Marcus Grodd - Lacy Faddoul - Bachelor in Paradise Season 1 - Discussion

Kashathediva wrote:IMO what changed is she is used to a certain life and she woke up and saw that Marcus was 180 degrees opposite of that life.

I completely agree with this. After BiP it seemed that Marcus was going to move and fit into her life. Then he chose to enter the military, that is not an easy life, at first it was Coast Guard which probably would have been able to stay close to SoCal, but then it became Marines and that could be anywhere. Lacy seems like a SoCal girl and I honestly don't blame her if once it became Marines she didn't want it. It wasn't what she had agreed to either. Now she should have just ended it and let him go. And yes, if you love someone you go where they are, but it shows that long term they weren't going to be good for each other.

As for kids, Lacy is young, good for her for sticking to being an aunt for however long she wants to, even if that is forever. Women should not be criticized if they chose not to be a mom for whatever reason.

This last interview just paints Marcus as a spoiled vindictive ex IMO.

I agree with a don't ask, don't tell policy. Keep it to yourself.
However, I think Lacy is very accustomed to a life much different than what life with Marcus would offer. JMO

I wonder if either will write a nasty tell all  & be another Best Selling Author Now that they broke up, will Lacy post all her underwear on IG? So many questions.

She's been busy, it's me time.

Lacy Faddoul ‏@LacyFaddoul  21h21 hours ago
Finally me time....vacation bound. #toobusy

She should update her website, there is no love story.

Our love story is 80% of our life 40% of our scent

http://www.lacyfaddoulperfumes.com/

Kashathediva wrote:I agree with a don't ask, don't tell policy. Keep it to yourself.
However, I think Lacy is very accustomed to a life much different than what life with Marcus would offer. JMO

What do you mean? I was always under the impression that Lacy is a hard worker, even if she works for a family business. She doesn't come across as spoiled to me.

Sorry, but no respect for Marcus. People are allowed to have a change of heart without being vilified for it. He seems like a typical clinger who then lashes out when all else fails. I suspect she made it very clear that things were over but he just refused to listen. I've come by guys like that and it's hell. It's bad enough having to break someone's heart, but if you're a nice empathetic person and they refuse to give up, then they pretty much force you to keep hurting them. In the end there's nothing you can do except ignore. No way would a caring, empathetic person like Lacy just disappear unless that was the last resort. She probably didn't know how to address her concerns with him, since everytime she tried he freaked out and started buying her flowers and whatever "romantic" nonsense instead of really talking and getting to the bottom of their issues. That's just my read on things. Either way, I find his sly insults disgusting. Lacy's not the woman you want to have your kids with? No loss to her, since she's the one who didn't want your kids, Marcus!

I think Lacy wanted her cake and to eat it too. She loved all the perks that came with being Marcus supposed wife in the franchise, being invited to the show most assuming because she was supposed to be one of the successful couples in the show. While playing hide and seek about if they were together or not to the public. Of course couples don't owe us explanations, but when you come on a dating show where you supposed to have fallen in love in front of millions it would be fair to say we are no longer together and not give reasons if you like.

I agree mindless. Whatever Lacy did, she has yet to utter one bad word about him. And she has to have something on him after almost 2 years. Kudos to her, the temptation must be real. 

If she decided she wasn't interested in what he had to offer, it would appear that she made it (semi) clear by refusing to move in or start a family. I'm also curious if she was included in the decision to join the military, he mentions she wasn't supportive. He's acting like a baby who can't handle rejection. Take your L and move on.

Also I've never gotten a princess vibe from her. Heck he moved in with her. There's something off about his side of the story that I'm sure we'll never know.

mindless wrote:

Kashathediva wrote:I agree with a don't ask, don't tell policy. Keep it to yourself.
However, I think Lacy is very accustomed to a life much different than what life with Marcus would offer. JMO

What do you mean? I was always under the impression that Lacy is a hard worker, even if she works for a family business. She doesn't come across as spoiled to me.

Sorry, but no respect for Marcus. People are allowed to have a change of heart without being vilified for it. He seems like a typical clinger who then lashes out when all else fails. I suspect she made it very clear that things were over but he just refused to listen. I've come by guys like that and it's hell. It's bad enough having to break someone's heart, but if you're a nice empathetic person and they refuse to give up, then they pretty much force you to keep hurting them. In the end there's nothing you can do except ignore. No way would a caring, empathetic person like Lacy just disappear unless that was the last resort. She probably didn't know how to address her concerns with him, since everytime she tried he freaked out and started buying her flowers and whatever "romantic" nonsense instead of really talking and getting to the bottom of their issues. That's just my read on things. Either way, I find his sly insults disgusting. Lacy's not the woman you want to have your kids with? No loss to her, since she's the one who didn't want your kids, Marcus!

From things I have been able to determine, Lacy was nothing more than a figurehead at the family "healthcare" business. These are basically small cottages of assisted living facility with a census of no more than 15 that don't run full capacity. I think she was responsible for a few. It's done all the time, so they aren't pulling one over, but she is a figurehead for the family and someone else basically did the day to day. I've been saying this same schpiel for about a year, nothing new coming from me. 
Talk to anyone that's a health care administrator and they are busy and on call 24/7. Not occasionally. LOL  
I can't speak of how she does in real estate, but that is a fairly new thing since the relationship with Marcus started faltering. 
So I think she is used to a much cushier lifestyle than what Marcus would be able to offer. A marines wife is not going to go shopping on Rodeo Drive often. 
Don't get me wrong, I do not condone airing dirty laundry. Far from it. However, I think Lacy got a good reality check at what life would be like with Marcus and had second thoughts.

I just took a look at lacy's IG. She haz 201K followers and hawks perfume and lord knows what else but it's private? Huh?

I agree with @Kashathediva, Lacy grew up in privilege and the wife of a Marine wasn't going to give her that. I am okay with that as it seemed like Marcus's desire to join the Marine's came out of no where. I actually respect her for recognizing that life wasn't for her and not trying to fake it.

She should have flat out broken up with him, but her pride may have hoped that if she ignored it, it would go away gracefully. And now that has totally backfired. I didn't expect Marcus to have so much petulant little boy scorned in him. JMO. I also still think that Marcus may have cheated, but there is no proof, just a couple of IG posts with him with women who were not just fans back last fall. So again, JMO.

I never understood why she decided to make a wedding scent and even more...why she tried to sell it to the public. So biazzare. I can't imagine that anyone would buy the perfume...I wonder how many she's sold..? 

IMO.

Lennoxcolinrolland wrote:I never understood why she decided to make a wedding scent and even more...why she tried to sell it to the public. So biazzare. I can't imagine that anyone would buy the perfume...I wonder how many she's sold..? 

IMO.

To me it was a classier version of the SM hawking that most of them do. It didn't catch on and she abandoned it. I don't think Lacy is the type to reduce herself to schilling full time. JMO.