business. Typically SM . I'm sure their families and close friends know what's going on.
Somehow fans believe they have rights to you. They have none. IMO 

I don't think anyone believes the couple owes an explanation. JMOAA
What I do think is this is the backlash of what happens when you have been out there and then retreat and there are questions. 
IF people ran into them together and took a candid--there would not be talk of a split. 
IF the occas. photo popped up in IG of them together--there would not be talk of a split. 
IF there were anything indicating anything speculation would be halted, IMO.
Maybe not.
There is going to be speculation. That's ok. There is a simple way to end that. 
To be out in people's faces and then pretty much disappear and appear on some levels to have cooled their relationship is what's causing the speculation.

I agree with you Kasha 100%. ^^^^