Amanda Stanton - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

Realme wrote:Wow, that was harsh against Amanda.  I know of a number of people who have been divorced young with a couple of kids and they weren't irresponsible or a dim bulb.

I still love Amanda and she has always been in my top 3.  I think she is someone who loves her kids very much and is just looking to be able to provide them the best life possible.  I know a couple guys I would love to set her up with.  To bad they will never meet though.  And honestly I think Ben would have had no problem becoming a father figure to those 2 little girls.  He has worked around kids before and it appears he loves kids.

She's in my top 3 too. Getting divorced at 25 is a lot better than living your life with a  cheater and partier. I'm a year older than her and I could never deal with that much responsibility on my own, so I think she deserves a lot of credit for being a young, single mother.

I now wish she hadn't said anything because her ex is a piece of work, but I felt like she said it very matter-of-factly. It didn't seem like she was trying to get any sympathy or audition for the Bachelorette; it just seemed like a simple "this is what you need to know about me to know why it didn't work out and understand that I take marriage very seriously". JMO.

peggy0221 wrote:Never liked Amanda, having 2 kids and already divorced so young are the biggest clues as to what kind of person she is...

We all have life lessons to learn.  I'm sure when Amanda got married she wasn't expecting to get divorced. She's a loving mom. She comes from a supportive family. She's gained perspective as to what qualities are important in her next marriage JMO

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You never know what life throws at you, or how people will start to mistreat you, so I do commend and praise her for getting divorced if she wasn't being treated right and the marriage was dysfunctional. His IG post of her phone calls makes it seem like he made her feel guilty over the smallest things, which is not good. And he did not deny the cheating claims, did he? Or texting other women and caring about partying and other stuff than taking care of his children? 

I still don't think she shouldn't have talked about him in such a detail, but he's no better.

I don't know why my comments are being too harsh, I didn't say she is some kind of very bad person and would never be a better person, and I never say she is not a loving mom.

The thing is, she doesn't seem to take much accountability for what had happened. It was herself who told Ben that, she saw the red flags with the ex, yet, she had 2 babies with him? And sure, it's better to have a divorce than with the wrong person any longer. And it's easy to claim victim after a divorce, but I think she was not forced to marry him and had his babies, especially after she saw those red flags. That is immature and irresponsible, IMO.

And I think, she doesn't seem to think things through before making decisions.

Fingersandtoes wrote:You never know what life throws at you, or how people will start to mistreat you, so I do commend and praise her for getting divorced if she wasn't being treated right and the marriage was dysfunctional. His IG post of her phone calls makes it seem like he made her feel guilty over the smallest things, which is not good. And he did not deny the cheating claims, did he? Or texting other women and caring about partying and other stuff than taking care of his children? 

I still don't think she shouldn't have talked about him in such a detail, but he's no better.

I don't think we should compare who is better or worse, and I think Amanda should be responsible for what had happened too. It always takes two to tango.

It's just easy to see the red flags all together AFTER getting out of the situation. These 'incidents' are usually small at the time they happen, and her ex could've easily explained them away at the time. One party here and there, a few belittling comments, a few weird texts can easily be overlooked at the time, but then he did something that was IT for her. And after getting out of the dysfunctional situation she can see things more objectively and all the little things and belittling add up and she's able to see how badly she was actually treated. It happens more often we realise. And on Amanda's part can be easily explained by her in built 'respect for marriage', maybe non confrontational personality, young age and naivety.

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I'm sure there is enough blame to go around, but she can't blame him for going on this show. That is all on her and that alone makes me question her judgement.

I just want Amanda off my TV.

It's this very nonsense between single mothers/ex and the single mother whining on about their private lives (I don't care if producer driven, they choose to go on this show) that I can't stand to watch. It's so cliched and overplayed not to mention just boring.

I can't wait for her to go home and have zero interest in watching her HTD. It just feels exploitative for her to use her situation and kids to drum up sympathy and it does nothing to show me any relationship between the lead and her.

As much as I think Olivia was over the top, IA with her... Amanda's narrative is pretty much an episode of Teen Mom with her putting her ex on blast. I don't care if he is the worst thing ever... keep your private stuff private and don't become producer fodder for the single mom syndrome. It's a tired and worn out story-line.

Yeah I still can't wrap my head around why she will want to go on this show 3 months after a divorce leaving her young kids behind. You will think she will want to take time out to focus on her kids and do some self introspection on why her marriage failed. Sure she blames it all on the ex but it can never be one sided, she needs to own up to her part or contribution to her failed marriage.

Yesterday I've read an article with "the girl in a onesie", she stated that she applied one year before filming. so Amanda and her ex must have been separated for quite some time then - if not then it's really weird.   

My opinion is that in general, single parents no matter how great they are or aren't, should stay out of these kind of tv shows. I think that there are really slim chances that somebody will propose to you without getting to know your kids really well, and one home town visit will definitely not solve it. It would be irresponsible and unfair for both sides.

Clearly many don't share the same opinion as there seem to be at least one single parent each season