Amanda Stanton - Bachelor 20 - *Sleuthing - Spoilers*

Rolly wrote:I wonder if Amanda will get negative feedback  about deciding to go on the show when she has two small kids?

This is what I wonder too. I personally really dislike single parents going on the show and especially hate how all the other cast members and the lead are supposed to treat them like a saint. For me, it's worse with Amanda since her child is so young. She submitted her application when her baby was barely 1 - that's just really hard for me to get over and it just looks like she prioritized fame over motherhood. However, I think that the general viewing public just believes whatever the edit tells them to believe. The only time a single mother really got criticism was Michelle at the WTA, but I don't see seemingly sweet and shy Amanda getting a Michelle edit. I really hope she doesn't do BIP or the Bachelorette, but I get a feeling she will. JMO.

I think she'll get off easier than say Juelia just because she's so attractive. If she's a nice person too, then I'm sure most will give her a pass. I'm not a fan of any single parents on the show let alone ones with such young children, so the sooner she goes the better IMO.

This probably bothers me the most this season. They began filming on the 24th of Sept. She was sequestered 1-3 days before that. Filming of HTD wax yesterday Oct 28. Even if she face times with them every single day. It is just too long for two very young children of 1 1/2 and 3! How do you even come to a decision process that this is an ok thing for a mother to do?! Jmo
 

rhondam wrote:This probably bothers me the most this season. They began filming on the 24th of Sept. She was sequestered 1-3 days before that. Filming of HTD wax yesterday Oct 28. Even if she face times with them every single day. It is just too long for two very young children of 1 1/2 and 3! How do you even come to a decision process that this is an ok thing for a mother to do?! Jmo
 

I guess to each his own is my answer. 
I FT with my grandson on the minimum of 3 times a day, probably since he was 6 mos old. He's 20 mos. He runs when he hears Mimi's(me) or Pop's voice. Yesterday when we left him, he sat at the door for 10 mins waving and looking for us. We aren't momma or daddy, but we are important in his life. (I guess) 
I don't think it will traumatize her kids. But I don't understand the rationale behind going on the show. Why would she want to leave the kids? I guess the decision to go was that important.

Yeah, seriously this is preposterous. They're babies. I immediately dislike this one. Bleh.

I don't know, is it THAT much worse than leaving school aged kids considering they probably don't even know what she's doing and will likely not remember down the line?

I think of it no differently than Jason and Emily, and I probably couldn't do it.

Kashathediva wrote:

rhondam wrote:This probably bothers me the most this season. They began filming on the 24th of Sept. She was sequestered 1-3 days before that. Filming of HTD wax yesterday Oct 28. Even if she face times with them every single day. It is just too long for two very young children of 1 1/2 and 3! How do you even come to a decision process that this is an ok thing for a mother to do?! Jmo
 

I guess to each his own is my answer. 
I FT with my grandson on the minimum of 3 times a day, probably since he was 6 mos old. He's 20 mos. He runs when he hears Mimi's(me) or Pop's voice. Yesterday when we left him, he sat at the door for 10 mins waving and looking for us. We aren't momma or daddy, but we are important in his life. (I guess) 
I don't think it will traumatize her kids. But I don't understand the rationale behind going on the show. Why would she want to leave the kids? I guess the decision to go was that important.

And the bolded would be the first indication to me as the lead (and anyone who knows her or doesn't know her including her parents) that she is SELFISH. In my 40+ years, I have never heard of that particular quality on the list of any man looking for the one—the one they want as their partner for life, the one they want as the mother of their children. Jmoaa. 

Can ABC just please take this decision out of these young adults hands and say, Due to the length of time away during filming, applications will not be accepted from parents of children under the age of 16. ?? It reflects badly on the network, the show, the lead and the parent IMO.

I hate to be judgmental without knowing anything about her. However, it's not good parenting to leave such young kids at home for such a long period, IMO. I understand some people have no choice due to job requirement, but to go on TV to find love? I just don't agree and don't understand what she's thinking!

bleuberry wrote:I don't know, is it THAT much worse than leaving school aged kids considering they probably don't even know what she's doing and will likely not remember down the line?

I think of it no differently than Jason and Emily, and I probably couldn't do it.

I don't have kids, but it's talked about a lot that the first 3 years are crucial to a child's development and not something that should be messed with. Surely a one-year-old's mom disappearing for more than a month will have some effect. One can only hope it won't be a lasting one.

The network would be a hippocrite because they had 2 leads and both successful seasons where they were not just the lead but also went to the final episode on their respective contestant seasons. Both with kids below 10.

There is no turning back now. IMO.

nd4reality wrote:The network would be a hippocrite because they had 2 leads and both successful seasons where they were not just the lead but also went to the final episode on their respective contestant seasons. Both with kids below 10.

There is no turning back now. IMO.

That sentence was really just my wishful thinking that they could somehow take a moral stance and change their direction in the future and take responsibility that some of these young adults are not making good choices by leaving their children (whether it be in the hands of great care or not). Putting the drama aside for the sake of ratings where children are concerned I s what I would like to see. Jmo

Who would take a moral stance? The show?
The same show that put a boom outside closed doors of another leader and TOG? The same show who's creator and exec producer is cousins with Heidi Fleiss? 
This show hopes cast make poor choices, they bank on it.  JMOAA